Flickr / 42andpointless“I’m going to pray right now for God to change your heart about marriage.” Um, what? This was something a “prayer warrior” said to me after I shared my contentment with being single. Her immediate – and incorrect – assumption was that God had some work to do because I’m a content single. Let me first say that I really am content about being one of the never marrieds and I’ll answer your questions right off the bat about my “issues.”
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Well, yes, I have issues, but doesn’t everyone? However, as far as my background in relationships with the opposite sex goes, I had an excellent father (who has since died of cancer) so there’s no poor role model issue. I was never abused or mistreated by a man. I’m not gay – although with gay marriage being legal in more states, I no longer have to explain this one. I just don’t have a desire to get married. “Tell me about your singleness.” “You’ll change your mind.” “You haven’t met the right person yet.” Need I go on? Some of the things said to me in my life have been amusing, others have been hurtful.
There are enough people comfortable with my singleness: me, God, my family, and close friends. Here’s my take on it. There’s no command in the Bible where God says a complete life is only available through marriage. Now, I’m not opposed to it at all. If He brings someone my way, then that’s His choice. And if I remain single the rest of my life, that’s totally cool too. You know why? Because the opportunities in my life are awesome.
I know there are a lot of singles who are “getting up there” in age like me and I honestly want to offer encouragement to you. I’ve talked to a number of people who are really hurting in this area because they want so badly for God to bring a spouse into their life. And there’s nothing wrong with desiring that and feeling a bit stressed because it hasn’t happened yet. If that’s what God wants for you, then He will bring someone in His timing.
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While you’re waiting though, can I point out some of the awesome things about being single, even if it’s just for a season? These are some of my favorites.
1. It’s easier to quit your job.Seriously. I quit a day job with good health insurance to go out on my own. Who was affected by that decision? Me. I could cut corners, eat ramen noodles, and wear layers instead of cranking up the thermostat to save some bucks. When you are responsible for only yourself, it is easier to take some risks.
2. No need for agreement with recreational time.I go to the movies a couple times a year and you know who I usually go with? Me. All by myself. Here’s my thought for anyone who thinks that’s loser-ish. No one will even notice you. And if by chance, they do notice you, they are either 1) jealous that you got to choose the movie while they’re seeing one they hate or 2) maybe they will think you’re a loser, but who cares? You don’t know them anyway.
3. No sharing of the remote.Assuming you live alone too, it’s all about you. If you want to waste two hours of your life on a Bachelor premiere, you can do that. (Um, not that I’ve ever done that, but I’ve heard about other people who have).
發表於 2015-9-22 20:53
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