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作者: ACC-HE 時間: 2009-2-12 13:07 標題: Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence?

After talking to a few of my friends recently, seems like those who have bf/gf wish that they don't, so they can make more dramatic decision for their career life. They wish they are single at this age (~age25).

While those who don't have bf/gf usually has a more decent career life, but couldn't even have chances to meet opposite sex, and wish they can get a bf/gf.

I guess the Chinese eqv would be: 隔嚟飯香？

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 13:34

That's always the case and it's a tough call.
Best scenario is find a bf/gf before you start to gone crazy on your career.
And your other half is as ambitious as you.

Then it will be perfect. My guy and I are both workaholic and we sacraficed all the romance/fun for our future. After work, we either dun see each other.
Or we just hug for few minutes or cook dinner together.
Then watch news, then go back to the room to study on our own....

So it's really up to what you really want lor..

作者: B仔 時間: 2009-2-12 13:35

人就係咁。

作者: siumaibb 時間: 2009-2-12 13:37

it is a trade off, it all depends on what you treasure......
ask your friends to talk to their gf/bf, if they are mature enough they should understand their career decisions....

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 13:37

BTW, I slack whole day at work because it's so noisy at my office.

They are renovating the new office and installing 3 more cubics....
so I can't even focus on my work....

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 13:41

But.....it's human nature, sometimes I will be childish and nag that I want to shop as much as I can. Take so many photos like my friendsss on facebook. Go on different trips and don't worry about buying a house....

Ai... but ask me to do all these and don't have a house or enough $$ for living, then I guess I can wait for couple years before I can do all these things....

作者: dreaming 時間: 2009-2-12 13:41

I think it depends. If your gf/bf is supportive and as crazy as you, you can do some dramatic things. I really don't mind my bf do have a dramatic career life if he really wants. As long as he is not doing something illegal, I would support him all the way. It's not the end of the world even if he fails.

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 13:43

原帖由 dreaming 於 2009-2-12 14:41 發表
I think it depends. If your gf/bf is supportive and as crazy as you, you can do some dramatic things. I really don't mind my bf do have a dramatic career life if he really wants. As long as he is n ...

It's difficult sometimes.. Even if your bf/gf is as crazy as you.
once in a bluemoon, I will ask myself or him, why can't we just chill like others. Go on trips and dine out everyday? Not like we don't have that $$ to do so... then he/I will smile and "remind" each other... what we really want lor...

作者: Catpiano 時間: 2009-2-12 14:02

No wor ... my Grass is greener then my neighbor .. lol ....

作者: ACC-HE 時間: 2009-2-12 14:21

One of the toughest thing is, relocation.

I guess we all know by now that Vancouver is not really a place with booming business sector. The east (Toronto?) or down in the US are where all those big companies and high-paying jobs are.

Long D has been proven that it doesn't work, but relocating together is hard as well.

Then there's marriage... when should that take place?

These hard-to-answer questions are what ppl calls Quarter Life Crisis... (for the ~25 yrs old)

作者: jake123 時間: 2009-2-12 16:26

原帖由 Nam 於 2009-2-12 14:34 發表
That's always the case and it's a tough call.
Best scenario is find a bf/gf before you start to gone crazy on your career.
And your other half is as ambitious as you.

Then it will be perfect. My g ...

Do you mind telling us why you need to study after work?

作者: peter236 時間: 2009-2-12 17:47

Put it simply, coming over here to Vancouver was not the wisest decision.

作者: ACC-HE 時間: 2009-2-12 18:08

原帖由 peter236 於 2009-2-12 18:47 發表
Put it simply, coming over here to Vancouver was not the wisest decision.

What do you mean? Please elaborate.

作者: fibbi 時間: 2009-2-12 18:14

原帖由 ACC-HE 於 2009-2-12 15:21 發表
One of the toughest thing is, relocation.

I guess we all know by now that Vancouver is not really a place with booming business sector. The east (Toronto?) or down in the US are where all those big ...

Long D? Some do work...but it's really tough.
When to get married...I think these days people tend to get married later. I guess close to 30? So the couple already work a few years and save some $?

作者: Toppy 時間: 2009-2-12 18:34

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作者: giginium 時間: 2009-2-12 19:02

原帖由 Toppy 於 2009-2-12 19:34 發表

They want the benefits of having a GF or BF, but they don't want to spend time and energy on a relationship.

I think you're making an incorrect assumption here. I believe what ACC-HE is trying to point out is that if someone has a bf/gf, then some career-related decisions that are made can affect that person's other half. Because of this factor, having a bf/gf may sometimes make one think twice about certain career-related decisions compared to when one does not have a bf/gf.

This doesn't really say anything about whether that person is willing to invest time and energy in a relationship. Correct me if I'm wrong ACC-HE.

作者: Yui 時間: 2009-2-12 21:29

I know some people choose to work 14 hours a day to develop a "successful" career and make more money, meanwhile, give no time to the relationship.

I guess, it's all about priority and personal values.

作者: Nam 時間: 2009-2-12 22:12

原帖由 jake123 於 2009-2-12 17:26 發表

Do you mind telling us why you need to study after work?

Study for certificate and destination.....?

作者: myversa 時間: 2009-2-13 08:45

I am content on where I am (being married and having an okay work); of course I am always looking for for better opportunities and when that time comes I do believe what my wife thinks will be a factor to my decision too.

作者: tiffiant 時間: 2009-2-14 13:44

is it all about moisture?
the grass which doesn't have the sun light, grow faster and longer....
right?

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