[轉貼 ]女人妳不說--男人不會懂！！！

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朋友小宮跟我抱怨，說他真是受夠他女朋友了，有一次出門逛街，上一秒鍾還好好的，突然之間，氣氛大變，女朋友轉頭神秘的"看"了他一眼。

小宮隨即回問他說："怎麼啦？看到喜歡的東西了嗎？"

沒想到，小宮的女朋友這時候對他睜大雙眼，擺出無辜眼神說，"你知道的嘛！"小宮慌了，心想，"我又不是妳肚子里的蛔蟲，怎麼會知道妳說的‘知道'是什麼？"但小宮一向疼女友，只用更無辜的眼神，看著女朋友說："我不知道妳說的‘知道'是什麼？"

"如果你愛我，就應該會知道！"小宮的女朋友突然變臉，生氣的嘟嘴說到。結果，小宮傻傻的站在百貨公司門口，看著女朋友蹬著高跟鞋，頭也不回的走掉。

小宮跟我抱怨說，"為什麼女人都愛玩這套‘不需開口說清楚的默契'？非得用眼神交流就知道她心里的想法，而不能用嘴巴說清楚，才叫做愛？難道我對她還不夠好嗎？"

敏銳直覺 男人真的沒有啦

"不需開口說"你就能懂的默契，是女人充沛的直覺加上敏銳的觀察感受力所練就的獨特功夫。女人可以在一個人出現在她眼前的一瞬間，隨即看穿他的心事，從和男朋友吵架，到家里的小貓生病、工作被主管盯、MC來等等，全都可以一眼看穿。

然而，女人卻不加思索的認為，男人也和她們擁有同樣的功力，能夠一眼看穿所有的事情。但其實，男人和女人根本是來自兩個不同星球的生物（男人來自火星，女人來自金星），男人的腦袋構造比女人簡單一千倍以上，根本無法看穿表象之下的複雜意涵。甚至暗示性的語言都聽不懂了，更何況是眼神交流不需言語的默契，所以男人才被叫作呆頭鵝啊！

眼神暗示 男人真的不懂啦

和女人相較之下，男人簡直是單細胞生物，根本無法解讀人際互動中複雜的姿勢、聲調、眼神等之組合背后的複雜意涵（除了情場高手／花花公子之外），男人看到什麼，就是什麼，無法發現眼神背后的暗示，如果女人不願明講的話。

但看不懂暗示或眼神，不代表男人不愛自己的女人（就像小宮其實非常愛他女朋友），就只是單純沒有能力解讀這組訊息而已。

複雜溝通 男人真的不會啦

除非妳願意明講，否則男人猜不出來妳究竟為什麼不開心，又為甚麼生氣，更不知道自己哪里惹到妳。

如果真得逼男人猜，那麼就多點提示、多點耐心，男人真的不是故意看不懂妳的眼神背后的暗示，男人只是很單純的視覺性動物，看到什麼就認為是什麼了，平常腦袋里是不想太複雜的事情的。

心里想什麼 拜托妳直說啦

女人們，拜托別再迷戀那套不需開口說的溝通默契了。妳們女人之間的溝通或許很管用，但對男人來說，卻是折磨。

男人喜歡直來直往，如果願意直接說清楚妳究竟在想什麼，而不玩那套"你愛我，就不需我開口說"的溝通默契，男人絕對會更愛妳，而且感謝妳的。

Alcoholic

除非妳願意明講，否則男人猜不出來妳究竟為什麼不開心，又為甚麼生氣，更不知道自己哪里惹到妳。

講都徙氣~
男人大部份都唔係有心聽妳講野。佢有自己既諗法，就係個套架喇~ 妳講完，佢地都冇心"jon"載~ men are too self-centered. (i've learned to giveup the "hinting" method years ago) sometimes they don't even know that you told them something specifically, or that you already directly answered their questions.  they always want/try to understand, but their minds involuntarily puts themselves in priority.

CWong

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 16/12/2007 16:09 發表

講都徙氣~
男人大部份都唔係有心聽妳講野。佢有自己既諗法，就係個套架喇~ 妳講完，佢地都冇心"jon"載~ men are too self-cent ... (i've learned to giveup the "hinting" method years ago) sometimes they don't even know that you told them something specifically, or that you already directly answered their questions.  they always want/try to understand, but their minds involuntarily puts themselves in priority.

咁可能係佢个心想緊另一條女！

[ 本帖最後由 CWong 於 2007-12-17 02:21 編輯 ]

chunsh

講都徙氣~
男人大部份都唔係有心聽妳講野。佢有自己既諗法，就係個套架喇~ 妳講完，佢地都冇心"jon"載~ men are too self-centered. (i've learned to giveup the "hinting" method years ago) sometimes they don't even know that you told them something specifically, or that you already directly answered their questions.  they always want/try to understand, but their minds involuntarily puts themselves in priority.

hhaha, "講都徙氣"? yeah, men are straight mind, but if u just keep thinking you, the lady, are absolutely correct and just blame the men for everything, then good luck to your relationship.

and, who doesnt put him/herself in priority in this planet?

[ 本帖最後由 chunsh 於 2007-12-17 02:34 編輯 ]

Alcoholic

haha...
then don't tell girls that you "love" them when you cannot sacrafice yourself for your other half guys... don't tell us stuff like (for ex) that "working hard" is for "our/family's future" when it's for yourself to retire in "your future"....etc etc~ i guess for some guys... gfs/wives are just for survival - passing down your genes~

CWong,
maybe... i'm the one that's thinking of another guy that's why i don't acknowledge his effort in trying to understand? actually i think some guys try hard, but they just don't learn from their mistakes, even if you tell them in-their-face the answer/solution to how to avoid the misunderstandings.

chunsh

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2007-12-17 10:23 發表 haha...
then don't tell girls that you "love" them when you cannot sacrafice yourself for your other half guys... don't tell us stuff like (for ex) that "working hard" is for "our/family's future" when it's for yourself to retire in "your future"....etc etc~ i guess for some guys... gfs/wives are just for survival - passing down your genes~

are u giving comment about my post?
sorry I dun quite get what u are trying to say

by the way, if not working hard, and if the parents of the couple are not rich, where is the $$ come from to support the family (e.g. $$ for marry party, new apartment, insurance, etc....)??

SAZABI

by the way, if not working hard, and if the parents of the couple are not rich, where is the $$ come from to support the family (e.g. $$ for marry party, new apartment, insurance, etc....)??

huh?? come on man... whenever you ask such question, they always reply "We don't need a lot of money to be happy."
That's why even 女人說, 男人不會懂...