utopia

相反，如果你選擇做一個nobody, 又會有D人覺得你怪，爛神祕，太靜，唔入群。

twin,

you talking about me??

Anyways, I think I have the same problem with purple heart.
Not sure how you think about me , twin.
But I never have a lot of friends but I am always there to help people and friends. Always polite ga wor...
oh well.... may  be I just look much like b*tch or cocky?

utopia

Well, I guess I know what's my problem is and trying to address it slowly. I guess I'm not shy but defensive in front of girls? It's just my personality is very straightforward and not a calculating person. Things to me doesn't matters at all, people would expect a lot. Things that I won't put it in my hear, people would remember it until they die. Especially, after few betrayals from girls, (real ones), I become very defensive in front of girls..and very careful on what I speak.... I only open my heart to girls that I trust completely, for instance, my twin So most of the time, I'm very quiet in a group ....

Brave and outgoing? hahaha, that's something I never able to accomplish...I'm not brave but I'm strong deep down in my heart. Being strong, doesn't mean I won't cry but I can quickly stand up and move forward after failure.


Twin,

Heheheee, thank you for your comments on me lol.
I love you lots too.., that's what I always tell caveman.
I understand your good and bad but overall, I still love your goods more than bad kakakaka.

utopia

Sazabi,

Ever heard of people who always hold their anger, eventually will burst the limited and gone crazy?

utopia

Purpleheart,

I agree with siumaibb, I'm not saying you are wrong but you sounds like the "old me". Talk to your bf or friends, ask them what do they think about you. Not saying the goods but bad. It hurts but open your heart and listen and try to address it.

Sometimes, we just don't realize little things and habit can drive people nuts. Especially, if you remain quiet at work, the misunderstood will just getting worse. Not saying you have to argue with them but just pick a better opportunities to explain.

Don't just say to yourself, I'm innocent and I'm a good person  and I don' t mean that way. Try to put yourself in their shoes, then you will find a difference. Good luck .

utopia

你們說得很有道理o的人就係唔識檢討自己~~~
我亦唔會 care 人地的想法~~~----> I hope you are not talking about people here on LYK who try to help you because I re-read the posts. I can only sense straightforward but not aggressive tone.

I guess my English is not good enough to express myself.
By saying innocent, I mean "not guilty" .

我亦唔會 care 人地的想法 ---> then you should never started this topic and ask for opinions. Opinions hurts sometimes, that's why I mentioned, open your heart to listen to opinions, even the bad comments.

If you are looking for comfort, you should stated earlier, so that we can response accordingly.

Work place is never an easy place to survive. There is no differences between Caucasian Company or Chinese company. It just Chinese do it on the surface or too obvious but Caucasian use a more subtle tone.

If you really seeking for help and want to improve the situation, you can buy some people skill self help book without hearing " harsh" comment.

p.s. I'm not picking a fight nor being against you. you can ignore my post if you want

utopia

原帖由 siumaibb 於 2008-4-18 10:52 發表


utopia，咁你又唔洗咁慶，睇得出你有心幫佢，可能言語間有誤會嗟。。take it easy....

Siumaibb ar,

I'm not mad at all wor, I just want to make it clear.