小叻

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:56 發表


Not neccessary a young woman gei...

I know a friend's mom ... hook up with a married man.
She moved to Toronoto to live with "his wife" and "his familiy"....
and "the wife" just keep silent.... .
...

most of my frd's dads are very good.. very responsible..and kind.. that's always make me feel so bad and think why i dun have a dad like that.....

B仔

小叻，
我祝你好。。。我燉你慘。好彩你係女，識為亞媽諗。除左唔好比你老豆逍遙法外，最重要係睇主你媽媽。你唔撐佢，冇人可以。你好大壓力都好，都要挨落去呀。我支持你！

小叻

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:57 發表
That's why woman should remain financial independent and also has her own career.  Not just a normal career but a succesful one.

Imagine one day, your husband leave you and debt.  If you make enough ...

Agree.. but it's kinda hard to maintain career while having children... or we should say 女人要戴眼識人

小叻

原帖由 B仔 於 12-2-2009 12:08 發表
小叻，
我祝你好。。。我燉你慘。好彩你係女，識為亞媽諗。除左唔好比你老豆逍遙法外，最重要係睇主你媽媽。你唔撐佢，冇人可以。你好大壓力都好，都要挨落去呀。我支持你！ ...

我地實撐住媽咪﹐但係依家壓力來源是要同老豆見招拆招。條友好無賴﹐好賤﹐但又係D朋友面前扮可憐﹗D朋友覺得佢係中年危機﹐叫佢睇心理醫生﹗ 佢邊鬼度有病? 邊鬼度有精神病? 有病既short得甘精? 乜都plan好晒?

Nam

原帖由 小叻 於 2009-2-12 13:08 發表


Agree.. but it's kinda hard to maintain career while having children... or we should say 女人要戴眼識人

gum there is day care and our own parents ga ma.
It's hard and need other half to support us too.

B仔

原帖由 小叻 於 2009-2-12 13:16 發表


我地實撐住媽咪﹐但係依家壓力來源是要同老豆見招拆招。條友好無賴﹐好賤﹐但又係D朋友面前扮可憐﹗D朋友覺得佢係中年危機﹐叫佢睇心理醫生﹗ 佢邊鬼度有病? 邊鬼度有精神病? 有病既short得甘精? 乜都plan好晒? ...

唯有見步行啦～ 最緊要係你地個腦要轉得快呀！
唔好比媽媽做傻事。我覺得，你快搵政府部門求助，加拿大都好保護有需要嘅女人同兒童架。費用又可能少D呢。。。

B仔

多口問聲（妳唔答唔緊要）
知唔知點解你老豆無啦啦塑左？係咪第三者？

小叻

原帖由 B仔 於 12-2-2009 12:33 發表
多口問聲（妳唔答唔緊要）
知唔知點解你老豆無啦啦塑左？係咪第三者？

唔知~ 我老豆話要番HK話左大半年~ 但我覺得係佢D損友叫佢番囉﹐因為班蛋散最近有幾個都離左婚﹗

B仔

原帖由 小叻 於 2009-2-12 13:51 發表


唔知~ 我老豆話要番HK話左大半年~ 但我覺得係佢D損友叫佢番囉﹐因為班蛋散最近有幾個都離左婚﹗

唉。
無話可說。

tofu

there is no such thing, family debt.  when a couple is separating, they only spite the assets, not debt.  be careful.

if you need legal help, you can either call the help line of the legal society, which they can give you simple advise by phone or refer you to a lawyer.  or you can make an appointment to see an ubc student lawyer.  can't member the name of the org, but you should able to search online.   

if he is collecting welfare, there is not much you can do.  if he moves to another country, your mum can trace him and ask him to pay for the predetermined child support pmnt.   the best case i knew is the guy moved back to europe and his wife can has the support pmnt directly deducted from his payroll.  so he doesn't has a chance to touch the money before it is sent to her.  not sure does it work in hk

if they have a house, make sure he cannot get a 2nd mortgage on it.  some of the private companies approved 2nd mortgage with one signature even though both husband and wife are on title.  of course much higher interest rate and smaller amount.