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作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-11 03:44 標題: 細佬女想搵返d 女仔知心朋友

細個以為朋友越多越好。到了以家20幾歲先發現原來有幾多但唔知心都無用。。真係十個普通朋友都不比一個知心。到了以家朋友個個都散晒就算想踏出去搵返人都驚人地已經唔記得我係乜水。雖然話可以係學校搵但個個sem 都轉，d 感情真係好難keep 得住。。雖然可能係遲左d.但真係好搵返 d same gender 嘅best friends..真係好tired 有時邏起部電話搵唔到人可以call..i just really want to find some girl friends i can rely on or be relied on.

作者: lo_pak 時間: 2012-2-11 07:30

回復 1# chesirecat

You must have sit in front of the computer for too long these years...

Infected by computer virus...

作者: Surreal 時間: 2012-2-11 09:20

上到大學真係好難keep...
如果慶幸可以兩個sem都一齊個D就好少少...

真係要主動D約出來搵D野搞先得

作者: Prelude 時間: 2012-2-11 13:01

It's so easy to meet people in U.
Just sit with some classmates and chat.
When it's time to register courses for next sem, just ask around the classmate, then choose same course. Then you get 7 months of stuck together already.
Easy.

For after U life, you can just call friends to eat dinner and group gathering. Just be helpful, truthful, and don't be a beeeetch, then friends will come to you.

作者: 嘉嘉 時間: 2012-2-11 14:59

本帖最後由嘉嘉於 2012-2-11 15:02 編輯

None of my good frds are frim school

Finding a 真朋友 is also 睇緣份
我有一個係做野識, 一個係出街放狗識
所以真係要擴充一下圈子......

For U life, i actually think its hard to.make frds.
Everyday the person sits beside you is different.....and lecture hall is so big, hard to find the person met on the previous day....

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-11 17:12

Like you all said la...meeting a new friend is always easy..but is the part of keeping and being each other's best friend is hardest... I am not saying I only find friends online and not go out socialize....I agree with 嘉嘉 that even a friend needs that 緣份..

The reason why I say it's hard to keep true friends in U is because in Humanities, 95% of people comes from other faculties..it would lucky if we can even take 2 semesters together...

作者: jiujiujiu 時間: 2012-2-11 17:23

好朋友真係唔駛多, 但我好慶幸, 我D好朋友大部分都係同學, 有D仲要係响香港就由幼稚園一齊讀到中學畢業嘅同學添~
所以, 我D好朋友, 全部都識左超過10幾年, 有D仲超過30年添~ 所以, 我都覺得自己好好彩~
oops~ 暴露左我年齡嘅秘密添~
U我就無讀過, 但我以前讀BCIT個陣, 都同所有同班個D同學social 架~ 玩下玩下就熟, 啱玩啱傾就自然會繼續聯絡, 繼續玩架喇~

作者: 嘉嘉 時間: 2012-2-11 17:24

Like you all said la...meeting a new friend is always easy..but is the part of keeping and being eac ...
chesirecat 發表於 2012-2-11 17:12

I have few friends who we studied the same major togehter
but after graduation, we only meet like once a year for dinner or something (actually it's them.....I don't go to the dinner usually cuz of my weird working hour)

and I don't really have much to talk with them other than school stuff @@

I think to have a good frd, the first step is to having similar interests (ie. topics to talk about), and personality that you are comfortable with to start with lor~

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-11 17:32

I know...I used to have few girl friends in high school..but after grad..with different hobbies, studying different subjects..we barely talk..some still come out for dinner...but some just disappear..saw them on buses but only exchange few hellos and that's it...

those who still come out...even talking about school still eventually end some point since none of us are talking the major at all..then its only talking about other things..but maybe because cultural differences...end up not too much to talk about...

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-11 17:41

回復 7# jiujiujiu

you are very lucky to have really good friends for many years without any change...but sometimes...緣份...玩熟 can still sometimes stop...
I find it alot more easier to have the same friends growing up in HK because from 幼稚園 to highschool, you go to same school because you live around same area..

for me..ever since I moved to Canada, i change school every 3-4 years because of moving to different areas...

but either way..i'm not really looking for friends to just for 'play' but also can talk about girl stuff...

作者: librazhy 時間: 2012-2-11 17:46

回復 1# chesirecat

I suggest you to buy a camera. Go outside and take pictures, read more books to upgrade your knowledge, post your artwork in different forums. Listen to others, learn from others, expand your network to other sports/arts like dancing, painting, musics.....etc.

Are you currently employed? What do you do on your days off? Hobbies/interests? It takes time/years to make yourself like a pro. After you achieve that stage, your life should be pretty colorful!

hope my thoughts can help a bit, good luck!

作者: 嘉嘉 時間: 2012-2-11 17:55

回復 jiujiujiu

you are very lucky to have really good friends for many years without any cha ...
chesirecat 發表於 2012-2-11 17:41

ok I am not trying to be offensive here, please forgive me if I do hurt your feeling

how about we try thinking from a different angle
have you thought about if there's anything wrong/different about yourself to make you hard to keep friends?

maybe you are too quiet? maybe you are very passive?

and yeah, like librazy said
any hobbies you have? you can try expand your friend circle from there~

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-11 18:29

I don't know...I don't think I'm a horrible friend or a person thats hard to get along..maybe i'm too quiet to people that i don't really have commons with...i can find and keep friends...just that I have trouble finding a true friend..

Sigh...I have hobbies and interest but no time to get to...

作者: fibbi 時間: 2012-2-11 22:58

識朋友嘅嘢，我都覺得真係講緣份。我唔係咁識講嘢，亦都覺得U難識人。我啲好朋友大多都係high school識，相比起U識嘅，感情真係深厚啲。點講都好，我係一個幾看重 friendship嘅人，都會儘量call佢哋聚舊，如果對方都有心嘅，又啱傾，都會keep in touch。佢哋refuse嘅，ok，咁咪算囉，至少自己有take initiative去維繫一段友誼。

作者: 嘉嘉 時間: 2012-2-11 23:07

just that I have trouble finding a true friend..
chesirecat 發表於 2012-2-11 18:29

it's hard ga..........I understand
緣份 not here yet~~

and stay positive!

作者: TEO'z 時間: 2012-2-12 03:05

其實我覺得o係呢邊好難識朋友=.=更何況係真心既...><

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-12 04:35

especially living far...even going out takes forever...

作者: lo_pak 時間: 2012-2-12 11:00

回復 17# chesirecat

I see a wall, I see a barrier...

Reasons or excuses, no one can answer it for you...

Open your mind, to be, or not to be...

作者: IcySugar 時間: 2012-2-12 16:47

I agree keep in touch duk 最 dor gei...
Most of the time r high skool frds... no matter boy or girl... lol

作者: IcySugar 時間: 2012-2-12 16:53

回復 1# chesirecat

actulli... HAHA... I think I went 2 espot with u in highskool LOLit was weird... 2 of us playing POOL... lol rmb?
so I still rmb u... lol

作者: IcySugar 時間: 2012-2-12 17:08

回復 10# chesirecat

If u dun mind come all the way 2 Richmond again...
My house is always welcome LOL...
We can do some girl stuff... LOL
anything works... baking... girl chat HaHa...
Since I m more free during the reading break...
but once skool Start I will b very busy 2... n not really hav time for girl day lol...

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-12 20:54

回復 20# IcySugar

ha?!?!?!?!

.....I'm not surprise i went playing pool at espot with you...HAHAHA...I used to crazy meet random people in high school...although..I can't really remember who you are from ur LYK id...lol...tho I'm crazy happy and surprise that you know who I am?!?!

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-12 20:57

回復 21# IcySugar

that sounds awesome =)... I have reading break next week too!! except I have paper due on tomorrow..but after that I'm all good.

作者: IcySugar 時間: 2012-2-12 22:03

本帖最後由 IcySugar 於 2012-2-12 22:05 編輯

回復 23# chesirecat

o no la... cuz usually with girls only... not likely will stay in espot lol
lol by ur EMAIL ma... LOL ususalli people dun show their email or use a different email...
Yeah... I dun rmb how I know u... all I rmb is I know u from Internet lol...

skool start on 20th... lol
I m booked on Tue/Thur Nite/Firday/Sat Lunch... So far other days works for mi 2...
just let mi know when u free lol...
add oil on ur paper lol...
or u can bring ur books n study with mi HAHAHA...

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-2-12 22:31

回復 24# IcySugar

lol...ahh~..i miss espot..lol...I'm still thinking who are you...(no offense)...I have an idea who you might be...but I'm not too sure..lol...

I'll pm you for the outing =)

作者: IcySugar 時間: 2012-2-12 22:40

haha okay wait for ur pm...
well we only went out once... I think LOL...

作者: Ovaltine 時間: 2012-3-4 12:13

can we do boy girl chat? hahahaha

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-3-4 21:23

回復 27# Ovaltine

sure...why not..always good to have a new friend or two

作者: tiffiant 時間: 2012-3-5 06:47

that could be me..........dude
get outside and find friends

作者: chesirecat 時間: 2012-3-5 17:39

回復 29# tiffiant

what??

作者: cha_wan_mushi 時間: 2012-3-14 14:05

hehehe most of the time I dunno what he says too :p

Chesirecat, I feel the same way sometimes.
Ppl might say I'm bs-ing because I'm so active all the time.. but seriously... I'm very introverted.
There are many times when I scroll thru my phone list and I can't find a single person to talk to too.

To fix that problem leh.. I try not to focus on myself too much~ instead I focus on other people, other things~ :p
I don't know if it's the right thing to do but I sure feel better when I don't think about myself.

one of the activity i've been doing for the last 5 to 6 years is Dragon Boat

it's a lot of fun.. personally..
in ng interested to join me for dragon boat ah?
my club always welcome new paddlers gah~
come come

作者: et1984 時間: 2012-4-4 20:36

cha_wan_mushi>

Dragon Boat? ^_^ haha...sounded like one of my friend....I know she's in dragon boat for I don't know how many years. She's my high school friend but haven't seen her for ages.

I do want to know more friends too but I'm just not those who's just start talking out of no where to continue others topic just like that *when face to face* unless I have seen them a few times at least.

Actually I do think nowadays it's so so so so so hard to find someone who can be trusted and share EVERYTHING. I know some people might be like BFF *not really forever* but maybe for 10 years and shared LOTS but somehow because of one turning point, they aren't friends anymore and maybe one of them started BS about the other one out there or even worse, the secret shared are all out in the public. I really hate to hear/see this kind of thing happening but it just naturally happens.

作者: Ovaltine 時間: 2012-4-25 10:05

just added you, noticed you are from hk. Actually I used to have lots of HK friends in Vancouver, but most went back to Hong Kong to start their career. I am in HK right now, we can talk and hang out when I come back

I think Vancouver the city is to blame for a lot of introvertness. There are so many races and certain races live in certain places. People just keep it to themselves due to sometimes racial tension. I am in china and hong kong right now, even though its not an honest community, people are generally more nice.

btw which highschool you goto?

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