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作者: CWong 時間: 2010-7-21 12:36 標題: 父母溺愛港童多患公主病

本帖最後由 CWong 於 2010-7-21 12:39 編輯

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中學生需家人助洗頭

【明報專訊】時下港人太重視物質生活，導致不少港童患上「公主病」、「王子病」，要人服侍和不能自理，有心理學家更接觸一個學生個案，甚至到升中學時仍不懂得自己洗頭，需要家人幫忙。她認為香港「小公主」愈來愈多，當中多歸咎於現今家長過分愛惜，令小朋友未能學習自理，凡事找人幫忙。

低自理能力EQ抗逆能力

香港健康情緒中心臨心理學家鄒凱詩表示，她沒有客觀統計，但憑其經驗估計約三成小朋友有「公主病」特徵，包括「三低」特徵，包括自理能力低、情緒商數(EQ)低及抗逆能力低。

鄒凱詩表示，曾有一名升中學生不懂得自己洗頭，每次都要父親幫忙，「若碰上父親離境工作，他寧願這段期間不洗頭」。她認為，家長若希望改善小孩的「公主病」，要先調教自己的思想，採取積極不干預政策，不能凡事幫小朋友，放手讓他們試，「適當時亦要吩咐他們做家務，讓他們從中學習，才能得以成長」。

香港持續培訓中心兒童培訓高級總監梁鍾秀惠則建議家長，嘗試不要聘請工人，讓小孩學懂獨立：「工人不會幫你訓練他們獨立，我寧願調校好時間，與另一半輪流看管小孩。」

梁太有一名4歲兒子，她表示，兒子一次向丈夫說「我好激氣，我嬲到就爆啦」，她坦言覺得小朋友用「爆」字很粗俗，但她沒有為此責罵兒子，「我反而會耐心向他解釋，這樣跟爸爸說話沒禮貌」。她認為，家長不糾正小朋友的言行，往往導致小孩愈來愈無禮。

專家籲勿請工人

她說，即使小朋友做錯事，亦不要責罵，要有耐性地跟他講道理，而家長亦要以身作則，適當處理情緒，作為小朋友的榜樣。她建議家長與小朋友一起上管理情緒課堂，學習管理自己情緒，遇有不開心就要互相分享。

今年12歲的呂安兒將升讀中一，個子小小的不像中學生，其外婆張太形容她為名副其實的「公主」：「她最喜歡在家玩公主遊戲，經常要求工人為她斟茶遞水，又不懂打領帶和綁鞋帶。」張太認為，小朋友應該學懂自己綁鞋帶，但直言「連工人也懶得綁，所以買黏貼鞋」。

作者: Arlui 時間: 2010-7-21 12:57

geez...does this only happen in HK?

作者: BiscottiGelato 時間: 2010-7-21 14:53

I don't think i could even fry an egg back when I was 10 bor LOL. Is it really a good idea to let kids as young as 10, without sufficient arm strength to handle pot/pan/wok, and without sufficient height to get a good clearance over the stove, to cook?

And I still don't know how to put on a tie without searching Google or dig out an iPhone App for that... I guess HK students tend to wear ties more?

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-7-21 15:00

I don't think it's a good idea to let a 10 yrs old kid to cook...
Washing dishes is fine though. I did that b4 10...
Put on a tie..hm..I need to put on tie for my school uniform (back in HK), but I just did it once...then other time just losen the knot ....and eventually...forgot how to do it...

作者: Purpleheart 時間: 2010-7-21 15:20

噢, 原來我地呢D八十後已經唔錯喇

不知大家有否記得......

五, 六歲自己洗澡......還要不准弄濕地下, 濕了要拖乾, 否則藤條侍候
六歲前已識得綁鞋帶.....否則會被老師和同學取笑
六歲要懂用刀叉, 否則用錯了, 手指會被叉打腫, 打到你識用為止
洗碗打爛碗, 要渣住耳仔詭低接受藤條侍候
渣住個高過自己既掃把, 一邊掃地一邊俾人鬧 " 掃地都唔識掃, 冇鬼用呀你!! "

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-7-21 15:22

I did cook when I was 10.. or early teen. For simple food like noodle or fry egg, that's not a problem.
I don't know how to put on a tie. no tie for my uniform.

(we have a fake snap on one!)
But I can do most stuff on the list when I was a kid... I do think kids are spoiled now...
esp with domastic helper so available.
Back then, our 工人 had so much power over us.... we had to do most of the work... she just cook dinner and did some cleaning. I remembered that I did help clean the windows and it was dangerous... I was holding on the frame and the "window fa" to clean both sides of the glass ...

工人 only point here and point there.

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-7-21 16:39

回復 5# Purpleheart

你夠資格做一個賢妻良母就唔。。。。。。

作者: BiscottiGelato 時間: 2010-7-21 16:48

fork and knifes... i thought 2/3 years old starts to use those plastic ones already....
6 years old should be learning how to use chopsticks ba.

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2010-7-21 16:51

渣住個高過自己既掃把, 一邊掃地一邊俾人鬧 " 掃地都唔識掃, 冇鬼用呀你!! "
Purpleheart 發表於 2010-7-21 03:20 PM

haha that's so true!

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-7-21 16:56

噢, 原來我地呢D八十後已經唔錯喇

渣住個高過自己既掃把, 一邊掃地一邊俾人鬧 " 掃地都唔識掃, 冇鬼用呀你!!
Purpleheart 發表於 2010-7-21 15:20

八十後應該用吸塵機喎

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-7-21 16:58

回復 5# Purpleheart

I guess I"m lucky...haven't been through any of those ...perhaps except the shoelace one...And my mom never asked me to 掃地.
But I do wash dishes occasionally.

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-7-21 17:40

好明顯我係冇王子病.

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-7-21 17:48

好明顯我係冇王子病.
mcjohnjohn 發表於 2010-7-21 17:40

你有太監病

作者: tofu 時間: 2010-7-21 17:48

actually that is ok wor. compare to 50's & 60's, 70's & 80's do much less already, so 90's & 00's do less work than 70's & 80's is ok work. our next generation does less work than us, good sign ar.

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-7-21 18:12

你有太監病
sheep 發表於 2010-7-22 09:48

你有狂犬症

作者: godavid 時間: 2010-7-21 19:17

john, what could you do?
how many people service you till death?

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-7-21 20:56

你有狂犬症
mcjohnjohn 發表於 2010-7-21 18:12

多謝你話俾我聽你有瘋狗症
你有病就咪周圍走去咬人
我打針就冇事你就大鑊啲

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-7-21 21:02

actually that is ok wor. compare to 50's & 60's, 70's & 80's do much less already, so 90's & 00's d ...
tofu 發表於 2010-7-21 17:48

00's and 10's will mess things up and you do the clean up

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2010-7-21 21:26

多謝你話俾我聽你有瘋狗症
你有病就咪周圍走去咬人
我打針就冇事你就大鑊啲 ...
sheep 發表於 2010-7-22 12:56

打針好丫, 不過唔好唔記得提醒D 工作人員幫係植入晶片wor.
最好就順便紮埋佢, 令呢個世界少一d 劣等生物, 造福地球.

作者: peter236 時間: 2010-7-21 23:50

The Canadian kids here do not know how to look after themselves or cook. They only watch hockey games.

作者: Ovaltine 時間: 2010-7-22 01:36

The Canadian kids here do not know how to look after themselves or cook. They only watch hockey game ...
peter236 發表於 2010-7-21 23:50

at the same time, we have more knowledge, based on our parent's emphasis on education.

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-7-22 07:52

, 不過唔好唔記得提醒D 工作人員幫係植入晶片wor.
最好就順便紮埋佢, 令呢個世界少一d 劣等生物, ...
mcjohnjohn 發表於 2010-7-21 21:26

呀我明點解你有癲狗症啦
你係聽到呢段對白嚇到周圍亂走亂咬人
個口就不斷咁重複
幫係植入晶片wor.最好就順便紮埋佢, 令呢個世界少一d 劣等生物,  ..
幫係植入晶片wor.最好就順便紮埋佢, 令呢個世界少一d 劣等生物,  ..
幫係植入晶片wor.最好就順便紮埋佢, 令呢個世界少一d 劣等生物,  ..

作者: Arlui 時間: 2010-7-22 09:49

haha hey hey...I'm almost a Canadian kid...I do a lot of stuff around the house...I even used to mow the lawn! (which I don't have to do now since I live in a townhome)...hohoho

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