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作者: et1984 時間: 2010-10-16 23:22 標題: I'm not good at dating....

Anyone can give me a hand if I somehow want to ask someone out for a movie or dinner?
I'm not a talkative person so I really don't know what to do.....I don't even know where's a good place to bring for food for the first time......

I am not talkative and I stay home mostly.........
what should I do and it's pretty hard to change my personality at this age too

作者: 嘉嘉 時間: 2010-10-16 23:30

hmmmm
do you have some sense of humor?
for myself I don't like boring guys.....

what age are u btw?
like what's it says on ur login name?

作者: et1984 時間: 2010-10-17 00:07

本帖最後由 et1984 於 2010-10-17 00:10 編輯

I don't think I have sense of humor or maybe sometimes I do but then I blank out easily when I am nervous....>.<"
also sense of humor depend on people too....you know what I mean la

and it's a long story that I think I lost my romance since I'm a pisces I should have lots of romance movement but sigh.....
I'm like useless when it comes to girls .....

my login name haha....+-2 give or take ^_^

作者: Guy 時間: 2010-10-17 00:24

Okay...
I am not sure if you actually feel comfortable to ask in the first place.
But you need self-esteem and confidence at minimum.

If you are good with that, here is the things you need to look at yourself for you date.

>When you going for dinner, you will need to make conversations. Without an exciting topic, your date can be over as soon as you leave the restaurant.
>When you going for a movie, you will not need to talk much. HOWEVER, movie will often lead to a drink or a meal afterward. But since you went to see a movie, you both have a common topic to make conversation with (So, pay attention to the movie).

as for a place for food....ask your partner ahead (assume you are the guy) and see what she doesn't like. then you can go to sites like chowtimes.com or urbanspoon **look at their reviews** to sort out the places. (note: make up your mind of where to go and bring her when she can't decide)

Bring a checklist of restaurant with you if you have to
she will appreciate you make the effort to the date.

Do not bother to change you personality...it doesn't help.. in this short period of time

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-10-17 07:37

I'm old by now, but I started dating when I was 14 so I thinkI know a thing or two about dating.
Do some homework on the restaurants and the movie
to ensure that the lady would not feel offensive.
You may even want to visit the restaurant ahead and
familiar with the menu and price, yeah, you might get to
know the Maitre D or hostess, vice versa so you may pretend
to be a frequent guest. For the movie, you may rent a DVD
and view the movie first. Sometime it would be distracting if
an attractive date sitting besides you.
Then there would be quite a bit to talk about the movie at the
dinner/drink and afterward.
And for drink, know your limit and do not embarrass yourself,
knowledge about the beverage will add your score too.
Just be prepared, relax and have a good time.

作者: vilium 時間: 2010-10-17 11:00

I am same kind of person as "et1984". The most difficult part is to find the girl who I like and she like me back too. I think being not talkative is a killer, and I am this kind of person too.

作者: 嘉嘉 時間: 2010-10-17 23:01

I think very important is know how to tum女仔 lor
do things that make girls happy

作者: DragonFire 時間: 2010-10-18 00:30

有時太刻意去做一件事，會有反效果...

唔係叫你乜都唔理就去，而係有少少準備o係手就夠喇。至於食飯，如果對方冇意見，初次約會就最好揀o的多少少人(又唔好爆場)o既餐廳，因為如果地方太靜而你o地又冇話題，佢唔講你都覺悶啦。

加油呀~

作者: Jan 時間: 2010-10-18 08:12

Maybe it'd be easier to start a conversation if you pick topics/interests that you both have in common? That should help break the ice a bit on the first date.

I also feel that being yourself is best. Try to be confident but not pretentious and stay within your own comfort zone.

作者: KittyLeung74 時間: 2010-10-18 08:33

Self esteem + self confidence + to be who to be = true you
Well-equipped to find your true love! Go, et1984, Go!

作者: news 時間: 2010-10-18 08:38

its all about taking the first step..once you put a foot forward..you will be surprsed you are not that shy after all...haha

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-10-18 08:53

回復 11# news

Share your successful cases

作者: news 時間: 2010-10-18 10:47

回復 12# somewhereintime

haha..well..i dont give out the detail here..but i went out of my normal way once...and got myself sort of a relationship

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-10-18 12:37

回復 13# news

Inspire them, and be their mentor. I believe you are the same age group.

作者: vilium 時間: 2010-10-18 14:50

Is it a good idea to bring a first date to Halloween events? So it feel ok to hold hands naturally?

作者: news 時間: 2010-10-18 15:01

回復 14# somewhereintime

lol...nah...im not tht good

作者: news 時間: 2010-10-18 15:02

回復 15# vilium

haha its better to just watch a horror movie then..she will jump into you and you can start making out

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2010-10-18 15:39

回復 17# news

The trick would work only if the girl has a crash on you
and too shy to express; otherwise she would
just leave the movie.

作者: blue20ae 時間: 2010-10-18 16:38

Just be yourself. Things will fall into places if she/he is the one.
Good luck!

作者: ricrick 時間: 2010-10-18 16:44

Just be yourself. Things will fall into places if she/he is the one.
Good luck!
blue20ae 發表於 2010-10-18 16:38

totally correct.. i have no idea how to chase a girl.. usually i just stand there and girls come to me automatically..

作者: sheep 時間: 2010-10-18 17:05

回復 vilium

haha its better to just watch a horror movie then..she will jump into you and yo ...
news 發表於 2010-10-18 15:02

I will jump onto her cause I am scare

作者: et1984 時間: 2010-10-19 19:27

I am same kind of person as "et1984". The most difficult part is to find the girl who I like and she ...
vilium 發表於 2010-10-17 11:00

haha I know >.<" and I started to group myself into the "boring group" which I don't think I was before....but somehow...now....sigh....

作者: et1984 時間: 2010-10-19 19:28

its all about taking the first step..once you put a foot forward..you will be surprsed you are not t ...
news 發表於 2010-10-18 08:38

hahah but I think I blank out too easily >.<" I know what you mean but it only works on certain people

作者: BiscottiGelato 時間: 2010-10-21 19:48

hahah but I think I blank out too easily >.
et1984 發表於 2010-10-19 19:28

You blank out because you don't have enough confidence to talk just like how you used to talk. Just be you, obviously more difficult said than done. But that's what it's all about.

Obviously you might need to do a lil more if you wanna be a real smooth womanizer and you just ain't it by birth LOL XD. But a regular date, it's enough just to be yourself.~ Relax and give yourself a chance~

作者: fibbi 時間: 2010-10-21 22:50

Just have confident in yourself. If guy doesn't have confident , how can the girl has confident in you?

作者: Guy 時間: 2010-10-22 01:35

haha I know >.
et1984 發表於 2010-10-19 19:27

Yup.. my high school buddies are in a group alright.
but none of the girls in the group want to go out in any boys in the group.

作者: Guy 時間: 2010-10-22 01:37

Just have confident in yourself. If guy doesn't have confident , how can the girl has confident in y ...
fibbi 發表於 2010-10-21 22:50

Self esteem and confidence.

et1984.. are you ready for it yet?
or you have no target in sight and just daydreaming about it?

作者: et1984 時間: 2010-10-24 23:57

回復 27# Guy

I'm ready for it already, there's this girl I humm....somehow want to know her more I should say but I guess you guys are right....I guess I'm lack of self confidence and I don't even know how to gain it back because of the past few relationships. it's not that easy to gain it back especially I'm already a shy guy to begin with and with few bad relationships which made me more and more lack of self confidence I think.......

作者: et1984 時間: 2010-10-24 23:58

I really appreciate you guys replying this thread though...I really do ^_^ thanks a lot people ^_^ this makes me warm hehe ^_^ just that self confidence isn't that easy ^_^

作者: Guy 時間: 2010-10-25 01:17

you already had relationships? then why it is so hard for you this time?

you want to know her more than you gotta ask her out..
otherwise you cant know her more.

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