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作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-4-23 09:16 標題: 13 week pregnant

I just found out I'm pregnant & now feel so helpless.... although my partner is very very supportive & I'm now staying at home as a housewife. The "luxurious" time I get just make me have more time to "thinking too much" .. so afraid ar....

afraid of "PAIN OF BIRTH"
afraid of "FINANCIAL DEPENDANT ON MAN"
afraid of "CAN'T TAKE CARE THE CHILD"
afraid of "MISCARRY & BB BORN WITH DEFEAT"

aii.....

作者: shutterbug 時間: 2008-4-23 09:40

Is this a planned pregnacy? You don't sound like it is....

You listed 4 things that you fear about.
1) This one you can't avoid and it's too early to think about that now, so save it for later

2) You need to talk to your partner and to get assurance from him, more communication
3) Also too early to think about this, you might want to take a course later and talk to LOTS of moms to get experience
4) This is the most important right now IMO, health is #1 priority! Find out what you should/can do/eat. Lots of resources on the web!

good luck!

[ 本帖最後由 shutterbug 於 2008-4-23 10:06 編輯 ]

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2008-4-23 09:59

Congratulations!!

YOU JUST THINK TOO MUCH LA

all you worries are quit unnecessary, I think you should talk to some of your friends or 長輩 that have their own kids...

btw, r u married? how old r u?

作者: low_B 時間: 2008-4-23 10:24

Congratulations!!!
Although I had same questions when I'm pregnant. You can think positively,ok.....
My bb is 3 weeks now.....everythinjgs is ok....I feel happy when she smiles

作者: Traum 時間: 2008-4-23 10:40

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作者: kaimui22 時間: 2008-4-23 10:56

congrats!! you just found out?? wow..that's already 3 months...so I'm guess you're over your morning sickness!

don't worry too much about the pain and the process of giving birth.....NOTHING can prepare you for it but it will work out just fine. Also, you are already 13 weeks..once you pass 12 weeks, the chances of miscarriage is very low..of course unless it's due to some accident or something. Even though having a baby might seem like it is painful, you will forget the pain once the bb is out. Also...enjoy the alone time you have right now! Being pregnant is the last time you will have alone to yourself in a long time..haha..when bb comes out, you'll be really busy.

I'm guessing the bb is not planned...but hey, sometimes it's 緣份 of the bb and you. just go with the flow and everything will turn out okay.

作者: 華美子 時間: 2008-4-23 11:20

welcome on board, being a mom is an exciting experience.

Go take prenatal class and join Pat's mother group. You need a support group to help you during your pregnancy. All the best.

作者: Ultraman 時間: 2008-4-23 11:33

My first question is, are you planning to get married with your partner, and what does he think?

作者: Quest 時間: 2008-4-24 17:22

Congrats!

My son is now 14.5mnths and he is the center of our universe..

作者: kaimui22 時間: 2008-4-24 17:37

原帖由 Quest 於 2008/4/24 05:22 PM 發表
Congrats!

My son is now 14.5mnths and he is the center of our universe..

so your son is also born in Feb 2007? Cool~ what day?

作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-4-28 19:08

oh... i'm in my mid 20's & prepared to get married w/ my partner who looks after me all the time... we have been living together for 2 years now & just bought our own house.....i know he's a good husband & will be a good father.. it's just the matter of fact that this prenancy is not expected.... so SHOOOOOCKING! since we have no "長輩" in the city we're living.. we only depend on each other for all things...

sometimes I feel like I'm gonna break out soon...

作者: koala 時間: 2008-4-28 20:50

I totally understand your concern....i got married in Sept 2006 and my son is now 6 months old. All our relatives are in HK, including parents, siblings for both of us. If you know he can take care you, then trust him and yourself. I learn everything by myself...reading books, websites, posting question in LYK, asking friends for advices....don't worry...things will get through...and it's really rewarding when you have a baby. Just relax, be happy all the time....make sure you don't have too much junk food...you will be fine

作者: Vix 時間: 2008-4-28 21:09

The following link is some information for pregnant women. Don't feel scare or anything. Try boroow some books from library and get yourself more prepare. Normally when you don't know what lies in front of you that make people feel scare. Once you have everything planned out then it wouldn't be too bad. Just remember, whatever you feel or do, it can affect the baby. So just relax and take it easy. Hope this helps.

http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/hp-gs/pdf/hpguide_e.pdf

作者: 華美子 時間: 2008-4-29 16:10

All pregnant woman can get a book called "Baby's Best Chance" from the Health Department for free. It covers everything from pregnancy to after birth and it's tailer maid for BC residents. You can ask your doctor for it.

作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-4-29 19:56

thx alot for all of your advices... I really appreciate your help

I'm now less worried... Just need some cheer up from others

thx thx thx ^*^

作者: kaimui22 時間: 2008-5-22 16:40

congrats pepsis! I saw your other reply in another thread about getting married..congrats! so you are about 17 weeks now?

作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-5-23 10:54

Oh Thx! I'm now 17 weeks & I can feel the baby's heartbeat! it's soooo cute! I also got married last week with my hun... I feel so lucky to marry him & have the baby soon (well, the end of October is still 5 months to go)...

For all the moms & moms to be, let me show you some awesome pix of baby in the womb:

http://www.pregnancy.org/pregnancy/fetaldevelopment2.php

作者: MyOMy 時間: 2008-5-23 13:09

A baby can be he best thing ever happen to a committed couple. The baby will bring the best joy to your home.

Stay happy and positive is the best advise I can offer. Read more about "Postpartum Depression" is very helpful. Also, if your sister (best friend) or your mom can come over to take care of you during the last week of pregnancy and the first couple of weeks after the delivery will help tremendously. After the delivery, you will be so tired, weak and fatigue. If they can't, ask your huband to take times off work.

Congratulation !

作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-5-23 18:27

Mom may come for the "sitting month" (dunno how to translate)...
Hun probably will take 2 weeks off if possible (coz his position is tough to replace... his boss pays him to come all the way from Van to Tor to do this... u can imagine)... but since he starts working very early in the morning so comes home early.. so it should be fine...

actually i really try my best to stay positive.. since now only my hun is working (although he makes enough $ to support family), I'm always worried about $$$ .. esp after BB is born .. dunno how much it will cost to raise a infant...

Anyone knows how much approximately??? if u don't mind, would u guys break down the cost like diapers, formula (i will breastfeed but ppl say it's hard to breastfeed all the time.. so u need formula stand by), or just buying things for BB nursary room... which items are neccessary & which items are just for FUN?

THX in advance if anyone can provide me some info!

作者: kaimui22 時間: 2008-5-23 22:26

its really good to have someone with you when you are 坐月 because it will be both tiring (physically and emotionally) to take care of a baby and also yourself in the first month. maybe your mom can cook for you when you are sitting month so you don't have to worry about feeding yourself

As for breastfeeding..it will save you a lot of money (formula is expensive) but you can't always plan on being able to breastfeed. Good thing you are willing to try...i tried but my baby's tongue is too short and I didn't have any milk coming until 3 weeks later...so I ended up pumping every 2 hours to feed him.

For price breakdown....expect to spend
- $15/pack of diapers (1 or 2 packs a week at least in the first month)....I always tell people NOT to buy a box of diapers in the first month because you don't know how fast your baby will grow. Just have 2 or 3 packs of diapers ready before the baby comes and buy as you need. If you buy too many of the newborn/size 1, your baby might outgrow it before the second month!

-$30/can of formula...in the first month or so, a baby will not eat too much at each meal but will drink frequently.....so maybe 1 can will last you 2 weeks? but later on, a can will only last you 5 or 6 days...and you will have to buy 5 or 6 cans of formula a month (if fully fed on formula). Formula is expensive!!..but it also depends on what kind you get. If you get the regular, supermarket brand ones with or without Omega 3 and 6, it might only cost you $15/can. If you get the brand names (similac, nestle..etc), it will cost more.

- baby wipes...we use the Kirkland kind (at Costco) because it is the cheapest and also the best one we've tried. We tired pampers and huggies wipes before but they always left some white residue on the baby's butt. Kirkland wipes are thick and also moist and don't fall apart. i think it is about $16 for a big box (8 or 10 packs?)

As for baby accessories....I think :

crib and/or playpen
co-sleeper (if you plan to sleep with baby),
breastfeeding pillow (trust me..your hand will be tired if you keep holding baby)
sling or baby carrier
bouncer (good to keep baby safe while you can eat or do other stuff)
baby bath tub (easier on your back than to use the regular bath tub and waste less water too)
diaper genie or diaper champ

you don't really need a changing table because usually I just put a mat on top of the bed and change the baby there. or sometimes we just change the baby in the crib because it is easier than to move the baby around and as the baby gets older, a changing table becomes dangerous because the baby might roll or try to climb off the table.

Generally having a baby can be expensive...but there are many ways to safe. For example. you can always buy second hand stuff. Since a baby grows up really fast, a lot of clothes and stuff are not worth buying new. You can buy second hand clothes and pillows (you can wash the cover) and save a lot of money. If you go to Kidswap (giant garage sale for kids and baby stuff), you can usually find really good deals.).

But for carseats..you should buy brand new unless you' know the history of the used carseat and make sure it has not expired and has never been in an accident!

作者: shutterbug 時間: 2008-5-23 22:27

first, congrats and glad to hear from you again

honestly, I don't think raising an infant costs that much besides daycare, but sounds like you will not need daycare so just food, diaper, etc won't cost that much

private school takes up a big chunk of money too if you decide you'll go for that route

the financial burden comes when they reach 14 years and onwards...

作者: low_B 時間: 2008-5-24 08:13

For the baby stuff....I usually go to States to buy...coz is cheaper than Van....but remember that don't buy the car seat in States,is not approve in Can. I just went to States yesterday,my little one spend me like $300 for her stuff! Diapers and formula are really cheap in States...so I spend that much...heehee

作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-5-26 16:00

wow! thx for all of your sharing...
Just wonder anyone use cloth diapers for their baby? my mom really wants me to use cloth diapers.. more eco friendly bor (if u dun use the dryer to dry them)

作者: MyOMy 時間: 2008-5-26 16:25

My sister used it for her older kid. A lot of work. You have to disinfect the washer after each use, dry the diaper, fold and shelf it. If your mom stays with you for good, that will not be a problem. You are a new mom, don't have experience, you may also be tried feeding the baby......

If you don't deel too strong about it, I don't recommend it.

作者: kaimui22 時間: 2008-5-26 20:30

cloth diapers are great....if you get a diaper company. some companies will give you a bucket, you put all the dirty cloth diapers in, and they will wash and dry and deliver back to you....

otherwise, expect to do a lot of rinsing, washing and drying! ..remember, after every poop or pee, you have to rinse the diaper right away or else it will stain the cloth diaper. And...when you go out with your baby, what if he/she poops or pees? You will have to carry a dirty diaper until you get home to wash it!

but...if you have the time and energy to do it, I'd say good for you. it's friendly for the environment and will save your money in the long run. But remember, cloth diapers are NOT cheap at all. Nowadays, most have velcro tabs (no safety pins) and you will also need to buy a diaper cover (vinyl..like a swimming pants) just in case your baby's diaper leak.

作者: pepsis2 時間: 2008-5-27 19:00

wow... sound lots of works.. i'm not keen on doing the cloth diaper thing exclusively... i think i'll use the disposable one for the first month.. wait after a pattern is more stable (for BB)..then try to use it when i know BB won't poo poo on that... i mean.. i can wash pee pee one.. not the poo poo one...

作者: 大C姐 時間: 2008-5-27 19:04

養兒一百歲,長憂九十九...

作者: low_B 時間: 2008-5-27 19:37

For my bb....she just 7 week...I don't know when she pee/poo

作者: kaimui22 時間: 2008-5-27 21:27

babies don't really develop a pee/poop "pattern" until much older than one month...sometimes not until 1.5 years old!! My baby is now 15 months old and still no pattern for peeing yet. Even adult don't have pee pee patterns...you just go when you need to go! It's not like you can hold on to the pee to a certain time frame...haha

but poop...my baby developed a pooping pattern around 6 or 7 months...he'll poop at dinnertime every night...even if we go out to eat or stay at home, once we put the food out, he'll poop.

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