Survivors Guide to : Loneliness

goldie

(This is NOT for people who are popular and do not know what LONELINESS is...)
When you are desperately lonely, but you really want to connect, what should you do?
This is a quote from Tiffiant:
"i don't know what to do............
just no one accompany me for a long long time"
http://www.loyaukee.com/forum/vi ... &extra=page%3D1  
Can LYK share experience on how to overcome loneliness, and get some new friends?

tofu

get yourself busy, tired & focus on something.

goldie

well if you get yourself busy tired and concern over LYK you are not going to get some REAL friends are you?

tofu

hm.....i think we have different meanings of loneliness.  for me loneliness is a feeling which you can have it while you are with a group of friends.
i didn't say "concern on lyk" wor.  if you want to meet some new friends, go to take some classes or be a volunteer.  whatever you are interested.
even in lyk, you can meet some friends ar. http://www.loyaukee.com/forum/vi ... &extra=page%3D3

myversa

Let me think, what did I do at that time....

I woke up and went to work.  After work, I went straight home and ate dinner.

After dinner, I went upstairs right away either playing video games or watching dvds.

I sometimes played basketball on my own on my backyard.

I did not really feel lonely then but now it sounded to me that I was pretty "lonely" back then...

goldie

4# tofu

but what if you are so desperately lonely and have been lonely for so long, that you could not even summon energy to pick up the phone and call your friends?

goldie

5# myversa

sounds like you were not lonely, because you were in love with your work?

myversa

actually I did not love with my work at that time.  I treated it as daily routine.

I would give advice, if he really friends, try to take public transit (I got to know some people from bus too), to play sports (like drop in basketball), to volunteer work or to go to church or Tsi chi meeting., or if he likes to enjoy the time alone like me, find something quite to do to pass the time.

somewhereintime

8# myversa
I  agree "Loneliness " is a feeling, some time you would feel lonely even you
you were in a large group of people.
I'm affiliated  with many groups,  community, professional, educational and
religious so I can always find company to talk to.
I meditate when I'm alone.

goldie

Tiffiant ~~~
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