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作者: shutterbug 時間: 2008-1-20 12:03 標題: 父母永遠只有一個

父母永遠只有一個

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>    媳婦說：
> 「煮淡一點妳就嫌沒有味道，現在煮鹹一點妳卻說咽不下，
> 妳究竟怎麼樣？」
> 母親一見兒子回來，二話不說便把飯菜往咀裡送。
> 她怒瞪他一眼。
> 他試了一口，馬上吐出來，
> 兒子說：「我不是說過了嗎，媽有病不能吃太鹹！」
> 「那好！媽是你的，以後由你來煮！」
> 媳婦怒氣沖沖地回房。
>
> 兒子無奈地輕嘆一聲，然後對母親說：
> 「媽，別吃了，我去煮個麵給妳。」
> 「仔，你是不是有話想跟媽說，是就說好了，別憋在心裡！
> 「媽，公司下個月升我職，我會很忙，
> 至於老婆，她說很想出來工作，所以 ....」
> 母親馬上意識到兒子的意思：
> 「仔，不要送媽去老人院。」
> 聲音似乎在哀求。
> 兒子沉默片刻，他是在尋找更好的理由。
>
> 「媽，其實老人院並沒有甚麼不好，
> 妳知道老婆一但工作，
> 一定沒有時間好好服侍妳。
> 老人院有吃有住有人服侍照顧，不是比在家裡好得多嗎？」
> 「可是，阿財叔他....」
>
> 洗了澡，草草吃了一碗速食麵，兒子便到書房去。
> 他茫然地佇立於窗前，有些猶豫不決。
> 母親年輕便守寡，含辛茹苦將他撫養成人，供他出國讀書。
> 但她從不用年輕時的犧牲當作要脅他孝順的籌碼，
> 反而是妻子以婚姻要脅他！
> 真的要讓母親住老人院嗎？
> 仔問自己，他有些不忍。
>
> 「可以陪你下半世的人是你老婆，難道是你媽嗎？」
>
> 阿財叔的兒子總是這樣提醒他
> 「你媽都這麼老了，好命的話可以活多幾年，
> 為何不趁這幾年好好孝順她呢？
> 樹欲靜而風不息，子欲養而親不在啊！」
> 親戚總是這樣勸他。
> 兒子不敢再想下去，深怕自己真的會改變初衷。
>
> 夕晚，太陽收斂起灼熱的金光，躲在山後憩息。
> 一間建在郊外山崗的一座貴族老人院。
>
> 是的，錢用得越多，兒子才心安理得。
> 當兒子領著母親步入大廳時，
> 嶄新的電視機，42吋的螢幕正播放著一部喜劇，
> 但觀眾一點笑聲也沒有。
>
> 幾個衣著一樣，髮型一樣的老嫗歪歪斜斜地坐在發沙上，
> 神情呆滯而有一個老人在自言自語，
> 有個正緩緩彎下腰，想去撿掉在地上的一塊餅乾吃。
>
> 兒子知道母親喜歡光亮，
> 所以為她選了一間陽光充足的房間。
> 從窗口望出去，樹蔭下，一片芳草如茵。
> 幾名護士推著坐在輪椅的老者在夕陽下散步，
> 四周悄然寂靜得令人心酸。
> 縱是夕陽無限好，畢竟已到了黃昏，他心中低低嘆息。
>
> 「媽，我........我要走了！」
> 母親只能點頭。
> 他走時，母親頻頻揮手，
> 她張著沒有牙的嘴，
> 蒼白乾燥的咀唇在囁嚅著，一副欲語還休的樣子。
> 兒子這才注意到母親銀灰色的頭髮，
> 深陷的眼窩以及打著細紋臉。
> 母親，真的老了！
>
> 他霍然記起一則兒時舊事。
> 那年他才6歲，母親有事回鄉，不便攜他同行，
> 於是把他寄住在阿財叔家幾天。
> 母親臨走時，
> 他驚恐地抱著母親的腿傷心大聲號哭道：
> 「媽媽不要丟下我！媽媽不要走！」
>
> 最後母親沒有丟下他。
> 他連忙離開房間，順手把門關上，不敢回頭，
> 深恐那記憶像鬼魅似地追纏而來。
>
> 他回到家，
> 妻子與岳母正瘋狂的把母親房裡的一切扔個不亦樂乎。
> 身高3呎的獎杯──
> 那是他小學作文比賽「我的母親」第1名的勝利品！
> 華英字典──
> 那是母親整個月省吃省用所買給他的第一份生日禮物！
> 還有母親臨睡前要擦的風濕油，
> 沒有為她擦，帶去老人院又有甚麼意義呢？
>
> 「夠了，別再扔了！」兒子怒吼道。
> ﹝這麼多垃圾，不把它扔掉，怎麼放得下我的東西﹞。
> 岳母沒好氣地說。
>
> 「就是嘛！你趕快把你媽那張爛床給抬出去，
> 我明天要為我媽添張新的！」
>
> 一堆童年的照片展現在兒子眼前，
> 那是母親帶他到動物園和遊樂園拍的照片。
>
> 「它們是我媽的財產，一樣也不能丟！」
>
> 「你這算甚態度？對我媽這麼大聲，我要你向我媽道歉！」
>
> 「我娶妳就要愛妳的母親，
> 為甚麼妳嫁給我就不能愛我的母親？」
>
> 雨後的黑夜分外冷寂，街道蕭瑟，行人車輛格外稀少。
> 一輛寶馬在路上飛馳，頻頻闖紅燈，陷黃格，
> 呼一聲又飛馳而過。
> 那輛轎車一路奔往山崗上的那間老人院，
> 停車直奔上樓，推開母親臥房的門。
> 他幽靈似地站著，母親正撫摸著風濕痛的雙腿低泣。
> 她見到兒子手中正拿著那瓶風濕油，
> 顯然感到安慰的說：
> 「媽忘了帶，幸好你拿來！」
> 他走到母親身邊，跪了下來。
>
> 「很晚了，媽自己擦可以了，你明天還要上班，回去吧！」
>
> 他囁嚅片刻，終於忍不住啜泣道：
> 「媽，對不起，請原諒我！我們回家去吧！」
>
> ～～後語～～
>
> 隨著自己愈長大，
> 看著父母親臉龐從年輕變憔悴，
> 頭髮從烏絲變白髮,動作從迅捷變緩慢，多心疼！
>
> 父母親總是將最好、最寶貴的留給我們，
> 像蠟燭不停的燃燒自己，照亮孩子！
> 而我呢？
> 有沒有騰出一個空間給我的父母，
> 或者只是在當我需要停泊岸時，
> 才會想起他們……
> 其實父母親要的真的不多，
> 只是一句隨意的問候：爸、媽，你們今天好嗎？」
> 隨意買的宵夜，煮一頓再普通不過的晚餐，
> 睡前幫他們蓋蓋被子，
> 天冷幫他們添衣服、戴手套……
> 都能讓他們高興溫馨很久。
>
> 有時，我常在想：我希望我的子女以後如何對我。
> 那現在，我有沒有如此對待我的父母？
> 我相信，人是環環相扣的；
> 現在，你如何對待你的父母；
> 以後，你的子女就如何待你。
>
> 朋友，人世間最難報的就是父母恩，
> 願我們都能：以反哺之心奉敬父母，以恩之心孝順父母！
>
> ～共勉之～
>
> 生命不要求我們成為最好的，只要求我們作最大的努力！
> 老人安養院牆上發現的一篇文章
> 孩子！當你還很小的時候，
> 我花了很多時間，教你慢慢用湯匙、用筷子吃東西。
> 教你繫鞋帶、扣扣子、溜滑梯、教你穿衣服、梳頭髮、擰鼻涕。
> 這些和你在一起的點點滴滴，是多麼的令我懷念不已。
> 所以，當我想不起來，接不上話時，
> 請給我一點時間，等我一下，
> 讓我再想一想……極可能最後連要說什麼，我也一併忘記。
> 孩子！
> 你忘記我們練習了好幾百回，
> 才學會的第一首娃娃歌嗎？
> 是否還記得每天總要我絞盡腦汁，
> 去回答不知道你從哪裡冒出來的嗎？
> 所以，當我重覆又重覆說著老掉牙的故事，
> 哼著我孩提時代的兒歌時，體諒我。
> 讓我繼續沉醉在這些回憶中吧！
> 切望你，也能陪著我閒話家常吧！
> 孩子，現在我常忘了扣扣子、繫鞋帶。
> 吃飯時，會弄髒衣服，梳頭髮時手還會不停的抖，
> 不要催促我，要對我多一點耐心和溫柔，
> 只要有你在一起，就會有很多的溫暖湧上心頭。
> 孩子！如今，我的腳站也站不穩，走也走不動。
> 所以，請你緊緊的握著我的手，陪著我，慢慢的。
> 就像當年一樣，我帶著你一步一步地走。
> 若為人子女也不懂得如何體諒他們，
> 那他們便只能於痛苦中渡過餘生，黑暗中逝去....

作者: pigheadbone 時間: 2008-1-20 12:47

我非常唔同意送去老人院等於遺棄o既睇法.
老人院可以比到老人家需要o既設備, 同一班同年紀o既公公婆婆玩應該當係一件開心事. 當然,作為子女應定時去探父母.

正如無日會覺得細路翻幼稚園係因為被父母遺棄吧

作者: celeron_266 時間: 2008-1-20 13:31

thats what you think...but the parents may think in another way..

作者: Littleprince 時間: 2008-1-20 14:47

如果我又老又病﹐我就情願住老人院﹐起碼有專人照顧﹐好過比屋企人忽略或者成為他們的負擔。。。

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-1-20 15:27

原帖由 Littleprince 於 2008-1-20 02:47 PM 發表
如果我又老又病﹐我就情願住老人院﹐起碼有專人照顧﹐好過比屋企人忽略或者成為他們的負擔。。。

agree~
if you want the best for your children, & don't want them to sacrafice their jobs/energy for you when you're in no condition to take care of yourself anymore, nothing wrong with going to senior's home.

actually, me & my friends already plan to go to the same senior's home together when we're 70ish to play Wii together lah!

作者: 快樂牛郎 時間: 2008-1-20 16:48

Seniors, just like adults, can enjoy their lives on their own.
I don't understand why someone has to depend on another to entertain himself.

作者: hoshi 時間: 2008-1-20 18:19

我同大家睇法一樣, 但最大問題係老人家同我地0既睇法唔同..
入老人院, 就算佢地真係明白呢個係對大家都係最好0既辦法
(甚至係冇辦法之中0既辦法), 佢地都係唔開心0既,
更何況有好多都係認為 "入老人院 = 被離棄 + 等死"
誇張少少講, 可能佢地寧願0係身邊至親0既屋企跣底跌死都好過
入老人院健康長命地被終生監禁.

作者: yayaya 時間: 2008-1-20 18:59

原帖由 快樂牛郎 於 2008-1-20 16:48 發表
Seniors, just like adults, can enjoy their lives on their own.
I don't understand why someone has to depend on another to entertain himself.

you don't understand because you haven't reached that age

作者: yayaya 時間: 2008-1-20 19:01

原帖由 hoshi 於 2008-1-20 18:19 發表
我同大家睇法一樣, 但最大問題係老人家同我地0既睇法唔同..
入老人院, 就算佢地真係明白呢個係對大家都係最好0既辦法
(甚至係冇辦法之中0既辦法), 佢地都係唔開心0既,
更何況有好多都係認為 "入老人院 = 被離棄 + 等 ...

"入老人院 = 被離棄 + 等死"
It will be true to you when you are treated like that by your children.

作者: doraemon1002 時間: 2008-1-20 19:07

父母的想法不一樣﹐他們只想每一天也可以見到子女一面﹐那怕只是一分鐘﹐跟他們說一句話。因為他們知道過一天﹐可以見到子女的日子就少一天。

住老人院係好多人照顧﹐但係呢0的唔係佢0地想要的。

作者: pigheadbone 時間: 2008-1-20 19:41

原帖由 yayaya 於 2008-1-20 19:01 發表
"入老人院 = 被離棄 + 等死"
It will be true to you when you are treated like that by your children.

Honestly, I certainly don't hope you won't think like that when you get old.

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2008-1-20 19:47

好多野係時勢迫成既.
屋企人個個都出去做野, 唁通留低一個周身病痛, 又需要高度照顧既既老人家嚮屋企咩?
照顧老人家唔係咁容易, 要幫佢地沖涼, 換片, 要餵飯, 要帶佢覆診, 如果老人家生肉瘡就要定時幫佢翻身, 擦藥膏. 如果老人家有老人痴呆就要長時間貼身服侍, 以免佢出左街盪失路.

好多好多野要做, 照顧老人家唔係咁簡單既.

作者: kisstherain 時間: 2008-1-20 21:05

My mom told me when she gets old she does not want to live in a senior's home.
I don't think a lot of seniors like to live there.
I once interviewed 2 por pors who live in a senior's home close to Chinatown. One was single all her life (no family) so she was sort of okay.
The other one furnished her room with tons of pictures of her children and grandchildren. What I think is, yes, her basic care is taken care of. She can even socialize with friends of her age if she wants. Yet she seems so lonely! I was a complete stranger to her but after the interview, she asked me if I could visit her again if I have time...
I also had a por por friend (no family) living in a senior's home in HK. Whenever I visit her and take her out for yum cha, the nurses and other gung gung por por living there will say "so happy ar, someone bring you out". My feeling is none of them wanted to stay there.

作者: yayaya 時間: 2008-1-20 22:05

原帖由 pigheadbone 於 2008-1-20 19:41 發表

Honestly, I certainly don't hope you won't think like that when you get old.

hard too tell now, who knows, maybe I don't even have a chance to get old, right?

作者: 華美子 時間: 2008-1-21 13:30

盡量有能力我都唔會送親入去老人院，尤其係佢地神意仲清醒。

係就係大班老人家係埋一齊，但當你見到周圍既老人家都係呆呆滯滯，頭dup dup或流口水時，你會好難受，就算開心都會被影響得唔開心，唔信你去老人院行下就知啦。

我對面個鄰居因為無能力照顧老伴而送左去老人院，但係老伴係老人院日日對住呢Ｄ呆滯既院友，佢日日一整左就走去問Ｄ職員我老婆黎左味呀？我鄰居日日要早上十點去老人院接佢返屋企，傍晚先送佢返去老人院。

作者: blueprint 時間: 2008-1-21 14:41

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-21 13:30 發表
盡量有能力我都唔會送親入去老人院，尤其係佢地神意仲清醒。

係就係大班老人家係埋一齊，但當你見到周圍既老人家都係呆呆滯滯，頭dup dup或流口水時，你會好難受，就算開心都會被影響得唔開心，唔信你去老人院行下就知啦。

我 ...

Yeah I agree. It's understandable that some elders are scared of going to the elderly nursing home. Although it's not like all of them there are sick, physically handicapped, incurable diseases or have any other health issues, but there are some. So while staying there, seeing all those people taking pills here and there, mumbling unknown words, and stuffs, it can be quite depressing.

I guess it really depends on how good the nursing home is. For example, some have TV in a big living room for everyone to share, some have space for everyone to have tv at his/her own room; some have exciting outreach programs and activities, some are perhaps quite boring.

作者: Ultraman 時間: 2008-1-21 15:14

I agree with 華美子, and maybe it's something young people can't understand.

Taking kids to kindergarten =/= taking kids to daycare center =/= taking seniors to senior home!
Taking kids to kindergarten is like a "must", for they should have their studying lives started earlier. But if kids who need special care, regular kindergarten won't suit them. Daycare center is for those "busy parents", for they "do not have time to take care their kids during day time", so daycare center is one of their options. But again, if their kids need special care, regular daycare won't suit them.
For senior home, they have all kinds of seniors in good health to weak or even special care is needed. And why would you send your healthy old parents to senior homes? Only because you don't want to take care of them. Right?

作者: myversa 時間: 2008-1-21 15:19

My grandpa and grandma have an apartment in downtown. They enjoy their life together very much. Their daily routine life is the same every day but they enjoy it. It's better for them to life in an odlie home.

作者: pigheadbone 時間: 2008-1-21 19:59

原帖由 Ultraman 於 2008-1-21 15:14 發表
I agree with 華美子, and maybe it's something young people can't understand.

Taking kids to kindergarten =/= taking kids to daycare center =/= taking seniors to senior home!
Taking kids to kindergar ...

I disagree. If you send your children to daycare, that means you don't want to take care of them? Maybe some parents DO think like that. Senior's home is good because
1) They have good care there
2) They get to hang out people of their age
Of course, just like choosing kingergarden, senior's home needs to be chosen carefully as well. In the early days, it might be the case that senior's homes in hong kong / china were really crappy and were for people who want to dump their parents.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-21 20:37

原帖由 Littleprince 於 2008-1-20 14:47 發表
如果我又老又病﹐我就情願住老人院﹐起碼有專人照顧﹐好過比屋企人忽略或者成為他們的負擔。。。

you will change your mind after.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-21 20:39

原帖由 doraemon1002 於 2008-1-20 19:07 發表
父母的想法不一樣﹐他們只想每一天也可以見到子女一面﹐那怕只是一分鐘﹐跟他們說一句話。因為他們知道過一天﹐可以見到子女的日子就少一天。

住老人院係好多人照顧﹐但係呢0的唔係佢0地想要的。 ...

agree with you.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-21 20:44

原帖由 pigheadbone 於 2008-1-21 19:59 發表

I disagree. If you send your children to daycare, that means you don't want to take care of them? Maybe some parents DO think like that. Senior's home is good because
1) They have good care there
...

I don`t think so.

those `GOOD` care elderly home cost you CAD6,000 per month, and it`s not worth.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-21 20:48

原帖由 mcjohnjohn 於 2008-1-20 19:47 發表
好多野係時勢迫成既.
屋企人個個都出去做野, 唁通留低一個周身病痛, 又需要高度照顧既既老人家嚮屋企咩?
照顧老人家唔係咁容易, 要幫佢地沖涼, 換片, 要餵飯, 要帶佢覆診, 如果老人家生肉瘡就要定時幫佢翻身, 擦藥膏 ...

如果你係住溫哥華, BURNABY, 佢地有 home care nurse, community health worker, 可以上門服務, 做晒你上面講既野. 咁老人家就可以留返係屋企, 好多時係free, 如果老人家係low income.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-21 20:54

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-21 13:30 發表
盡量有能力我都唔會送親入去老人院，尤其係佢地神意仲清醒。

係就係大班老人家係埋一齊，但當你見到周圍既老人家都係呆呆滯滯，頭dup dup或流口水時，你會好難受，就算開心都會被影響得唔開心，唔信你去老人院行下就知啦。

我 ...

yeah! 就算佢地有 alzheimer's disease , 一樣可以留係屋企, 放心.

作者: princessmocha 時間: 2008-1-22 15:59

I think everyone doesn't want to live in senior home when he/she gets old.
But I guess maybe sometime no choice if the young people all go to work and school.
Sometime if the seniors fall down on floor while no one at home, they can be seriously injured and not able to get up from the floor by themselves. That happened to my grandma before. My grandma lived with us for many years and never separated. Two years ago , she was very sicked and went to hospital. And she is no longer as healthy as before after that "big illness". Her health is so bad after. So she needed to live in senior's home (have nurses, care aid over there for 24 hrs).
Lucky, she met some new frds there and we visit her often and bring her out for dinner etc..

anyway just my opinion.

[ 本帖最後由 princessmocha 於 2008-1-22 16:01 編輯 ]

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2008-1-22 18:13

原帖由 echo 於 2008-1-22 12:48 發表

如果你係住溫哥華, BURNABY, 佢地有 home care nurse, community health worker, 可以上門服務, 做晒你上面講既野. 咁老人家就可以留返係屋企, 好多時係free, 如果老人家係low income. ...

乜溫哥華真係咁好架? 我呢d港燦就冇咁好福利喇.
真係好多老人家死左o係屋企幾日都冇人知架... 唉~

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-22 19:32

各位有需要可以睇下

http://www.vch.ca/home_care/

quote from fraser health caregiver handbook

Home Support

Home support services help people remain independent and
stay in their own home as long as possible. Community
Health Workers can provide personal assistance with daily
activities such as bathing, dressing or grooming. Clients
with high care needs may also be assisted with essential,
light household tasks which help maintain a safe environment,
such as cleaning the tub after a bath, meal preparation
or laundry. There may be a charge for this service, depending
upon your financial assessment.
Choice in Supports for Independent Living (CSIL) may be
an alternative for eligible home support clients. CSIL is a
self-managed model of care, for people with daily personal
care needs who want more responsibility and flexibility in
managing their home support services. Check with the case
manager, who will be able to assess for eligibility under this
program.

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2008-1-22 20:02

echo君,
小弟多口問句, 如果一個行動不便既老人家賴左屎, call 呢個service之後幾時先至有人幫佢地清潔?

作者: celeron_266 時間: 2008-1-22 20:18

原帖由 mcjohnjohn 於 2008-1-22 20:02 發表
echo君,
小弟多口問句, 如果一個行動不便既老人家賴左屎, call 呢個service之後幾時先至有人幫佢地清潔?

so you dont want to clean up the poop for someone who cleaned up your poop when you are young?

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-22 20:28

原帖由 mcjohnjohn 於 2008-1-22 20:02 發表
echo君,
小弟多口問句, 如果一個行動不便既老人家賴左屎, call 呢個service之後幾時先至有人幫佢地清潔?

應該咁講, 如果你屋企有人需要, 你首先要去有關部門, RICHMOND 就 coastal health, 如果 burnaby 就 fraser health, 佢地有 case manager 睇 client 既需要, 如果佢係柏金遜病 etc.. 佢地可能派個 worker 去你屋企跟足 8 hrs, 亦可能係早上 8:00-10:30, 12:00-14:00 16:00-18:00 20:00-20:30 etc.

如果套用你個case, 可能即刻有人幫佢. or 通常佢地會幫 client 做 training, monitor bowel routine, 加上有"片". 冇人想個 client 成日有 accident.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-22 20:31

and 我知道有d client 可以有人 24hrs 陪佢, 不過 client 屋企要有獨立房間比個 worker 休息, 詳情可以問有關部門.

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2008-1-22 21:20

原帖由 celeron_266 於 2008-1-23 12:18 發表

so you dont want to clean up the poop for someone who cleaned up your poop when you are young?

How can you come back to your home to clean up the poo for the elderly while you are working in office?

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2008-1-22 21:22

原帖由 echo 於 2008-1-23 12:31 發表
and 我知道有d client 可以有人 24hrs 陪佢, 不過 client 屋企要有獨立房間比個 worker 休息, 詳情可以問有關部門.

唉, 呢個就係溫哥華同香港既分別. o係香港, 唔係咁多人可以afford得到有一間房比一個caregiver 去照顧老人家.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-22 21:29

我都明白, 我都經歷過有屋企人係香港進出老人院, 醫院, and pass away in 醫院.

比我揀我會死係屋企(溫哥華), 如果係香港死係屋企會麻煩好多. 醫院幾乎係唯一選擇.

作者: echo 時間: 2008-1-22 21:41

原帖由 mcjohnjohn 於 2008-1-22 21:20 發表

How can you come back to your home to clean up the poo for the elderly while you are working in office?

唔駛勞氣, 睇你之前既留言, 我知道你係過來人, caregiver 壓力真係好大. 我唔知香港d 老人院現在既情況係點, 不過幾年前有親人住過公私營安老院, 如果會行會走, 仲可以, 如果行動不便 and 痴呆症就真係好慘啦.

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2008-1-22 22:30

原帖由 echo 於 2008-1-23 13:41 發表

唔駛勞氣, 睇你之前既留言, 我知道你係過來人, caregiver 壓力真係好大. 我唔知香港d 老人院現在既情況係點, 不過幾年前有親人住過公私營安老院, 如果會行會走, 仲可以, 如果行動不便 and 痴呆症就真係好慘啦. ...

唔係勞氣, 我真係想問下佢可以點做. through Internet? 哈哈~
小弟兩個grandmothers 都住緊o係同一間安老院. 安老院係教會經營, 住既環境算係唔錯, 一間四百尺左右既房有四張床位啦.
安老院有一間可以容納百幾人既教堂, 老人家都可以去望下彌撒, 又有一個大禮堂搞活動, 仲有一個花園.
老人家又可以自由出入院舍, 得閒又可以請假番屋企住幾日.
我諗呢間咁既安老院o係香港黎講都算係咁架喇.

作者: BarF1 時間: 2008-1-27 01:55

樹欲靜而風不息，子欲養而親不在 ... so true, avoid arguing with your parents, never know when they are gone.

It really depends, my great grandmother is at a home, she NEEDS the care, my grandpa is at a daycare because of AD ... both in HK, when I visit my great grandmother, the atmosphere isn't something I will let my parent endure ... I wanna get the fxxx out in 15mins, I can't imagine living there ... Its not the care, the facilities; I am sure they can be very good, but if I am physically able w.r.t my age, no way I am living in a home ...

But this is all talk, I am sure when the situation arise, the best choice isn't the most ideal, sensible or logical ...
What you want to do and what you can do doesn't always see eye to eye ...

[ 本帖最後由 BarF1 於 2008-1-27 01:59 編輯 ]

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