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agree w/ pepsis2...unfortunately there's a timeframe for female being. just have the idea bared in mind n' be open n' positive in meeting male frds....a metaphor i heard of is like CAREER PATH. fire out as many resumes to jobs "of ur interest"   <--- MOST CRUCIAL. dating then, is like interview... n' relationship is Job opportunity.
u may figure the rest...
dress to impress ar hair cut ar --> business code
promotion --> serious relationship or advanced enough, marriage in this case.
then supervisor or CFO or CEO  --> depends on ur interest n' needs for freedom in a marriage.

rought fact is......jump as many boats when u r young before settle down...but each JOB OPPORTUNITY requires pre-requisit n' heart n' effort n' baring n' understanding n' (usually) years before advancing.

jump boat or apply to a company PURELY based on ur relative's n' even strangers are just wrong, as u shouldn't let OTHERS manipulate ur career choice

Wee

just so easy to say "be independent and internally strong and don't rely on guys(or partner)" when one is young n' ruthless.  

it's all personal choice, whether stay single or enter a marriage with a guy u don't profoundly "love". depends on what sorta purpose "marriage" serves to you. a lover? a lifelong partner? a family component? a fultillment of life? or an old age security? be honest to yourself upon the definition of marriage. by all means if u can bare the risk n' be prepared for the tradeoff, eg. ur one true-love may not be a good life partner, old age security has more than 1 dependent...

love...doesn't always conquer all esp when the time span is long
of cuz being financially independent n' strong on your own is needed, but does NOT mean u must reject to marry a guy u do not profoundly love -- IF -- marriage to you is combination or love + part of life + daily needs.

Wee

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-6-10 09:54 發表

i guess you misunderstand my message a little bit

the situation that i mentioned is something like, the relationship cant advance because of the aforementioned factors, but was still going on.  then ...

probably a lack of confidence in either side?

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原帖由 布小熊 於 2008-6-10 14:42 發表

haha I agree 100% with Alc this time on marrying your love and only your love!

"You don't marry someone that you can live with.
You marry someone you cannot live without!"

You will find life supe ...

seriously not being sarcastic, i'm glad to see some ppl on this planet still believe in true love in a stranger-to-begin-with.
or probably i'm jsut the minority not-believing.