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作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-5-29 15:26 標題: 被不愛的人愛著

那感覺很煩厭。

若他坦白說﹐我還有機會拒絕。

偏偏﹐我當他是好兄弟 (我地響 FB 一齊玩一個戰爭遊戲﹐所以係幫會兄弟)﹐但我知道他很喜歡我。

只是他那種喜歡﹐使我十分煩厭﹐糾纏得很﹐又唔方便罵他﹐因為我們其實識左幾年﹐很好朋友﹐我不想失去這個朋友。

但是他早又早晨﹐晚又晚安﹐返工又話我返工了﹐拜拜啊﹐這些。。。我又唔係他女友﹐關我屁事﹖ 而且人家要工作的﹐怎方便時常回答他﹖ 就是得閒回答﹐也覺得這些 conversations 很沒味道﹐很悶蛋。

老友記會點處理﹖

我暫時只係詐看不見﹐沒理會﹐冷淡對待。。。

但係死 FB 好乞人憎﹐看了不能詐沒看見﹐因為寫著“看了”

好討厭啊

作者: BiscottiGelato 時間: 2013-5-29 19:12

Is the interaction mostly online?

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2013-5-29 21:37

Just tell him. If he reacts to that negatively, then he really isn't your friend. (just a bf-want-to-be)

作者: Prelude 時間: 2013-5-29 23:03

You got tell him up front. Tell him that he should do those things with his gf instead of you.

He will either propose or hide, if he proposes, then you can tell him you don't like him.
If he hides, then repeat first sentence again, and that's your only reply until he proposes.

作者: ah3 時間: 2013-5-30 00:04

Isn't the fb "seen" a good thing? He knows it's seen, and if you don't reply, then that's a sign to him, if he's smart enough...

作者: BiscottiGelato 時間: 2013-5-30 13:41

Just tell him u only wanna be friends w/ him loh. But if the interaction is really only mostly online i dun see how this became a problem to begin with~

作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-5-30 14:47

Just tell him u only wanna be friends w/ him loh. But if the interaction is really only mostly onlin ...
BiscottiGelato 發表於 2013-5-30 13:41

'cuz my phone is linked to fb... and when he keeps on annoyed me, it appeared on my cell phone so it's bothering me... the problem is I don't want to lose the friendship or else I can just block him...

作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-5-30 14:48

Isn't the fb "seen" a good thing? He knows it's seen, and if you don't reply, then that's a sign to ...
ah3 發表於 2013-5-30 00:04

apparently he isn't...

作者: 4boybun 時間: 2013-5-30 16:04

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作者: 布小熊 時間: 2013-5-30 20:36

'I don't want to lose the friendship
Icebaby 發表於 2013-5-30 02:47 PM

This is the part that I don't understand.
This "friendship" isn't true friendship if he found out that he has NO CHANCE of being your bf and stop talking to you.
If he is your real friend, tell him DIRECTLY and see how he deals with it.

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-5-30 20:59

This is the part that I don't understand.
This "friendship" isn't true friendship if he found out t ...
布小熊發表於 2013-5-30 20:36

兩個可能
一個係, 籍口o黎o既o者, 其實樓主想收兵
第二個係,樓主怕多左一個對自己好既人突然唔鍾意 / (男女男) o左自己......
講下講下.....其實兩個可能都好似差唔多

作者: 4boybun 時間: 2013-6-1 20:43

点会唔明，咁简单：
楼主只想同个男人做朋友，因为个男人对佢好，
但楼主又唔接受个男人做男朋友，只系想保持有个人，继续对佢好。

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-6-1 23:57

点会唔明，咁简单：
楼主只想同个男人做朋友，因为个男人对佢好，
但楼主又唔接受个男人做男朋友，只系 ...
4boybun 發表於 2013-6-1 20:43

friendzone....a girl wants to take advantage from a guy (or guys) who can treat her as lover but doesn't want that guy to be her lover

作者: slamdunk6 時間: 2013-6-2 15:51

本帖最後由 slamdunk6 於 2013-6-2 15:53 編輯

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作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-6-3 15:10

no la

作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-6-3 15:11

he is not a 觀音兵, I do not take advantage of guys ar...
I really want a boy friend, not a boyfriend... I cannot love a person that I have no feeling of...

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-6-3 18:28

he is not a 觀音兵, I do not take advantage of guys ar...
I really want a boy friend, not a boyfrien ...
Icebaby 發表於 2013-6-3 15:11

um....please grow up (or dont refuse to grow up, or dont be naive)
there is no pure (yet, very close) friendship between guys and girls just like guys with guys. So many songs, movies, tv series to tell what you are asking for, doesn't exist. A more solid and specific evidence is, you are now experiencing that what you are asking for, doesn't exist.

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2013-6-3 23:53

um....please grow up (or dont refuse to grow up, or dont be naive)
there is no pure (yet, very cl ...
chunsh 發表於 2013-6-3 06:28 PM

I am sorry there is real true friendship.
Most guys treat me as a guy...

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-6-4 00:08

I am sorry there is real true friendship.
Most guys treat me as a guy...
布小熊發表於 2013-6-3 23:53

I am not saying there is no true friendship. I am saying the friendship between guys and girls would never be as close as guys with guys (brotherhood)

and how can u so sure there is none from your male friends who is/was having more than friendship feeling on u?
老生常談:"人心隔肚皮"
of course, u can believe what u "like" to believe
天真的人永遠都活得開心些

作者: slamdunk6 時間: 2013-6-7 00:37

all u need to do is telling him what you think

if he is ok to be your friend, then u got a true friend.

if he doesn't, then u lost a chaser

u can't take advantage of both

回復 16# Icebaby

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2013-6-7 08:17

all u need to do is telling him what you think

if he is ok to be your friend, then u got a true fri ...
slamdunk6 發表於 2013-6-7 12:37 AM

Exactly what I meant but yours is well put.

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2013-6-7 08:19

I am not saying there is no true friendship. I am saying the friendship between guys and girls wou ...
chunsh 發表於 2013-6-4 12:08 AM

I am pretty sure. I am in a male domain env. It just takes time for that kind of friendship to build. (btw, now I am old, fat and ugly... LOL they are still my friends)

作者: IcySugar 時間: 2013-6-15 14:44

I am sorry there is real true friendship.
Most guys treat me as a guy...
布小熊發表於 2013-6-3 23:53

HaHa I agree with you ah... xP
There is pure frdship between guys and girls...
I believe that... LOL

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-6-16 01:09

HaHa I agree with you ah... xP
There is pure frdship between guys and girls...
I believe that... L ...
IcySugar 發表於 2013-6-15 14:44

well, but u just showed that it is not in your case

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2013-6-17 08:58

well, but u just showed that it is not in your case
chunsh 發表於 2013-6-16 01:09 AM

agree....

作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-6-19 10:41

拒成日響自己牆上發表一D好似我辜負左拒的文章和狀態﹐好煩﹐救命~
但係拒可能又知道唔可以得罪我﹐偶然又打打招呼﹐打完又唔講野﹐總之而家的感覺很兩頭唔到岸﹐連以前無所不談的好友那份感覺都失去了﹐真慘~

作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-6-19 10:43

若果我係男仔﹐暗戀得來又唔想失去好友﹐唔表白更好﹐唔知大家同唔同意呢。。。
我自己覺得﹐未必每次戀愛都要有結果﹐有時暗戀好過表白了連朋友都無得做﹐而且我的表現其實唔難解讀﹐若我喜歡他就唔會有時應有時唔應﹐明明一直在轉貼一直在贊好﹐但係又一直唔回應﹐正常人都明啦﹐係咪﹖

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-6-19 13:29

拒成日響自己牆上發表一D好似我辜負左拒的文章和狀態﹐好煩﹐救命~
但係拒可能又知道唔可以得罪我﹐偶然又 ...
Icebaby 發表於 2013-6-19 10:41

why can't u just accept the fact that you and him cannot be "good buddy friends" (at least for now)?
just tell him clearly about your thoughts, then move on

作者: chunsh 時間: 2013-6-19 13:31

若果我係男仔﹐暗戀得來又唔想失去好友﹐唔表白更好﹐唔知大家同唔同意呢。。。
我自己覺得﹐未必每次戀愛 ...
Icebaby 發表於 2013-6-19 10:43

cos you are not men....
some men are very insist to not to give up their crash until they can get the DIRECT AND CLEAR rejection from their crush (and some men even won't give up yet)

作者: Icebaby 時間: 2013-6-19 15:40

why can't u just accept the fact that you and him cannot be "good buddy friends" (at least for no ...
chunsh 發表於 2013-6-19 13:29

Thanks for your advice

I am scared still

will see if I will have enough courage to do that... what if... he said... no, I'm not...

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