男人都不想結婚?

LOK

So I was talking to my buddy(CBC) yesterday.  Since he's planning to get a place with his gf, so I asked if he's planning to get marry too.  However, he said no plan for marriage...

That make me think, it usually the girls who want to get marry, and guys are just forced to do it.

To me, marry is stupid since so many ppl divorce, it just make the separation more complicated.  And some fds who married also tell me not to get marry, lol, that makes me even more want to stay single forever.  And I think the common law is good enough to protect the girl in Canada, why need to get marry if not planning to have any kids?  Share you opinion.

SAZABI

唔先結左婚, 點娶妾侍呀???

mibu

i'm sure there are a lot of guys out there that are willing to be married with the girl

but to get a divorce or not, its not as simple as that.
imo, getting married is something for a lifetime.
if you dated your gf/bf for 5 years and you decide to get married, sure its great.  but 5 years in the whole scheme of being married for 30-40 years is very little.  
therefore, since its a lifetime and life changing decision, it should be chosen very carefully

the main reason why i think guys doing like to be married is because most guys think its going to be the end of their playing days.  playing means occasionally flirting with other girls, means you can check out other hot girls, means you can spend time with your pig/dog friends

all in all, having a gf is a very troublesome thing....and if you wanna dig yourselve a deeper hole to step in, you get married.

Alcoholic

no... not exactly.
me & my hubby sees many guys that get married because they felt it was "time" to do it in their life.

but honestly, if you & your friends like to date honger girls.... no one can help you ga bor....biu gor~ basically, you guys just ask for it by dating them long term!

you can still get married if you plan to not have kids. nothing wrong with that, unless you can get pass your own family, & get pass your wife's family that is. or else, you'll just end up having kids because "your obligated to" because you need to be so-call "responsible". but just because you don't have kids, doesnt mean you can't have a family of two people ga jeh

common law is fine... it's just a friggin status for better tax return jeh. me & my hubby as common-law before we got married la. makes no diffference anyways. but then, we're in love enough that we wanted the status of "married" because we value marriage quite seriously & highly. we did it because we felt that we were ready, & was ready to make each other that "special someone" for the rest of our lives.

besides, the people you hang around with (from what you tell me Biu Gor), they're so whipped for god's sake! like after even having a stable girl friend, you guys need a frigging permit in order to do the things you guys like! so it's no wonder why your friends tell you not to get married lah. settling & behaving is good. but doesn't mean you're kicked into the dog house....& don't have personal space to do things you like lor. respect each other's hobbies mah~ aiiii

myversa

I got married because I feel my wife is the one for me.  I do not find getting married is a big hole.  I want to be with her and grow old with her.  I envy the life of my grandparents.  Both of them live in Vancouver and they take care of each other.  They have daily routine life but they just enjoy their life.  That's the life I wish for.  Having someone doing thing together with me when we are old.  When I think thing this way instead worrying about divorcing and stuff, I just get married naturally.

shutterbug

IMPOV, Marriage is a promise to love and stay with your other half in all circumstances, and if someone is incapable of keeping a promise then I don't think they should get married at all because it's pointless for them.  This also lead to the issue of finding the right partner.  If you believe that you can only marry once in your lifetime then you'll automatically be very careful in choosing for your partner.  A lot of times it requires rational thinking and weighting the pros and cons...so love cannot be very "blind".

[ 本帖最後由 shutterbug 於 2008-1-14 16:44 編輯 ]

yungfourfour

exactly.
If s/he thinks s/he's  not ready to commit for life, 有自知之明 ho d, don't sign that thing lor. Stay common law. It's better than divorce in the end.

mcjohnjohn

錯! 小弟等結婚既日子等到頸都長埋~

皇家邪警

Getting marry is a big decision for guys...and of course for girls too ...but...men will have to share everything with the wife and there will not be any privacy for him/her anymore. I do think living together is better than marriage since marriage is just a plan piece of paper. I would like to get marry when i want to get marry not because of my age, what if i never can find " THE ONE" in my life but still i will like someone to be with me as a companion" couple" I think i the old days marriage is just a way to let u have kids and show your parents that u can have ur own family. But now days.....since we don't have the idea of NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE i do not think marriage is as important as before. Traditional people will think marriage is the "legal" way to have children with your wife but now days, can u find a virgin around you? The moralitiy has changed and i think many men have changed their postion on marriage too. Just my 2 cent!