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作者: Littleprince    時間: 2009-4-30 11:25     標題: 戀愛的目的

戀愛﹐
是否需要一個目的的呢﹖

有些男仔戀愛可能為了解悶﹐
也有為了解決性需要﹐
又或者為了老來有一個伴﹐
陪你去看醫生
女仔呢﹐
也有為了做少奶天天買 LV 的吧 (說笑的﹐勿見怪)

你戀愛有目的嗎﹖

歡迎大家自由作答。。。

本版是可以匿名的﹐
所以請以真心作答
作者: rainbow-davie    時間: 2009-4-30 11:40

my goal:
someone let me express my love... someone cares me..  someone fills up my loneliness.  someone let me Fxxk.
作者: 布小熊    時間: 2009-4-30 11:48

戀愛的目的是戀愛
作者: 小叻    時間: 2009-4-30 11:55

戀愛既目的是﹕同自己心愛既人執子之手與子偕老~互相關懷, 珍惜, 照顧, 無論貧困與病苦~

另一半並不是為了你而生存~ 並不是為你解苦悶﹐解身體需要。這並不是愛﹗ 這是自私﹗
當另一半再達唔到你既要求就離去? 當另一半生病不能服侍你就要分手或離婚?
作者: B仔    時間: 2009-4-30 11:58

為你自己。

你戀愛為搵伴侶,為搵愛的感覺,ETC。。。BOTTOMLINE都係為你自己。
愛係自私的。
作者: chickenwingprin    時間: 2009-4-30 13:22

Human instinct; it's a built-in function in each of us to be attracted to the opposite sex, for breeding in order to keep the species from extinction.
作者: fibbi    時間: 2009-4-30 13:50

戀愛既目的是﹕同自己心愛既人執子之手與子偕老~互相關懷, 珍惜, 照顧, 無論貧困與病苦~

另一半並不是為了你而生存~ 並不是為你解苦悶﹐解身體需要。這並不是愛﹗ 這是自私﹗
當另一半再達唔到你既要求就離去? 當 ...
小叻 發表於 2009-4-30 12:55


VERY WELL SAID!
x2 x2!
作者: myversa    時間: 2009-4-30 14:13

小叻 and B仔 are on the opposite sides...
作者: beaver    時間: 2009-4-30 14:21

Get together is our basic instinct to exist. Like avoid from attack of wild life, get water and food. (It is difficult to dig a well or grow crop alone.) Select opposite sex is better because we can compensate our shortage.

Find a boy friend (or girl friend) is a process to choose the best partner that let you survive better than others.

Hope you can enjoy the process instead of suffering.
作者: habitrailspace    時間: 2009-4-30 14:27

有feel
作者: shutterbug    時間: 2009-4-30 14:46

本帖最後由 shutterbug 於 2009-4-30 15:48 編輯
my goal:
someone let me express my love... someone cares me..  someone fills up my loneliness.  someone let me Fxxk.
rainbow-davie 發表於 2009-4-30 12:40

oh...you need being loved too?...I thought you just need sex sex sex tim...

I don't agree that love is selfish.
作者: Littleprince    時間: 2009-4-30 15:11

戀愛的目的是戀愛
布小熊 發表於 2009-4-30 12:48

x 2
作者: Littleprince    時間: 2009-4-30 15:16

戀愛既目的是﹕同自己心愛既人執子之手與子偕老~互相關懷, 珍惜, 照顧, 無論貧困與病苦~

另一半並不是為了你而生存~ 並不是為你解苦悶﹐解身體需要。這並不是愛﹗ 這是自私﹗
當另一半再達唔到你既要求就離去? 當 ...
小叻 發表於 2009-4-30 12:55

說得很好﹐可是做到的人不多

這世代不是很多人在立約﹐又很多人在偷食或是離婚嗎﹖-- 我說的還是同一群人呢。。。

誘惑太多是一樣﹐沒有守約的心又是另一樣﹐畢竟我們還是受著種種的思想衝擊著﹐能真心守著婚姻到老的才能說真正的做到你說的幾點。。。而我們﹐只是在努力而已。。。
作者: 小叻    時間: 2009-4-30 15:23

說得很好﹐可是做到的人不多
這世代不是很多人在立約﹐又很多人在偷食或是離婚嗎﹖-- 我說的還是同一群人呢。。。
誘惑太多是一樣﹐沒有守約的心又是另一樣﹐畢竟我們還是受著種種的思想衝擊著﹐能真心守著婚 ...
Littleprince 發表於 30-4-2009 15:16

無錯~ 做到的人不多~~ 但連依一夥想做既心都無不是很可悲嗎??  (我自己父母就是好一個例子﹐他們就係性後愛再分﹐結果是不幸及連累所生的子女)如果覺得愛是不永恆﹐不能永遠兩人相愛﹐不能共甘苦~ 那麼你們並不需要結婚~ 婚姻並不是一時衝動~而是為了對愛的一份承諾~
作者: meowmeowmeow    時間: 2009-4-30 15:28

本帖最後由 meowmeowmeow 於 2009-4-30 16:37 編輯
戀愛既目的是﹕同自己心愛既人執子之手與子偕老~互相關懷, 珍惜, 照顧, 無論貧困與病苦~

另一半並不是為了你而生存~ 並不是為你解苦悶﹐解身體需要。這並不是愛﹗ 這是自私﹗
當另一半再達唔到你既要求就離去? 當 ...
小叻 發表於 2009-4-30 12:55


I agree 小叻 that 苦悶, 身體需要 should not be the intention.

but I also agree with B仔 that love is 自私... I want someone that I can 關懷, 珍惜, 照顧, of coz hopefully with the same return. But 當另一半再達唔到my 要求 as not loving me , not 關懷, 珍惜, 照顧 me anymore. I will try to fix it, otherwise, letting go is also a form of love...
作者: rainbow-davie    時間: 2009-4-30 15:31

oh...you need being loved too?...I thought you just need sex sex sex tim...

I don't agree that love is selfish.
shutterbug 發表於 2009-4-30 15:46


actually, i don't need to be loved that much. i like to giving out love.
you are getting me wrong la.  
I like both love & sex.  However, it doesn't mean I have to disagree people who value sex more or way more than love.  as I said, personal preference.
作者: 小叻    時間: 2009-4-30 15:49

拍拖戀愛並不是為左解悶﹐人有我要有既心態﹐求其搵個﹐一起後會真的開心嗎?

有人同你表白, 你打算是但試過之後refund 嗎? 甘樣真係鐘意你既人唔hurt嗎?? 係應該感謝你俾幾會試用他/她﹐還是覺得你將他/她付出既心淺踏? 將心比己~ 你自己承受到同樣既待遇嗎??
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-4-30 16:26

博彩耍樂需年滿十九歲以上
作者: kabuki    時間: 2009-4-30 19:16

其實,係唔知點解~~
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-4-30 20:09

有咩目的啊?要就要,戀就戀架啦,好似屙屎甘,你要屙就屙,吾想屙都吾得,有咩目的?
作者: Littleprince    時間: 2009-4-30 20:18

有咩目的啊?要就要,戀就戀架啦,好似屙屎甘,你要屙就屙,吾想屙都吾得,有咩目的?
ricrick 發表於 2009-4-30 21:09

錯窩。。。屙屎呢個比喻唔妥﹐因為屙屎你無得選擇。。。
而對於大自然黎講﹐呢個 SYSTEM 係自然產生﹐係讓你有新陳代謝﹐可以繼續生存下去的設計﹐你唔信試下一個月唔屙屎看看怎樣﹖
但是愛情唔同﹐唔係到時到候自動就有個靚女埋黎話﹕RICRICK我愛你﹐你愛我嗎﹖
呢D事唔係自然發生的窩 (係就發達囉﹐係嘛﹖ )
可是﹐愛情通常都要自己追求的﹐
凡人做任何事﹐都有目的的﹐不是嗎﹖若戀愛使你痛苦而全無快樂﹐試問你還要花錢花時間花心思繼續去 TUM你女友嗎﹖
作者: 邊少    時間: 2009-4-30 20:23

21# Littleprince


"凡人做任何事﹐都有目的的﹐不是嗎﹖若戀愛使你痛苦而全無快樂﹐試問你還要花錢花時間花心思繼續去 TUM你女友嗎﹖"

呢個正正係人生既寫照,most of the time we are suffuring and don't know what is the meaning of life. 但係我地選擇唔去諗唔去理繼續做人,過得一日得一日。
作者: tofu    時間: 2009-4-30 20:51

戀愛的目的是戀愛 x3
作者: B仔    時間: 2009-4-30 21:49

凡人做任何事﹐都有目的的﹐不是嗎﹖Littleprince 發表於 2009-4-30 21:18

不是的。
每一日,如果你可以放低目的,嚟愛一個人,你會覺得更開心,更真惜。因為,這樣你先會體會到,咩叫做LOVE LIKE THERE'S NO TOMORROW。其實係好架,當正今日唔知聽日事,當你每過一日賺一日般愛一個人。既然愛係自私,點解唔愛得更自私?
作者: tofu    時間: 2009-4-30 22:21

"""如果你可以放低目的,嚟愛一個人,你會覺得更開心"""
you are lucky, if you can find this person and won't broke up with this person.  otherwise, good luck la.
作者: rainbow-davie    時間: 2009-4-30 22:29

有咩目的啊?要就要,戀就戀架啦,好似屙屎甘,你要屙就屙,吾想屙都吾得,有咩目的?
ricrick 發表於 2009-4-30 21:09


好好笑, 但諗落又岩wor.  
戀愛就好似屎咁, 你要既時候唔黎, 唔想屙既時候又會黎.  有時頻頻屙, 有時隔好耐先屙. 人人都要屙. 你屙唔到, 有D人會笑你, 你咪因面子要隔硬屙, 有時好暢順, 有時有阻滯. 有時屙左對身體好, 但有時屙到出事. 戀愛完左, 就好似屙屎咁, 留下爛攤子, 臭氣沖天.
作者: Lil'B    時間: 2009-4-30 22:30

目的 is 開心, being love is 開心
作者: B仔    時間: 2009-4-30 23:24

如果想法同我係相反嘅人覺得愛係偉大,不是自私的。。。我問你:

你可以由此至終一直愛一個愛你嘅人

不過有幾多人,係可以由此至終一直愛一個不愛你嘅人?當你愛上一個不愛你嘅人,你或你的好友會同你講,放棄啦,唔值得。咁樣係咪真係偉大?定係自私?到頭來,你都係為了自己可以得到別人的愛。
作者: fibbi    時間: 2009-4-30 23:33

Love to me is have a companion to go through rest of my life. That person will have similar value, similar interest etc...in other words...COMPATIBLE!
To me love is not selfish, because I'm not expecting return. It's naturally doing something good for the other half. When other half have the same value, he will do the same.
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-4-30 23:35

好好笑, 但諗落又岩wor.  
戀愛就好似屎咁, 你要既時候唔黎, 唔想屙既時候又會黎.  有時頻頻屙, 有時隔好耐先屙. 人人都要屙. 你屙唔到, 有D人會笑你, 你咪因面子要隔硬屙, 有時好暢順, 有時有阻滯. 有時屙左對身 ...
rainbow-davie 發表於 2009-4-30 23:29

知我者rainbow-davie也
但係我都係隨口up,估吾到你都可以食著豆..
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-4-30 23:44

如果想法同我係相反嘅人覺得愛係偉大,不是自私的。。。我問你:

你可以由此至終一直愛一個愛你嘅人

不過有幾多人,係可以由此至終一直愛一個不愛你嘅人?當你愛上一個不愛你嘅人,你或你的好友會同你講,放棄啦, ...
B仔 發表於 2009-5-1 00:24

無錯,由始至終戀愛都是自私,你受一個人溝,都是佢比到開心你,比到幸福你,比到高潮快感你,可能你會做D野令對方開心,但係最終都係"你想"對方開心,你快樂於是我快樂。你吾會周街搵個乞衣大發慈悲去愛佢卦?所以,戀愛由頭到尾都為自己的多!
作者: B仔    時間: 2009-4-30 23:49

Love to me is have a companion to go through rest of my life. That person will have similar value, similar interest etc...in other words...COMPATIBLE!
To me love is not selfish, because I'm not expect ...
fibbi 發表於 2009-5-1 00:33

所以我咪話,你要搵個同你COMPATIBLE/夾嘅。你唔會揀個同你有唔同VALUE嘅。即係話,如果你鍾意/愛一個人,不過明知道唔夾,你會放棄,因為佢唔會自願做D同你相等VALUE嘅野(係多係少都好,終知就唔係你心目中的LEVEL),你,係有EXPECTATION=要求,係一種你理想中嘅回報,唔係咩?所以,我先覺得,愛係自私囉。如果你係冇愛的EXPECTATION,每人擇偶就唔會有要求,就唔會理夾唔夾,都會默默地永遠愛著你看上的那人啦~
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-4-30 23:50

唔係到時到候自動就有個靚女埋黎話﹕RICRICK我愛你﹐你愛我嗎﹖


係阿,你米對我講完law.. hoho
但係你放棄啦...,我地無可能架...
作者: meowmeowmeow    時間: 2009-5-1 00:05

如果想法同我係相反嘅人覺得愛係偉大,不是自私的。。。我問你:

你可以由此至終一直愛一個愛你嘅人

不過有幾多人,係可以由此至終一直愛一個不愛你嘅人?當你愛上一個不愛你嘅人,你或你的好友會同你講,放棄啦, ...
B仔 發表於 2009-5-1 00:24


That's right... once again... Love in away should be 自私...
At the end of the day, being in love should be happy, if you are not happy, then there's no point of being in love la...
The botton line is, not to hurt others, including yourself...
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-5-1 00:14

The botton line is, not to hurt others, including yourself...

但係我傷女王既朵吾係浪得虛名wor
我岩岩先拒絕左小王子小姐gi ma
作者: tofu    時間: 2009-5-1 00:32

"""Love should be 自私... The bottom line is, not to hurt anyone, including yourself..."""
there is a conflict, if love is selfish, you will hurt someone eventually.  you left the person you don't love anymore or you keep bugging the one you love or ....
作者: meowmeowmeow    時間: 2009-5-1 00:46

"""Love should be 自私... The bottom line is, not to hurt anyone, including yourself..."""
there is a conflict, if love is selfish, you will hurt someone eventually.  you left the person you don't lov ...
tofu 發表於 2009-5-1 01:32


That is just an ideal~~~ of coz everyone got hurt in love...
A love B, but B doesn't love. A will get hurt. Just try to min the "injury".
Don't attempt to hurt others intensionally...

just my 2 cents...
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-5-1 01:35

"""Love should be 自私... The bottom line is, not to hurt anyone, including yourself..."""
there is a conflict, if love is selfish, you will hurt someone eventually.  you left the person you don't lov ...
tofu 發表於 2009-5-1 01:32

吾係話自私,正確d麼該話係為自己
作者: Nam    時間: 2009-5-1 08:25

When you have to think about 戀愛的目的, then it's not love.
作者: Littleprince    時間: 2009-5-1 08:26

吾係話自私,正確d麼該話係為自己
ricrick 發表於 2009-5-1 02:35

甘你個答案同前面B花#5說的“為自己”咪岩囉﹐甘又點會係無目的唧﹖點會同你去大便一樣唧﹖
作者: shutterbug    時間: 2009-5-1 11:23

I think I mixed up 戀愛 with love after marriage.  I meant love after marriage should not be selfish.  

So for 戀愛, I guess to a certain degree you need to consider if the person is the right person for you, fits you.   Does that mean you're selfish  or you're just responsible and true to yourself?
作者: meowmeowmeow    時間: 2009-5-1 15:28

吾係話自私,正確d麼該話係為自己
ricrick 發表於 2009-5-1 02:35


yeah... 為自己 is important la...
作者: tofu    時間: 2009-5-1 17:26

truth love shouldn't be selfish, but still any truth love in the real world.
therefore, 為自己 is important la... x2
作者: ricrick    時間: 2009-5-2 00:39

甘你個答案同前面B花#5說的“為自己”咪岩囉﹐甘又點會係無目的唧﹖點會同你去大便一樣唧﹖
Littleprince 發表於 2009-5-1 09:26

戀愛本身是無目的,你鐘意米鐘意law = 屙屎
但係找戀愛的對像便是有目的 = 搵合適的廁所屙屎
作者: meowmeowmeow    時間: 2009-5-2 00:49

戀愛本身是無目的,你鐘意米鐘意law = 屙屎
但係找戀愛的對像便是有目的 = 搵合適的廁所屙屎
ricrick 發表於 2009-5-2 01:39


Don't use 屎 la..   Don't compare 戀愛 to 屎 la...
作者: shock28    時間: 2009-5-3 23:07

戀愛本身是無目的,你鐘意米鐘意law = 屙屎
但係找戀愛的對像便是有目的 = 搵合適的廁所屙屎
ricrick 發表於 2009-5-2 01:39



so true!! ricrick u are so smart
作者: mcjohnjohn    時間: 2009-5-3 23:54

戀愛的目的?....
well, 小弟真係唔覺得戀愛係有目的架woh...
唯一諗到既就係可以同最愛既人分享啦~
作者: MoiRhapsody    時間: 2009-5-4 00:12

生仔。
作者: B仔    時間: 2009-5-4 07:47

生仔。
MoiRhapsody 發表於 2009-5-4 01:12
應該係練習搵仔生先啱。。。
作者: rainbow-davie    時間: 2009-5-4 09:58

生仔? for what?  for BBQ pork?
作者: Littleprince    時間: 2009-5-4 10:27

so true!! ricrick u are so smart
shock28 發表於 2009-5-4 00:07

you must be his girlfriend

rickrick: teach your g/f to be more humble la
作者: shock28    時間: 2009-5-4 16:21

you must be his girlfriend

rickrick: teach your g/f to be more humble la
Littleprince 發表於 2009-5-4 11:27


i am a dude .... how dare you think that im a girl - -




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