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作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:00 標題: 離婚問題

如父母離婚﹐有2個小孩﹐做父親的不想負責任﹐唔想俾膽養費。母親一人難以負擔供樓﹐還債﹐沒有工作經驗而且要照顧2個小孩。是否可以向法庭控訴丈夫? 如政府判決父親要俾膽養費﹐但佢賤格到唔上班羅Welfare﹐或潛水番香港並取消加國國籍? 應該點樣處理呢?

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:06

原帖由小叻於 2009-2-12 12:00 發表
如父母離婚﹐有2個小孩﹐做父親的不想負責任﹐唔想俾膽養費。母親一人難以負擔供樓﹐還債﹐沒有工作經驗而且要照顧2個小孩。是否可以向法庭控訴丈夫? 如政府判決父親要俾膽養費﹐但佢賤格到唔上班羅Welfare﹐或潛水番香港並取消加 ...

Don't let the father get away. The mom can sue him....
Don't follow my bf's mom path... she let him get away and that a$$hole never pay a penny after he left and he took all $$$ away from the family.....

By law, the father supposed to pay & take care of the kids until the kid turn 18. I think... if not, one more important thing is, don't let the kid work before finishing education. My bf's dad get away because my bf works hard in school and work.... so since he is CAPABLE to support himself through university. His dad can get away....

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:07

And also watch out he will make up some excuses that he cannot work due to sickness.

My bf 's a$$ hole dad used that excuse to get away. He claimed he has sore back and he cannot work... and he has his "own" family too...
so he "doesn't" work and "the wife" (the new woman) has enough saving... so he can be exempt.

This type of things has to handle fast.. Once you miss the chance, you can hardly sue him again....

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 11:09

小叻，
嘩。。。咁狗嘅？！
SORRY冇經驗，比唔度你咩意見。。。

作者: fibbi 時間: 2009-2-12 11:16 標題: 回復 1# 的帖子

Isn't the couple need to share the property half and half at divorce time?

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2009-2-12 11:18

唉，兩夫婦結婚時山盟海誓，點解而家會搞成咁？

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:23

OMG!! Your bf’s dad is just similar to my a$$hole dad… now my parents are talking about divorce.. coz that jerk wants to go back to HK to have his 花花世界!! (He is in his late 40’s) But he is unwillingly to pay any.. and he wants FACE.. so that’s y they are not divorced yet! I went to the family law website and understand that he is REQUIRED to pay the child support.. and I told him that he needs to pay.. but he retorted back and asked what if he has no money to pay.. what if he got no job and getting welfare..and what if he went back to HK and cancel the Canadian Citizenship.. You can’t imagine a man can be a cheap jerk like this!!!!  He made the KIDS!!! And he dun want the burdens!!  Both kids are now ( 8 and 10) I am sure that he can’t get away with it!!

And those excuses.. he already keep saying now.. he said his back hurt and can’t work.. reduced workload etc…  and he is in his late 40’s ONLY.. wow.. I wonder how bad his health is lor!

Even if he left.. not a problem.. but the damn prob is he doesn’t want to pay back the family debts!!  (he lend $$ for buying stocks.. buy new cars…go for vacations.. fixing cars…etc..and our family debts are at least 40K) The house is still in mortgage..
And what he wants now is: move to HK.. live by himself.. free from debts.. earning to live and have fun.. and then want to maintain the family but not divorce..just living separately..so that after few yrs..when he gets another bunch of debts..he can come back and ask for help!
So we dun want him to get away from it..but what if he really skip back to HK and remove Canadian Citizenship..we got no way to sue for $$

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:25

原帖由 siumaibb 於 12-2-2009 11:18 發表
唉，兩夫婦結婚時山盟海誓，點解而家會搞成咁？

年少搞大個肚已結婚時lor !!

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:30

You better hurry up and contact lawyer.
Even if your mom or you don't have enough $$$ to hire a laywer, I think you can get help from government. From what I heard from my bf, they went to government to seek help. And court order his dad to support their living (since he took all $$ and change the $$ from asset to real cash, so he has NO $$ ) , then he got scared and "tum" his mom don't waste $$ on lawyer.

They will do it on their own.... and his mom "soft heart" and believe what he say...........and ever since she went back to Vancouver (he went to Toronto...) , no way to sue him.........

and that's not the end of it... I think last year, my bf made a phone call and asked that a$$hole to pay for his tuition. He only wire 3000 to my bf and THINK he has the right to be his dad. And start lecturing my bf being does not respect him blah blah blah....and he keep making up excuses like, I have my own family to support too......and I don't have control over the $$ , it's the woman who does has control....

AND, yes, he has no money, but he has money to support that WOMAN's daughter to study university and buy expensive piano etc etc....TO support OTHERS kid not his own kid..... WTF

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:31

So my bf wire back the $$ back to his dad via his "ai ya sister"...
and never pick up his dad phone again....

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2009-2-12 11:34

Family debt? debt is under his name or with your mom?

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2009-2-12 11:37

原帖由 Nam 於 2009-2-12 12:31 發表
So my bf wire back the $$ back to his dad via his "ai ya sister"...
and never pick up his dad phone again....

good, 一開頭就唔應該問佢要, your bf should study hard, get a good life and make his dad SHAME.

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 11:43

近排我都聽問一單個老豆又係咁仆街。。。。個男人搭上洗頭妹，棄妻棄子，仲同個老婆講屋企有空房，叫個洗頭妹搬去一齊住。。。

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:50 標題: 回復 9# 的帖子

The problem is..my mom..she is soft hearted!! and she keeps thinking dad will stay with her later.. so she decided to suicide and keep the father!! but it's won't work.. i told her many many many timessssssssssss!!!

I kinda get what that jerks want.. he just wants to live and stay free...which i told my mom this is impossible as she cannot survive with the huge debts!! also he will just come back for more money when he creates another debts!!

That jerks has no sense of responsibilities and cannot foreseen any consequences. my mom told me that the reason why we move to Canada is not for our education. it is my FXXKing dad owes the bank 100k (HKD$)and need to sell the house and repay it.. and he made up a reason to sell the house is "move to CANADA" for our education.. wtf

so they clear up the debts.. and regain all the debts in CANADA again!! He doesn't know how to manage his money!! and he told me not seek lawyer or govt support becoz.. it's not going to help the kids.. as they will know my mom suicide and take will be taken away by 兒童廳﹗

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:52

原帖由 siumaibb 於 2009-2-12 12:37 發表

good, 一開頭就唔應該問佢要, your bf should study hard, get a good life and make his dad SHAME.

He did study hard and pay for his tuition.
He and I just got so mad one day when we heard about his dad from his uncle.
And he was closed to finish the education. So I suggested him to call his dad.

I just think, we shouldn't listen to one side story. Perhaps, his dad has his reason or he wants to pay and be responsible for the family now. Who know?

Then.........I regret to convince him to call his dad because ..... now, we know as a fact that his dad is an a$$.

Oh, and all the $$$ he took away was not HIS $$$. His mom is the one who make most of the $$$.........

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:53

原帖由 B仔於 12-2-2009 11:43 發表
近排我都聽問一單個老豆又係咁仆街。。。。個男人搭上洗頭妹，棄妻棄子，仲同個老婆講屋企有空房，叫個洗頭妹搬去一齊住。。。

叫條友去死啦﹗ 係佢老婆一隻腳踢佢出去﹗唔羅鏹水淋佢算偷笑﹗

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:54

原帖由 siumaibb 於 12-2-2009 11:34 發表
Family debt? debt is under his name or with your mom?

debts..most of them my mom credit cards i think.. or maybe join account.. not too sure.. those are the debts from line of credit

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:56

原帖由 B仔於 2009-2-12 12:43 發表
近排我都聽問一單個老豆又係咁仆街。。。。個男人搭上洗頭妹，棄妻棄子，仲同個老婆講屋企有空房，叫個洗頭妹搬去一齊住。。。

Not neccessary a young woman gei...

I know a friend's mom ... hook up with a married man.
She moved to Toronoto to live with "his wife" and "his familiy"....
and "the wife" just keep silent.... .

These a$$hole men are very common...
Almost most ofmy friend dad are irresponsible.. or done similar things...

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 11:56

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:52 發表

He did study hard and pay for his tuition.
He and I just got so mad one day when we heard about his dad from his uncle.
And he was closed to finish the education. So I suggested him to call his da ...

It's glad that ur bf is a good person.. and support his mom.. while hard work studying

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 11:57

That's why woman should remain financial independent and also has her own career. Not just a normal career but a succesful one.

Imagine one day, your husband leave you and debt. If you make enough money, you won't suffer too much,eh?

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 12:01

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:56 發表

Not neccessary a young woman gei...

I know a friend's mom ... hook up with a married man.
She moved to Toronoto to live with "his wife" and "his familiy"....
and "the wife" just keep silent.... .
...

most of my frd's dads are very good.. very responsible..and kind.. that's always make me feel so bad and think why i dun have a dad like that.....

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 12:08

小叻，
我祝你好。。。我燉你慘。好彩你係女，識為亞媽諗。除左唔好比你老豆逍遙法外，最重要係睇主你媽媽。你唔撐佢，冇人可以。你好大壓力都好，都要挨落去呀。我支持你！

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 12:08

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:57 發表
That's why woman should remain financial independent and also has her own career. Not just a normal career but a succesful one.

Imagine one day, your husband leave you and debt. If you make enough ...

Agree.. but it's kinda hard to maintain career while having children... or we should say 女人要戴眼識人

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 12:16

原帖由 B仔於 12-2-2009 12:08 發表
小叻，
我祝你好。。。我燉你慘。好彩你係女，識為亞媽諗。除左唔好比你老豆逍遙法外，最重要係睇主你媽媽。你唔撐佢，冇人可以。你好大壓力都好，都要挨落去呀。我支持你！ ...

我地實撐住媽咪﹐但係依家壓力來源是要同老豆見招拆招。條友好無賴﹐好賤﹐但又係D朋友面前扮可憐﹗D朋友覺得佢係中年危機﹐叫佢睇心理醫生﹗ 佢邊鬼度有病? 邊鬼度有精神病? 有病既short得甘精? 乜都plan好晒?

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 12:25

原帖由小叻於 2009-2-12 13:08 發表

Agree.. but it's kinda hard to maintain career while having children... or we should say 女人要戴眼識人

gum there is day care and our own parents ga ma.
It's hard and need other half to support us too.

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 12:30

原帖由小叻於 2009-2-12 13:16 發表

我地實撐住媽咪﹐但係依家壓力來源是要同老豆見招拆招。條友好無賴﹐好賤﹐但又係D朋友面前扮可憐﹗D朋友覺得佢係中年危機﹐叫佢睇心理醫生﹗ 佢邊鬼度有病? 邊鬼度有精神病? 有病既short得甘精? 乜都plan好晒? ...

唯有見步行啦～最緊要係你地個腦要轉得快呀！
唔好比媽媽做傻事。我覺得，你快搵政府部門求助，加拿大都好保護有需要嘅女人同兒童架。費用又可能少D呢。。。

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 12:33

多口問聲（妳唔答唔緊要）
知唔知點解你老豆無啦啦塑左？係咪第三者？

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-2-12 12:51

原帖由 B仔於 12-2-2009 12:33 發表
多口問聲（妳唔答唔緊要）
知唔知點解你老豆無啦啦塑左？係咪第三者？

唔知~ 我老豆話要番HK話左大半年~ 但我覺得係佢D損友叫佢番囉﹐因為班蛋散最近有幾個都離左婚﹗

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 13:36

原帖由小叻於 2009-2-12 13:51 發表

唔知~ 我老豆話要番HK話左大半年~ 但我覺得係佢D損友叫佢番囉﹐因為班蛋散最近有幾個都離左婚﹗

唉。
無話可說。

作者: tofu 時間: 2009-2-12 15:41

there is no such thing, family debt.  when a couple is separating, they only spite the assets, not debt.  be careful.

if you need legal help, you can either call the help line of the legal society, which they can give you simple advise by phone or refer you to a lawyer.  or you can make an appointment to see an ubc student lawyer.  can't member the name of the org, but you should able to search online.

if he is collecting welfare, there is not much you can do.  if he moves to another country, your mum can trace him and ask him to pay for the predetermined child support pmnt. the best case i knew is the guy moved back to europe and his wife can has the support pmnt directly deducted from his payroll.  so he doesn't has a chance to touch the money before it is sent to her.  not sure does it work in hk

if they have a house, make sure he cannot get a 2nd mortgage on it.  some of the private companies approved 2nd mortgage with one signature even though both husband and wife are on title.  of course much higher interest rate and smaller amount.

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