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作者: B仔 時間: 2009-10-9 12:28 標題: 中國人婚姻習俗的重要

本帖最後由 B仔於 2009-10-9 13:42 編輯

如果你要結婚（無論擺酒係中式或西式都好），你對傳統嘅中國習俗（過大禮etc）感覺如何？

冇耐之前，當我上某興趣班的時候，同老師及師姐傾開計。。。話結婚，當然要重視過大禮／龍鳳厄等中國習俗啦～
反而，那師姐（做得我亞婆的年齡）話，佢嫁女的時候，冇乜點做，而佢親家亦冇做過大禮，好求其簡單比利是就算。
老師又話，佢當年自己嫁嗰時，佢家婆都係草草了事。
我話："嘩～點得架？呢D係我地中國人傳統，好重要架喎！應該能力範圍做得幾多得幾多～你知啦，已經好多野開始失傳。。。"

師姐＆老師話，咁麻煩，求其"係咁ee"，做少加利是就算。
真奇怪，反而我呢D後生嘅，睇得比交重要～

諗番起，我有朋友同我一樣諗法。講真，過大禮D禮餅有幾難？去美心／奇華，人地幫你整好哂。點解只去餅店求其買12個餅就算？
亦聽過有例子斟茶時，連龍鳳厄／金器都冇，拿SWAROVSKI嚟代替。我覺得唔係之後你會唔會戴／價錢嘅問題。只係，我個人覺得，不是那麼好囉。
講真，你試吓唔斟茶比你自己父母／IN LAWS，心諗嫁咗就係一家人，你睇吓D長輩肯唔肯放過你？

作者: myversa 時間: 2009-10-9 12:37

重要，盡能力做，係傳統

作者: fibbi 時間: 2009-10-9 12:48

Wedding is troublesome in the first place...then why get married? The process is stressful but also memoriable.

Once in a life time experience (at least most ppl would aim for that way).

I voted 重要，盡能力做，係傳統.

作者: myversa 時間: 2009-10-9 12:52

ya, it's once a lifetime and I wish I could have done better....

作者: tsumorichisato 時間: 2009-10-9 13:56

當你有5千8百樣結婚野做既時候, 就會想skip 0甘D架, 講真, 過大禮果D通常都新娘家話事, 有D野我阿媽要黎都唔知點用果D未用利是代替囉, 有D習俗我覺得唔多common又麻煩, 的確我有skip, 能力做到會做, 但我唔跟足..

每家人既priority 都唔同既, 我覺得總之對couple 同對方親家覺得舒服唔失禮, 尊重大家就ok. 假如你要同邊個邊個三姑個仔, 四嬸個結婚比較, 0甘就大件事啦...

其實我最想講, 傳統 = 每家人果套都唔同, 絕對因人而異

作者: Catpiano 時間: 2009-10-9 14:36

I wonder how many people still follow "MOST" of those traditional??

I think most people still do the "TEA" section. (give tea to parents) but most parents dont like it .. my wife and I didn't give "TEA" to my parents .. they refused .. so we only did that to my wife's parents and her grand mom.

Some people are still old school, I remember my ex gf's sister, when she got married, TONS of weird stuffs needed to be done ... something like coconut on bed .. find a good life woman to comb hair .... etc ... But it was like 13 yr ago, I dont think people still do that anymore la.

May be still some people follow those 婚姻習俗 in Hong Kong or Taiwan ?

I can accept those traditional dress on bride .. but not on groom la..

作者: myversa 時間: 2009-10-9 14:45

I had two weddings, one in Malaysia and another one in Taiwan. The one I had in Taiwan was pretty simple. I just had a wedding banquet. My wife and I walked in to the room and in the middle of the banquet, we went to each table to do the "thank wine". Before the banquet ended, we had to stand in the exist to thank each of them for coming. The banquet was mainly for my parent's family and friends because I did not have many friends in Taiwan.

For the wedding in Malaysia, I followed some of the Malaysian Chinese traditions.

作者: Catpiano 時間: 2009-10-9 15:28

What malay chinese tradional ar??

As I told u .. my wife is from malay .. but we didn't do any malay traditional stuff wor ..

作者: ACooperFan 時間: 2009-10-9 17:55

當你有5千8百樣結婚野做既時候, 就會想skip 0甘D架, 講真, 過大禮果D通常都新娘家話事, 有D野我阿媽要黎都唔知點用果D未用利是代替囉, 有D習俗我覺得唔多common又麻煩, 的確我有skip, 能力做到會做, 但我唔跟足..

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tsumorichisato 發表於 2009-10-9 14:56

agreed

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-10-9 20:09

I don't think I will follow Chinese tradition 100% la... because me and my bf gonna paid down payment + wedding on our own without using both side parents $... so we cannot afford to hold a so called complete wedding lor..

作者: tofu 時間: 2009-10-9 21:00

i think it is depend on what is your defination of "tradition". when my friend got married, her to-be-mother-in-law requested a 銅盆 and some other strange things. the to-be-mother-in-law said she prepared all these items, when she got married, which is over 30years ago. my friend couldn't find any in hk and finally needs to order them from somewhere else. i don't think anyone will like to follow this type of tradition.
i think as long as both families are happy, just do whatever they want.

作者: tequila 時間: 2009-10-11 11:04

it really depends what the families wants on both sides... i think now many people will follow the few traditions that are the "main" ones as in giving the gold bangles, the money

作者: myversa 時間: 2009-10-21 12:55

What malay chinese tradional ar??

As I told u .. my wife is from malay .. but we didn't do any malay traditional stuff wor ..
Catpiano 發表於 2009-10-9 16:28

Give cups of tea to each of our relatives who are older than us and red bags to younger relatives. That part took us more than 1 hour already... We also need to thank the god and ask god to bless us at midnight.

Other than these, we skipped the other part of traditional stuff since I do not live in Malay and only my wife's relatives were involved.

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2009-10-21 13:59

http://zh.wikipedia.org/zh-tw/%E ... F%E5%A9%9A%E7%A6%AE

but I think the question is why you need to do it? Just to respect the tradition? Or you understand the tradition and think it is necessary?

作者: fibbi 時間: 2009-10-21 14:04

14# siumaibb

I think it's more like respect the parents, more than respect the tradition. All comes down to parents expectation.

作者: myversa 時間: 2009-10-21 15:09

Actually I do not want good tradition to be lost. I do not mind all the things that need to be prepared for the wedding since for me wedding is once a life time.

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