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作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-3-26 11:30 標題: Your parents love telling you when you were a kid...

What were some of the things that your parents like to say to you that you hate?
Just yau gum yi fat...

I hear a lot of:
BBQ pork should've been borned instead of me...
I was given birth by a rock...
So and so's kids are better than you...

作者: chunsh 時間: 2010-3-26 11:39

"There is no cure for stupidity"
"kid in 3 years old can determine what he/she will be on 80 yrs old"

作者: tofu 時間: 2010-3-26 11:43

nothing in particular, but i hate they said the same sentences over and over again for five minutes+.

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 11:47

such as: 咁多人死唔見你死

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 11:51

你個卜街實做乞兒

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-26 11:52

本帖最後由 fibbi 於 2010-3-26 11:53 編輯

This hurts the most.
"So and so's kids are better than you..."

Then years later, I talked about that to my Mom and guess what she said...she said "other kids are better..." at that time the comment is based on some thing that the other kid does... and she said that I gotta be more open minded and learn how/why the other kid behaves smarter from that case, instead of feeling left out and hurt. In other words I should learn to be smarter, and don't be "siu hay" instead. And some how...it kinda make sense... And my response is that... then how come when I tried to do the same thing that the other kid does... there is no recognition? Then she said... "it's not good for mom to praise their own kid in public"... and you should feel how Mom loves you all the time from how mom takes care of you...don't need to "say it out" all the times...

I guess if I become the parents...I would remember to praise the kid doesn't matter in public or privately...kids need that encouragement...

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 11:59

本帖最後由 habitrailspace 於 2010-3-26 12:01 編輯

你正一死廢柴

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-26 12:02

回復 3# tofu

At first I had the same feeling too...but then...just think of they probably has no one else to share their lives/jokes or whatever...

And some how...I would think once you don't hear it anymore...then u will miss it... (not u but anybody in general...)

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-3-26 12:04

that I was picked up from from a back alley that was dark and dirty.
that I was ugly.

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 12:05

你有冇用吓你個腦num嘢?

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 12:08

你個腦死實實

作者: B仔 時間: 2010-3-26 12:11

"你睇吓，[呀邊個邊個] 幾乖丫～！你學吓人啦～"

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 12:14

隔泥B仔叻過你多多聲呀

作者: raima 時間: 2010-3-26 12:22

why can't you do xxx like your sister/brother?
i picked you up by the tree next to this rock when you were a baby.

作者: its_visa 時間: 2010-3-26 12:23

有咁多野你5讀..你去讀整餅..簡直就塭苦來辛

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 12:29

你好搞唔搞, 搞大人地個肚

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 12:50

你真係害人害物

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 13:01

有本事就唔好返泥屋棋

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-26 13:23

回復 16# habitrailspace

Your parents say that to u?

作者: tofu 時間: 2010-3-26 13:30

回復 8# fibbi

oh i mean they pick on you and say the same thing over and over again. like "i told you not to go there" x40
or "when you are at age 3, you made this mistake, when you are at age 5.... when you are now, ...."

作者: tofu 時間: 2010-3-26 13:31

回復 16# habitrailspace

your mum always say that to you

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-26 13:32

回復 20# tofu

Oh I see what you mean now

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 13:49

回復 habitrailspace

Your parents say that to u?
fibbi 發表於 2010-3-26 13:23

以上所post, 係隔離B仔媽咪, 駡B仔時, 我聼到同學到架

j/k
我好good boy, cutie pie. 我媽咪錫到我窿! 我係金波law!

作者: Catpiano 時間: 2010-3-26 13:52

Um ...

Let me think ..

Oh .. yes --> " you need to study hard, be a useful person, if you are lazy, you will be poor, and useless ga la.. "

--> And they are TOTALLY correct ...

I will tell the same thing to my son, hopefully, he won't learn from me....

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 13:57

你正一陀衰家

作者: totori 時間: 2010-3-26 14:04

你當屋企係酒店

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 14:06

本帖最後由 habitrailspace 於 2010-3-26 14:08 編輯

回復 fibbi

oh i mean they pick on you and say the same thing over and over again. like "i told y ...
tofu 發表於 2010-3-26 13:30

oh i like this one
你錯咗十萬九千七次 (why is this number 19,007?)

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 14:10

你好做唔做

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-26 14:31

同你講嘢, 左耳入就右耳出

作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-3-26 15:37

本帖最後由 zuesel 於 2010-3-26 15:38 編輯

勤有功，戲無益!

My mom always say that to brain wash us that sitting still and study all day is good for you. She'd say: "if you just sit still, will you get hurt right? So you should study all the time! Playing is not good for you!"

Of course we don't listen la! How to stop a kid from playing? It's a part of their nature and learning process!

作者: playingtoy 時間: 2010-3-26 15:40

when my mom called me 阿仔

i know sth good is coming

when she called me by my first name

i know sth bad is coming

but that was long long time ago

作者: playingtoy 時間: 2010-3-26 15:45

i can tell you this
when i was a kid
i went thru some intensive training from my parents

作者: Purpleheart 時間: 2010-3-26 18:01

你當屋企係酒店
totori 發表於 2010-3-26 14:04

same here

作者: chocobun 時間: 2010-3-28 01:46

“你早D訓啦﹗ 成日夜晚唔願訓﹐日頭又唔願起身”

作者: mucc1928 時間: 2010-3-28 10:09

"born you out is really denote to world"

"you cannot feed up yourself"

"absolutely no out colour"

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-28 10:23

回復 35# mucc1928

Are your parents really that mean to you?

作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-3-28 10:58

回復 35# mucc1928

Those are really harsh words wor!

作者: mucc1928 時間: 2010-3-28 17:02

reality is harsh

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-28 17:04

回復 38# mucc1928

I will never say such words to my son,
no matter how bad he is

作者: Purpleheart 時間: 2010-3-28 17:49

"女仔食飯要斯斯文文的, 慢慢食, 食飯食太快將來嫁唔到個好老公架"

"食飯要食得乾淨, D 飯唔好跌到周圍都有, 如果唔係將來會嫁個豆皮老公架"

"過黎睇下我點煮送啦衰女, 飯都唔識煮第時邊個娶你呀?"

我阿媽可能唔係好滿意我老豆

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-3-28 18:29

"呻鼻水唔好呻得咁大力啦"
"(我媽媽打緊麻雀既時候)你同我睇下打邊一隻好d?"

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-28 19:24

回復 41# mcjohnjohn

Are u good at MaJong?

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-3-28 19:40

回復 mcjohnjohn

Are u good at MaJong?
somewhereintime 發表於 2010-3-29 11:24

我由細都到大數學都okay, 而我娘親又想到佢可以一邊娛樂, 我又一邊學習, 就諗到叫我睇佢打麻雀學數學... 我6 歲就已經識打麻雀了.
升到中學, d 豬朋狗友就會有雀局, 佢地唔知我原來牌齡咁高, 我就扮豬食老虎咁次次都贏. 不過, 我一早學識左打麻雀, 亦都一早戒左打麻雀, 我中五之後就冇正式打了, 只係有時去飲, 我娘親要去洗手間, 我先會代打一兩鋪架喇...

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-29 00:03

回復 43# mcjohnjohn

講起麻雀，我最記得細個有一次，我見到姨媽喺對家有我媽咪叫緊胡個隻牌，咁我就細細聲咁話俾媽咪聽話姨媽有嗰隻牌，攪到媽咪好尷尬咁話唔可以講啲麻雀俾人聽架。。。

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-3-29 00:10

回復 mcjohnjohn

講起麻雀，我最記得細個有一次，我見到姨媽喺對家有我媽咪叫緊胡個隻牌，咁我就細 ...
fibbi 發表於 2010-3-29 16:03

哈哈~ 咁細個就已經學人打龍通?

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-29 00:19

回復 45# mcjohnjohn

我好聽話架，見到都唔會再出聲嘅！

作者: jeje 時間: 2010-3-29 00:28

"You did it very good, but.......... could be better."

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-3-29 00:29

回復 mcjohnjohn

我好聽話架，見到都唔會再出聲嘅！
fibbi 發表於 2010-3-29 16:19

唔出聲? 咁有冇打眼色? 哈哈~~~

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-29 00:31

回復 47# jeje

Then your mom is so nice to you! My mom would have said "how come u did so poorly!"

作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-3-29 08:24

My mom was very strict ga.
Used to lock me up in a very dark room or make me stand or kneel on the group for hours! She will also beat me with chicken feather brush until I throw it out of the window...then she used coat-hangers!

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-29 08:56

My mom was very strict ga.
Used to lock me up in a very dark room or make me stand or kneel on the g ...
zuesel 發表於 2010-3-29 08:24

wow. what did u do?

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-29 09:22

回復 50# zuesel

OMG....that's just too much! Did you do something bad? But anyhow...I don't think this way of "teaching" works at all! Poor Zuesel!

作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-3-29 10:42

本帖最後由 zuesel 於 2010-3-29 10:43 編輯

When I was little (before teen), it's be stupid things like I didn't do well on my tests or fight with my brothers. To be honest, I wasn't a bad kid. As a matter of fact, in speaking with my friends, they were even more naughty. My mom was just EXTREMELY strict, that's all.

Yap, her way of teaching had a negative effect on me. As soon as I got to pre-teen, I became VERY rebellious! I even lived in a foster home-got kicked out coz I had a fist fight with the real daughter; group home (home for bad kids), had to go in and out of social services, cut school, did lots of bad things...

Anyway, all in the past la. I am actually quite thankful for my experiences. I am the type that "do see coffin, don't cry".

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-29 11:24

parenting is not easy. especially chinese 棒下出孝兒 (BY DEFAULT

). if kids dun understand they would think their parents not loving them. hence, more rebellion.

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-3-29 11:37

本帖最後由布小熊於 2010-3-29 11:55 編輯

guess it's the old style of teaching kids. I got beat up a lot too when I was a kid. My mom only use the "tung til" for beating. But we got threaten a few times by a claver. (Still remember the vivid scene of it in the hardwood floor.)
Personally, I think it did damage the relationship between parents and kids. There are other ways to discipline but when they were busy with work and tired after they got home... they didn't have the patient to explain and understand.

btw, I was too chicken to be rebellious neither...

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-3-29 11:41

I got beaten by "tung til"...because I got 92 on test instead of 100!!!! Yes I did have some careless mistakes on the calculation but does that worth beaten up? I seriously wondered.
I'm also too chicken to be rebellious...I do think "beaten" may be necessary to really bad behaviour and when kid is super "un pay" and won't listen at all after many attempts...but that should be the very last method to use.

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-29 12:05

回復 56# fibbi

Back in 60's punishment on boys are normal but very seldom on girls,
I have a younger brother and 2 sisters, and my sisters always got
away with it. Usually just scolding.

作者: mucc1928 時間: 2010-3-29 12:34

I still remembered that my dad "tung ti men ju yu"me so badly and kicked me out of the house. I was standing at the gate, thinking where could I go while i was still 10 years old. that's the first time i ever tried to think really hard with my brain at that time.

Living near 牛頭⻆,you see more gangsters than regular people...After i took the elevator down, my mom chase me at the street, pulled me up to the house and "tung ti" more.........

aiii

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-3-29 12:52

回復 fibbi

Back in 60's punishment on boys are normal but very seldom on girls,
I have a younger ...
somewhereintime 發表於 2010-3-29 12:05 PM

not true in my family. (we weren't even born in the 60's... @ @)
most of the time, we girls got punished cos my bro wasn't happy with us or we had some argument/fight with him. He was the centre of universe and so he never got into trouble.

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-29 13:03

回復 59# 布小熊

Are you like some of my female classmates:
a boy after 7 elder sisters? 7 stars embracing the moon?

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-3-29 13:19

回復布小熊

Are you like some of my female classmates:
a boy after 7 elder sisters? 7 st ...
somewhereintime 發表於 2010-3-29 01:03 PM

well 3 girls and 1 boy. but he is in the middle, not the oldest or the youngest.

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-29 13:23

本帖最後由 somewhereintime 於 2010-3-29 13:25 編輯

回復 61# 布小熊

Some of my female classmate's name is帶弟
another one is 讓開

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-3-29 15:17

回復  布小熊

Some of my  female classmate's name is帶弟
another one is  讓開
somewhereintime 發表於 2010-3-29 01:23 PM

those are sad names! believe me, it can be more subtle.

作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-3-29 15:19

I remember my Aunt used to say to her kids: "I'd rather you die than come home handicapped, tor sou ga!"

OMG! that was so mean!

作者: Rabi 時間: 2010-3-29 19:26

你好做唔做
habitrailspace 發表於 26/3/2010 02:10 PM

I hear that a lot

+ “話你又唔聽”

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-29 19:34

I hear that a lot + “話你又唔聽”
Rabi 發表於 2010-3-29 19:26

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-3-29 19:39

回復 65# Rabi

I found out from my uncle's archive collection of letters that
I never measure up to my old man in term of naughtiness

作者: Rabi 時間: 2010-3-29 19:54

回復 Rabi

I found out from my uncle's archive collection of letters that
I never measure up to my ...
somewhereintime 發表於 29/3/2010 07:39 PM

Maybe it's not our problem....they're just too harsh...

(Shhhh...don't tell my parents, ok?)

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-30 07:43

Maybe it's not our problem....they're just too harsh...
(Shhhh...don't tell my parents, ok? ...
Rabi 發表於 2010-3-29 19:54

要收陷口費

作者: Rabi 時間: 2010-3-30 17:27

要收陷口費
habitrailspace 發表於 30/3/2010 07:43 AM

好。。。我俾!

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-30 19:32

好。。。我俾!
Rabi 發表於 2010-3-30 17:27

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-31 11:37

打時唔準叫
打完重要笑

作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-3-31 14:46

信唔信斬你個頭頭落呢檔墱仔坐

作者: melodymelody81 時間: 2010-3-31 18:54

This hurts the most.
"So and so's kids are better than you..."

Then years later, I talked about tha ...
fibbi 發表於 2010-3-26 11:52

i have the same feeling lor....

作者: melodymelody81 時間: 2010-3-31 18:59

When I was little (before teen), it's be stupid things like I didn't do well on my tests or fight wi ...
zuesel 發表於 2010-3-29 10:42

wah...like in the movies wor.....

作者: zuesel 時間: 2010-4-5 10:11

回復 75# melodymelody81

yeah, i feel that my family is like chinese drama

作者: giginium 時間: 2010-4-5 19:58

你讀咩書...你讀屎篇?

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