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作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-9-29 20:00 標題: 只係想發洩…

尋日我同一個我從未認識o既人傾偈，但係佢同我有一個共通點：
就係我o地都俾同一個男人呃過。
我亦發現o左一D我從來都唔知o既真相，一D我以前懷疑但係都選擇相信o既無楷理由。
可能我唔應該信一個我唔認識o既人o既片面之詞，但係假如我真係相錯o左…
咁怪就只能夠怪佢講o既大話多到我寧願信一個我唔認識o既人。

雖然我同佢已經成為過去2年有多啦，但係當我知道事實o既時候，我依然好唔開心…
我覺得自己好愚蠢…我身邊每個人都警告過我…
但係原來愛情真係可以令人變得好盲目。
所有o野都係我自己咎由自取

一幅一幅o既畫面從我腦海裡面再次浮現…
因為佢，我同Daddy，同表姐鬧交，落大雪要o係電話亭講電話，
收到第一份禮物，第一隻戒指，o係機場大家攬住痛哭，
我o係佢o架車度喊完佢返o黎攬住我安慰返我，講電話講通宵…
我真o係好難相信呢D情景全部都係假o既…

但係我再回想，就見到第二D畫面…
10次佢話會過o黎裡面，有8次都佢唔會出現。
仲係冇通知o既，即係失蹤，但係最後俾我發現佢一路都o係多倫多。
10次佢話寄禮物過o黎，有8次都話「唔知點解，可能寄失o左。」
當我喊o既時候，佢可以收線唔理我，亦可以停車丟底我。
聖誕節佢應承同我一齊過，結果因為第2個女仔，
佢淩晨5點o係一個我唔熟識o既多倫多某一條街度丟底我。
我最最最最記得o既係，我試過打俾佢，有個女仔聽電話。
佢話：「佢o係廁所，你邊位搵佢？」我話我係佢女朋友…
個女仔話：「我先係佢女朋友喎！你邊位呀？！」佢事後道歉，話同佢已經分o左手。
2個月後，我依然聽到呢個女仔把聲，佢話佢男朋友去o左廁所。
o個日係我o地最後一日做情侶。

分手後，試過淩晨3點飲醉酒打俾我，話好愛我，好掛住我，叫我唔好唔理佢。
佢話而家個女朋友唔好，冇我咁好，而家先知邊個對佢最好，好想要返我。
我心軟，最後應承o左只會同佢做返朋友，但係佢以後唔可以再呃我。
尋晚，我發現原來佢打俾我o個晚，佢當時已經有4個女朋友。
其實我想喊，但係真係喊唔出…我發覺，原來我對呢個人流o既眼淚，已經流乾了。
我發現，一個我拍o左拖6年，以為自己好了解o既人…
原來，我一D都唔認識佢…

原來真係有人做戲可以做得咁澈底，佢應該可以去拎奧斯卡。
不過，紙係包唔住火o架。講一個大話去襟另外一個大話，到最後始終都會被揭穿。
今日，9年後，終於真相大白。

但係我發現我已經唔可以再相信任何人…
包括我自己男朋友，即使佢鍾意o左我5年…
無論我幾想信佢，幾覺得自己刁蠻任性唔成熟…
我都依然會質問佢做o既o野同去o既地方…

我好討厭咁樣o既自己…

[ 本帖最後由 Sakura 於 2008-9-29 20:11 編輯 ]

作者: Hyde 時間: 2008-9-29 20:23

you'll feel better now since u talk it out...
just let time heal your wound

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-9-29 20:25

Well..I dun even like him anymore..
But it's just that when I found out last nite..
I still got so upset cuz I felt like I've been lied to even more..
When it shouldn't even matter anymore..

He called me today and asked me wut that girl and I talked about..
And he said I m not respecting him cuz I m talking to his frd about him without his permission...

作者: raima 時間: 2008-9-29 20:36

oh screw him. if he did nothing wrong, why is he worrying about asking for permission and stuff?!

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-9-29 20:38

Well, he's 心虛 I know that...~
But I dun get y he still has to ask me and pretend he doesn't know~

作者: matt72178 時間: 2008-9-29 21:04

原來 Hyde 係0甘感性既。

作者: mui122 時間: 2008-9-29 21:35

one of my ex was like that! but fortunately he only tormented me for 1 year and not 6 (he lives in van tho, so gals, becareful...hahha)
i guess its reasonable for you to feel this way since once upon a time u gave him your all and now you feel cheated
but look at it another way
you were able to leave him even without know this piece of information
be proud of yourself that you didnt waste another 2 years

and if he calls again
tell him to go to hell
what you do has nothing to do with him no more
why should u ever ask him for permission for ANYTHING?
wat a jerk

作者: Purpleheart 時間: 2008-9-29 22:37

Sakura, 你唔好咁灰啦~ 發生你身上的事好多人都試過啦~ 我自己都係過來人~~

at least you learned a lesson~ 相信你經過今次的經驗下次冇咁容易俾人呃到

如果我係你我會o係分手時大巴大巴星死個男仔囉!!

你將來會遇到更好的男仔~ 唔好因為呢o的賤人而留下陰影啦~ Support u!

作者: Alcoholic 時間: 2008-9-29 23:01

at least u now found out that u used to be so on-9, so make sure from now on, you won't be so naive anymore. when you think back to this a few years from now, you'll just chuckle, & glad that it taught you a lesson that you never regret. & think about if you always live in the past shadows, you'll never see a light with your current lover.

[ 本帖最後由 Alcoholic 於 2008-9-29 23:03 編輯 ]

作者: Caffie 時間: 2008-9-30 00:09

原帖由 matt72178 於 2008-9-29 21:04 發表
原來 Hyde 係0甘感性既。

我都喺度諗緊呢樣野...

作者: CWong 時間: 2008-9-30 07:55

你都好蠢吓！

作者: Wee 時間: 2008-9-30 08:44

similar incidents have happened to many others, don't take it personal. soem years ago my ex called in a morning just to tell me he had sex with another girl and their pillow talk while the two of them still naked in bed. The next day, he brought his new "gf" Dai Yil Dai Bai to me and my friends' gathering... i was naive to believe when he first excused there was no affair (before the morning call). yah it hurts to look back everytime. but if you can face it, take it as a flu shot. immune from virus and cherish the recent healthy relationship

[ 本帖最後由 Wee 於 2008-9-30 09:51 編輯 ]

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2008-9-30 09:10

佢對你咁差你都可以同佢6年？佢好靚仔？好有米？定好長？

作者: 小叻 時間: 2008-9-30 09:40

you should stop listening to his call.. totally ignore him.. he is not the only man in this world.. he didnt respect you..u do not need to respect him..it's a fair game.. why u need to hurt urself that much? ignore him.. and start a brand new life ~~ man never change....

作者: Caffie 時間: 2008-9-30 10:02

原帖由 siumaibb 於 2008-9-30 09:10 發表
佢對你咁差你都可以同佢6年？佢好靚仔？好有米？定好長？

I LOL'ed...

But yeah... guys are jerks <_< Never let a guys like that ruin your life.

作者: akshea 時間: 2008-9-30 10:30

That sounds like Edison gum.. I know a couple of his gfs .. same stories

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-9-30 11:43

原帖由 akshea 於 2008/9/30 10:30 AM 發表
That sounds like Edison gum.. I know a couple of his gfs .. same stories

U know a couple of his gfs??
Or couple of ur own??

I know I was stupid back then..
And it wasn't that he was rich or handsome or anything..
But u know, if u love someone there shouldn't be a reason...
Then of cuz at that time I was blind...
And he was my first bf...

We broke up for 2 years now and I hv a bf for a year alreadi..
But I duno y I still get upset when I found out..
And I just can't trust people as much as I did back then..~

And to cover up his lies to his current gf(s),
he deleted me and the girl that chatted with me off facebook as well~
Apparently he called her too last nite and told her not to bother his frd and dun bs stuff to me..

[ 本帖最後由 Sakura 於 2008-9-30 11:51 編輯 ]

作者: aucht 時間: 2008-9-30 12:15

Post his name and picture here.

作者: akshea 時間: 2008-9-30 12:48

I know a couple of his gfs... he has tons of gfs la..

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-9-30 19:44

原帖由 akshea 於 2008/9/30 12:48 PM 發表
I know a couple of his gfs... he has tons of gfs la..

If u know him..then u must know me ba...
U know a couple of his gfs..
So u knew he was cheating?? Or u just know he has a lot..??

作者: maldini 時間: 2008-9-30 20:19

原帖由 akshea 於 2008-9-30 13:48 發表
I know a couple of his gfs... he has tons of gfs la..

How did you know Edison's gf?

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-9-30 20:41

How did u know him..
Omgosh I am even more confused now..

作者: mui122 時間: 2008-10-1 00:55

so sakura ure saying u dated EDISON for 6 years???
cuz Akshea was saying she knew a couple of EDISON's gfs....prob not a couple of ur ex' gfs
unless ur ex is in fact edison

作者: angeldevil 時間: 2008-10-1 00:55

i'm confused...
so sakura was Edison's ex?????????????????
or just that the case sounds like Edison...
akshea & sakura just happen to know each other & akshea knows abt the incident???

btw, back to the topic!
sakura, I believe 8 out of 10 girls happened to have similar experience~
but the most important part of this is not to let it affect your faith in others...
I know this is super hard but it's something that can be worked out!!!
trust me. i used to doubt everything but now i'm cured.
=)
+ oil!!!
& if that ex of urs tries to contact again, just leave him hanging!!
u definitely have the right & prevlliage to do this.

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-1 11:48

原帖由 mui122 於 2008/10/1 12:55 AM 發表
so sakura ure saying u dated EDISON for 6 years???
cuz Akshea was saying she knew a couple of EDISON's gfs....prob not a couple of ur ex' gfs
unless ur ex is in fact edison

Ooh...see? I am so out of it now~ lol~
EDISON's gfs....that I dun care~ lol~

I do try to trust people more but for some reason I find it very hard...
Even if I control myself and not ask my bf about stuff..
I would still not feel very good inside...and I will just bottle it up..
Then when something happens, that's the 1st thing I will question him about...
I do want to trust him...and other ppl...but I dun even know if it's possible anymore..

作者: news 時間: 2008-10-1 12:04

hmmm...how come axxholes can have many gfs???

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-1 12:10

原帖由 news 於 2008/10/1 12:04 PM 發表
hmmm...how come axxholes can have many gfs???

I have no idea..lol~
Maybe they cover themselves up pretty well..
Or all their gfs were so stupid like me..~

作者: mui122 時間: 2008-10-1 21:06

assholes have their ways
they can talk themselves into or out of anything

I understand the trust issue thing
Ive struggled with it (and probably still struggling with it)
but thats something ure gonna hhave to work around
the important thing is communication tho
dont be afraid to tell him how you feel
it would be both better for you and for him that way
if hes worthy of your trust
eventually you'll realize it feels right
you wont need the facts to back things up
anyways
dont think too much
hope things work out for you

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-1 21:53

原帖由 mui122 於 2008/10/1 09:06 PM 發表
assholes have their ways
they can talk themselves into or out of anything

I understand the trust issue thing
Ive struggled with it (and probably still struggling with it)
but thats something ure gonn ...

Well, my bf knows me for 6 years already and liked me in those 5 years~
So he knew what was going on and I also told him about it..
I told him I can't trust him right now..even if I wanted to..
And I really try hard but at this point I just can't trust people..
He seems to be very understanding~ He said he will try his best to gain my trust back~
So I am grateful~

作者: kabuki 時間: 2008-10-1 22:05

Well I’ve just started a relationship.... i often wonder does he have another girl, is he lying etc etc since there are a lot of things that he do does not make sense to me. Maybe it’s coz he is lying, or maybe it’s simply coz we are from two different world and we need time to adjust to each other.

I mean, at the end of the day, you can either chose to trust a person or not. If you can’t trust that person, you might as well leave; or you can keep the relationship open/ always leave a certain amount of wakefulness in you… trust your partner, but always be skeptical of things unusual…

Relationship is a lot of work… my problem on the other hand is to be devoted to him and also see him as the one and only since the relationship is still young.... I don’t want to miss out on other good man if in case he is really lying to me… or coz we might not be compatible for each other.

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-2 05:56

I guess that's a good one~
Trust but be skeptical of things..
But I'd be doing that all the time then~ lol

The thing is tho, he always promise me he will do things and never does it!
Then he says, "Well I can't change in a day" or "I can't help it." or "My memory is not that well.." or "I am tired, I don't have time."
So whenever he says he will do something, or he will rmb to do something next time..
I always tell him, "睇o下點" or "聽住先啦" or "Whatever..I dun believe u"
And it just makes things so much harder for me to trust him..

作者: mui122 時間: 2008-10-2 06:41

tell him not to promise u anything unless he's sure he can and will do it
all guys are like that
I always tell them if you can't do it then dont promise
i'd rather go without the promise than have it but never having it come true

作者: GAClone 時間: 2008-10-2 08:58

wow soooo many girls had bad experiences here wor...but seriously. this dude u're talking about makes us guys look SOOOOOO bad! there r STILL good guys out there! it just takes "yuen fun" to meet them i guess...or go out more w/ frds and get to know THEIR frds, maybe that'll help too ;)

as for ur trust factor. i understand it's something that will be in the back of ur head from now on when u're in a relationship. but u have to be fair to ur current bf. UNLESS he's done something similar, then u can treat him w/ the same doubt. but if he hasnt shown any signs of being a terrible bf, u have to cut him some slack and treat him the way he treats u.

i would hate for my gf to keep looking at me like i will do the same thing her ex did to her. if either one of u have doubt, then the relationship will not last long, or both of u will just be in pain for the entire duration of ur relationship

hope that was semi helpful at least and best of luck la~!

作者: news 時間: 2008-10-2 09:27

yeahhh im a good guy...i dun hv a gf!!! screw the axxholesss..

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-2 11:38

原帖由 GAClone 於 2008/10/2 08:58 AM 發表
UNLESS he's done something similar, then u can treat him w/ the same doubt. but if he hasnt shown any signs of being a terrible bf, u have to cut him some slack and treat him the way he treats u.

Does doing something similar before dating me counts?
Cuz he used to date around A LOT..
He's dated with almost all the girls on his cheerleading team...
He never cheated tho as far as I know of...
Just dated around and flirted a lot..
I hvn't seen anything tho after he dated me~

And of cuz I've asked him not to promise me anything if he can't do it..
But he also said a good point..
He said, "If I dun promise u, u will get mad. If I promise u and can't do it, u will still get mad..so either way I am doomed.."
Maybe that's something I need to work on myself..
But he basically will say he will do it to almost everything, then not do almost everything...

作者: GAClone 時間: 2008-10-2 16:14

Hm...i think if he did something before, you still have to treat him the way he is NOW. he might have been a stupid dude before and went around, but if he's more settled down now, then you should give him the benefit of the doubt. and you like him for him NOW right? not for what he WAS or HAS done before.

The second note...that's your own mentality that you will need to get over. if either way he is still doomed, then there's not much he can do about it...he's your boyfriend and not Superman, so he will love you the best he can, but his life cannot always revolve around yours.

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-2 19:27

Well he does seem to be more settled down now..
Even his mom was saying that to me that he's been so "gwai" after he dated me..
I dun even think he went clubbing once after he started dating me..
And he used to go and get drunk and flirt all the time~

Yeh..sometimes I complain to him and he said he's alreadi tried his best to make me happy~ And I do apologize after he says that becuz I know he's trying his best but at the back of my head I just hv this crazy idea that he will do something wrong..altho my heart knows that he won't do anything..at the back of my head I m always cautious..

作者: GAClone 時間: 2008-10-2 21:00

if he seems more settled, then take that he is more settled now and have trust in him ^______^ not sure how old u guys r, but young guys always go flirt anyways ga la~ seems to be the nature for every growing boy XD cant really change that fact i guess. have to accept him for who he is~ and he should do the same for you! i am FAR from a love guru, hope im not trying to make myself sound like one...hahaha

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-3 11:59

I will try harder I guess..I will have to..~
If I want to keep him..~

I think all the bad people will karma...

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-6 21:34

佢今日msg我, send o左同我傾偈o個個女仔個blog俾我睇。
然之後話："長話短說﹐ 自己看啦﹐若要人不知，除非己莫為﹐呢個話你還未有資格去講﹐因為佢自己也是同一種人。"

我覺得就算個女仔係咩人都唔關我事，而家講緊係佢係咩人。
同我有冇資格話佢根本就係兩回事。
佢俾個女仔個blog我睇對我根本冇作用…
兜唔到，lor唔到彩仲要間接承認自己做過。
我覺得好白痴。

作者: creamy 時間: 2008-10-6 22:26

原帖由 Sakura 於 2008-9-29 21:25 發表
Well..I dun even like him anymore..
But it's just that when I found out last nite..
I still got so upset cuz I felt like I've been lied to even more..
When it shouldn't even matter anymore..

He calle ...

He lied to you over and over and he has the guts to talk to you about respect? Is he even a man? I'm glad it's over, you can do so much better!

作者: Hyde 時間: 2008-10-6 22:59

why do u still talk to him?

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-7 05:44

原帖由 Hyde 於 2008/10/6 10:59 PM 發表
why do u still talk to him?

I didn't~
He just msged me~

作者: GAClone 時間: 2008-10-7 09:44

text or msn? if text then u better delete it!

作者: Sakura 時間: 2008-10-7 11:50

He offline msged me on MSN~
I didn't bother to block him, but I just ignore him~
It's funi tho to c how he still wants to turn the table around even tho he's alreadi indirectly admitted that he is a player..~

I just dun get ppl like him...
Wut he does doesn't even make sense...maybe onli to him...

作者: GAClone 時間: 2008-10-9 10:06

just block him ;)

people like him just want/like the attention. and if u reply him, then he'll feel more confident and u'll just boost his ego. besides, people like him (since he's a player) are generally over-confident to begin with

作者: Caffie 時間: 2008-10-9 13:30

I think you should block him too...

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