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作者: chrichri 時間: 2009-5-18 13:57 標題: 婚後的家務

結左婚既男士們,你地有幫老婆手做家務嗎?

結左婚既女士們,你地都係一腳踢甘做家務嗎?

結婚前老公都有幫手做家務, 但係結左婚後成日要叫好多次先會幫手,
自己做左吾使等, 成日要叫好多次先會做.
以前都吾覺有甘多野要做，而家先知一個婚後既女人都幾忙 ga

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一星期五日返工, 放工make dinner,/ 做家務, 放假更家要做 because of laundry, cleaning up bathroom, kitchen, vaccum and etc.

有時話完叫完都會幫手做家務, 過左幾日米又吾記得.
有時make完dinner, 明明好食又吾鐘意.

來來去去, 不段重複甘話, 最後都係一腳踢做bunbun.
我老公成日都話: "我mut都無做, 都吾知你吾開心d mut"
無論我講幾多次我吾開心因為你 mut都吾, 要我做都係無用.

算啦, 我認命.

作者: ricrick 時間: 2009-5-18 14:06

呢d老公要羅去打把

作者: ricrick 時間: 2009-5-18 14:12

不過佢都係錫你既，佢都吾會呼呼喝喝叫你做，只不過懶姐，你呼喝佢叫佢做咪得law

作者: somewhereintime 時間: 2009-5-18 14:14

結左婚既男士們,你地有幫老婆手做家務嗎?
結左婚既女士們,你地都係一腳踢甘做家務嗎?

結婚前老公都有幫手做家務, 但係結左婚後成日要叫好多次先會幫手,
自己做左吾使等, 成日要叫好多次先會做. ...
chrichri 發表於 2009-5-18 13:57

Well, I do most of the house works except laundry, my wife is very fuzzy and
want it done in certain way

作者: katamari 時間: 2009-5-18 14:23

I think every family is different. But I think your case is very typical

作者: Austin 時間: 2009-5-18 14:25

1# chrichri

I do all the laundaries, the dish washing, cook 2 to 3 meals per week.

Nowaday there are many men willing to share house work.

作者: Ultraman 時間: 2009-5-18 14:45

Not like the olden days, where guys go out for work and gals stay home as "housewives". Nowadays, very likely both husband and wife work for a living or a better living. Sharing house work is very reasonable, and I think guys should have no excuse that "I don't know how to do this and that...". To well communicate with your other half for what you need and what makes you happy and unhappy is also important.

作者: Purpleheart 時間: 2009-5-18 15:41

我唔知你老公做家務係點啦, 不過男人做家務通常都那手唔成世

所以好多時寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野, 之後舒舒服服看電視啦! 叫佢做, 做得唔好又要幫佢執手尾, 真係自己做好過啦, 係咪?
我自己都係一個禮拜返五日, 同你一樣放完工返黎真係唔想煮架!! 你咪試下 sunday night 煮多少少野, 然後可以 monday and tuesday night 食返囉, 又或者煮o的簡單既小菜, 同時你可以吸下塵清理下雪櫃....etc

不過佢都唔係完全唔駛做, 例如燈膽燒左, 或者琴高琴低擺落/ 去東西就留俾佢做啦 ~ 你老公有冇野做其實係睇你o者~~ 係咪?

作者: 布小熊 時間: 2009-5-18 15:50

本帖最後由布小熊於 2009-5-18 15:55 編輯

well... My bf helped me to vacuum. I am so allergic to dust that I cannot stand vacuuming. But at a certain "break point" (e.g. asked 3 times.. and over 2 weeks) I will do it myself too.
And well he should do dishes after dinner but... that doesn't always happen... And I got so mad about sink with dirty dishes because I just can't cook with a sink like that....
anyway... it's hard...
well we are not married... so guess I shouldn't complain.

作者: tofu 時間: 2009-5-18 16:02

""有時make完dinner, 明明好食又吾鐘意""
do you two like different taste ar? like one like sweet & another one like sour ar.

get a maid to work 4hrs/wk will help

作者: mcjohnjohn 時間: 2009-5-18 17:44

基本上, 而家屋企所有既家務都係小弟做.
不過, 小弟屋企係"無飯"家庭, 所以其實都唔係好多家務要做之麻~

作者: bearbear 時間: 2009-5-18 21:28

我都有同感呀. 我結左婚幾個月,已經feel到老公變咗, 回想返以前追我同剛拍拖果陣, 佢對我同我屋企人都好細心同好尊重, 但依家就自己鍾意點就點, 又發脾氣, 唉. . .

作者: tequila 時間: 2009-5-18 21:46

i'm glad that my bf will help out with some of the chores on a daily basics.. he would help out set out table for dinner and clean up after dinner.. or when i cook he will clean and vice versa

but of course i will never know what he will become after married.. lol

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-5-18 21:50

家務呢~~我覺得無分邊個做邊個唔做既~~ 我自己做慣家務~見到老公仔姐手姐腳仲火都黎埋添啦~~ 通常我會叫佢乖乖地唔好郁~~ 不過當我唔想洗碗時~~就會叫佢幫我洗架啦~~

作者: mikki 時間: 2009-5-18 22:37

Me and my hubby have our set areas of responsibilities. You can try that.

作者: meowmeowmeow 時間: 2009-5-18 23:28

我唔知你老公做家務係點啦, 不過男人做家務通常都那手唔成世

所以好多時寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野, 之後舒舒服服看電視啦! 叫佢做, 做得唔好又要幫佢執手尾, 真係自己做好過啦, 係咪?
我自己都係一個禮拜 ...
Purpleheart 發表於 2009-5-18 16:41

yeah... sometimes really "寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野", but sometimes I'll let him to do it just for the sake of it... it is important to him feels that he is responsible (or suppose to do it), and from that they will appreciate more of what you did.

作者: 小叻 時間: 2009-5-18 23:37

haha.. just like asking ur hubby to clean up the messy stuff to train him?? LOL..last time i bought some coke... and coz we are so thirsty..we put 4 cans of coke..inside the freezer... and we totally forgot abt it..until the next day..when i open up the freezer to find something to eat..found out all coke exploded..super messy..and i screamed..and my bf clean up the whole mess for me (無奈地) LOL

作者: fibbi 時間: 2009-5-19 00:16

We both agreed before married that what housework we are going to do. I will do cooking, cleaning washroom, wiping the floor and he'll do vacuum + dishes plus taking out garbage. So "no argue" after married lor.
But of course, if he's busy I'll help him out or when I'm busy or tired he'll help me out la.

作者: chrichri 時間: 2009-5-19 22:21

yeah... sometimes really "寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野", but sometimes I'll let him to do it just for the sake of it... it is important to him feels that he is responsible (or suppose to do it) ...
meowmeowmeow 發表於 2009-5-19 00:28

totally agree... exactly!!! i don't need to him to physically do anything.. i like him to be enjoy whatever he is doing at home. i feel happy and sweet to take care of him, but it is really the feeling of being appreciated or thankful and knowing that he wants to take responsibility of his home are basically enough. Even sometimes if he will ask if he can help out, but not doing it, i will still be really happy. I agree and i still believe in traditional family, where women will do most of our house works.
However, doing houseworks after work and still working without feeling of being appreciated is just frustrating sometimes. we talked about it last night. i think we will be ok. Thanks so much for understanding how i feel .....

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