Do the bridesmaids (Caucasian and Asian) actually host a bridal shower for the bride (Asian) and share the total cost of it? If so, would that count part of ‘the gift’ (aka 人情) to the bride? The Caucasian bridesmaid asked everyone else in the bridal shower that they MUST give a HUGE 人情 when they join the Asian dinner banquet. The Caucasian prepared everything for the bridal shower yet unable to provide receipts upon proof of purchase and claimed that the whole party of 10 girls costs $250! Not only that, was telling the Asian bridesmaid that it’s ONLY shared between bridesmaid, not any other girls who have invited. Yet, the other girls did ask the Caucasian girl how much they should be chipping in. What makes it worse is that the Asian bridesmaid saw other girls giving money to this Caucasian bridesmaid!作者: B仔 時間: 2010-9-20 00:16
what was on the table cannot cost anything more than $150....
fruit plate and cocktail shrimps can be from costco/safeway/M&M.作者: Rainy 時間: 2010-9-20 08:52
I think it looks like a complete scam there since the Caucasian said it was $250 worth!作者: creamy 時間: 2010-9-22 17:26
sigh, so much wedding drama, seems like brides and bridesmaids are looking to milk as much $ as they could from people around them, how sad.
The food from the picture looks like it would cost abount $150, plus cake....maybe a present for the bride as well?
I think Asian bridesmaid should ask the other one since she saw other girls handing $ to the other BM, just to "make sure" that it's still to be split between 2 BMs...作者: cremedelacreme 時間: 2010-9-22 23:37
The food in the picture, doesn't seems anything close to $250. I think it would be fair to ask her for the receipt for proof of payment, if she doesn't have it, then ask her where she order the food from, maybe she can check the price of the food through those places.作者: Rainy 時間: 2010-9-24 18:04
that bit*h and the bride said NO receipts, no way to find ALL the receipts. So..... yeah....
and here is the so called breakdown:
Game
Starbucks GC 30
Garbage Bags 2.5
Toilet Paper 3
Tape 6
$41.50
Total: $197.50作者: tofu 時間: 2010-9-24 19:32
the break down looks reasonable, but where is the rest of $50
if i were you, i would ask the girls why they gave money to the Caucasian. if you believe this is more than your budget already, skip or pay less in 人情. standard is only $50 ar.
ask for a big "open door" lai si instead?
sometimes i don't understand why some brides think her girlfriends are willing to contribe a lot.作者: Rainy 時間: 2010-9-25 00:46
no 'open door' red pockets, no red pockets for bridesmaid. bride said she follows white culture. =.= if so, shouldn't be even doing 人情. whatever, I dont' want her to 唱 me about giving less in 人情. i thought standard is $65?作者: habitrailspace 時間: 2010-9-25 16:24
once in a life time! unless it's many many...times
只不果多咗十元八塊姐!朋友感情係無價!作者: Rainy 時間: 2010-9-25 20:09 標題: An
if only 十元八塊, I wouldn't even going to care about it. The thing is..... it's not 十元八塊..... and it's not about the money part anymore. The bride actually said that it's none of her business and told me to suck it up. And, 個 bride 講到明, 我一定要俾人情, 唔可以 .... 以下補上.... 要俾多D, 因為bridesmaid 要俾多D wor.................. 0甘咪做兩次禮囉, 好似? 倸~~ 嫁兩次咩.... =.=作者: Mini 時間: 2010-9-25 23:22
if she is follow the "white culture", she should responsible for all your costs, like dress, make-up &...
if you are not willing to, you shouldn't be responsible for the cost of the party. she is the one who receive all the gifts, she should pay for the it. i never heard the bride will force the bridesmaid to pay for anything.作者: cremedelacreme 時間: 2010-9-26 23:47
First time hearing bride force bridesmaid to pay, and tell ppl "一定要俾人情, 唔可以 .... 以下補上.... 要俾多D"... all kinds of ppl out there.作者: Rainy 時間: 2010-9-27 05:10
My 1st time hearing that too. sigh.. Wedding 應該開開心心...... 但係搞到0甘.... 好咩~ ....作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-9-27 08:59
I never heard about the bride so demanding! Asking the bridesmaid for bigger gift and also the huge cost of the bridal shower party.
