How do you trust someone again?

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發表於 2007-12-18 16:11 | 顯示全部帖子

i absolutely agree... or finish a bottle of JD first (which she gave me for birthday)... then blindly revisit the 2 options...

i just dunno... i hate to put a leash on her... it wouldn't be fun... i guess the problem is that she's not the clingy type... and even if i were to put a leash on her... what good does that do... as much as i hate to say it... i kinda feel that the magic is gone so to speak... umm...

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發表於 2007-12-18 17:44 | 顯示全部帖子

quick and nasty version...
- she cheated on me...
- she wrote some nasty $hit behind my back...

i was very hurt... when i confronted her... she denied all those... then she finally came clean (after i hung up... and our common guy friend called her and convinced her to come clean)...

when i dumped her 3 times this weekend (Friday/Sat/Sun)... she was very apologetic... i was strong enough to say no all 3 times... but then she was bawling when i gave her her things back... and i caved in... she kept begging for a 2nd chance... i said i'll need 3-6 months to think it over... then my co-worker was like if you really want to give her a 2nd chance... you would fully know in a week's time...

she said she'll change... personally i don't know... i can only picture her cutting the relationship (instead of me) after 2/14... those "big" dates...

part of me wants to let the world know what she did to me... (plus her hidden problems) for the way she hurt me... part of me wants to help her with her problems... but by getting back at her... she won't ever trust me to allow me to help her with her problems... and then part of me believes that she'll really change this time (too damn naive)...

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發表於 2007-12-18 19:59 | 顯示全部帖子

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2007-12-18 19:25 發表
she cheated, i think there's SOME chance of forgiving...for the sake of love.

BUT she back stabbed you, imo, i think you should just stand firm & dump her. 唔好講佢係你條女咁嚴重喇，就算basic d既關係， ...

i just don't know... maybe i'm just blinded... i would do so much for her... but i don't sense anything in return... if i ask her to pickup some cough drops for me... she does it... but then she would bitch about it on her journal... ooookay...
every month, i would buy her gifts... yet she doesn't buy anything (which is okay)... but the real reason (written by her on her blog) was that she saw this as an empty investment... when i confronted her Sunday night... she said those were silly comments and she doesn't feel that anymore... (granted those were written 2mths ago)... i just don't know...
- love is blind... and Pooner is stupid...

Re: JD... she got that for me before we started going out... it was to ease my pain about becoming older... which i thought was kinda cute... drink my pain away... i guess time to break open that bottle now...

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發表於 2007-12-18 20:03 | 顯示全部帖子

原帖由 yungfourfour 於 2007-12-18 19:34 發表
Yeah

She cheated, but she didn't admit it
how much/how far do you think you can communicate/connect with her FOR LIFE?

Seriously, she still didn't cut off THAT relationshiP?
then how can you re-thin ...

what made me mad was that she's always unreachable... and then when i found out what happened... all the pieces felt into the right place... i think i'm definitely too weak and soft... i managed to dump her 3 times... yet she's able to make me swtich my final answer... and i'm way too optimistic in thinking thta i can change her ways... but deep down i know i can't... but i always have this small hope... that's coz i'm that type of person i guess...

i just see myself being hurt again... but seriously... part of me really really thinks that she'll change... but jeez... will someone please ship me off to an island where i can be isolated for a good few months to think clearly...

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發表於 2007-12-18 20:07 | 顯示全部帖子

by the way, there was no "other relationship"... use your wildeset imagination... think of how else can you term the word "cheated"...

fcuk myself for being so forgiving... i should just dump her again... seriously...

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發表於 2007-12-19 00:22 | 顯示全部帖子

thanks for all your comment guys...
i believe my course of action will be to take a break from her... kinda revisit "us" again sometime in the spring (which is pretty unlikly)... i just don't know if i should "talk" to her during the break... i've known her since elementary... and we've been good friends since... i guess i just don't know if we can still be friends after all this crap... i guess my good nature tells me that i want to see my friend get better... thing is... my friends says she doesn't see me as a friend for treating me like that... what can i say... i'm a good person... and a dumb person...

ahhh who knows... between now and the time i talk to her again (sometime soon)... i might as well just call it over again... for a final time...

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發表於 2007-12-19 10:31 | 顯示全部帖子

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2007-12-19 08:48 發表
Mr. Lik,
hmm... to me, if i have nothing better to do, i would focus on encountering a new girl.
even if you take the girl back for further exploiting... in the eyes of other people, you are still a ...

i guess here's the thing... if i don't have contact during the "break" time... how would i know she's not carrying her old habits... i might as well just call it off now... so damn troublesome... i can understand why some of my buddies choose to be single now...

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發表於 2007-12-19 12:33 | 顯示全部帖子

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2007-12-19 12:06 發表
pooner,
if you still have faith in her, then make it less complicated: just take her back and you will know. if you can't really let go & keeping in contact with her is so tempting... then you mind as ...

haha... yes Ma'am...
=P

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發表於 2007-12-19 13:34 | 顯示全部帖子

what do you want me to say... i'm a very optimistic person... and i do believe in 2nd chances...
which is also my weakness for sure...

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