剛取了已印好的結婚請柬, 放入餅咕準備寄給親友. 但有長輩話他近年所收的請柬都會放埋回禮利是在請柬內, 省卻日後續一回禮給客人. 佢話就算個wedding reception有wedding favour主家都include回禮利是with invitation, in case some guests only attend ceremony but not reception dinner. 我近年較少收到wedding invitation, 但前幾年我去weddings都只是婚禮後收到主家寄來我地當天有份影的相和thank you card. 我諗住同樣做法. 但係佢地都係我同輩和朋友,唔知係米甘做法之所以唔同?
I haven't heard of 回禮利是 here.
But in HK, I think we did give out 回禮利是 at the banquet when we got jewelry ...etc. gifts from the elder relatives.作者: FiChai 時間: 2012-7-2 21:32
Never heard of 回禮利是 to be given at time of sending invitation cards. Reasons are, how do you know if the guests would attend only the ceremony or reception or both yes or both not? How do you know how much money or gift they would give you, so by what percentage of the 回禮利是 should be calculated? If you just want to save some work and give a random figure to all guests, it won't be appropriate anyways and someone might get upset at the end.
That's why there are always "receptionists" act as gift record registers at guest sign in table, in order to mark down each gift by which guest, so you can have a better idea how to do the 回禮利是 afterwards if you want to. 作者: fibbi 時間: 2012-7-2 23:11
I think it's a HK thing. I did get one from the HK invitation. But I never received one from my friends here.作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2012-7-3 01:13
Yes, as fibbi said, it is a HK thing! I did it because I am totally a 港燦! LOL作者: imvitasoy 時間: 2012-7-3 08:28
本帖最後由 imvitasoy 於 2012-7-3 08:33 編輯
It is not a HK thing. 起碼千年中國傳統習俗 :
《水滸傳》第三七回：眾囚徒見宋江有面目，都買酒來與他慶賀。次日，宋江置酒食與眾人回禮。
印像中，《紅樓夢》裡面都有提過回禮，費事搵....作者: blue20ae 時間: 2012-7-3 08:53
As the name suggested, it is a token (利是) for thanking people's gift.
It is not logical to send 回禮利是 with invitation. As people may not accept your invitation or send any gift.作者: 吳孟達 時間: 2012-7-3 09:38
Don't do it, don't bring this trend to Canada. Haha作者: chocobun 時間: 2012-7-4 22:13
my mom mentioned this to me too... i refuse to do this lol.
i think it's the same thing as wedding favor in western culture作者: fibbi 時間: 2012-7-5 00:52
I got $10HK 回禮利是 w/ the invitation. I *think* it goes to the guest who are not given the cake card.
But Cdn...if put $2 coin in 回禮利是....looks bad wor...but if give paper bill..$5 each? OMG 作者: imvitasoy 時間: 2012-7-5 10:49
本帖最後由 imvitasoy 於 2012-7-5 10:52 編輯
本來，送禮/回禮是富裕社會嘅人文活動，所謂 "衣食足然後禮儀興" ，中華傳統文化細緻豐富，非斬大舊叉燒之鬼子佬所能及。 中國傳統結婚嫁妝也屬回禮之一，就非常精采；而七八十年代日本仔送禮/回禮更達到無厘頭境界。不過中國人將送禮與行賄掛勾，咁好玩嘅傳統，變得避之則吉，好可惜。作者: Nam 時間: 2012-7-5 11:22
