myversa

I sort of have two jobs.  During the day, I am a computer programmer but after I get off work at 5:00, I drive to my food court restaurant to help out.  I am a cashier, kitchen helper, cleaner and server.  The restaurant closes at 8:00 so by the time I get home, it is already 9:00pm.  My wife is at restaurant all day.

I used to think like you and tried to helped out the restaurant 7 days too.  However I soon realized there was not much conversation between my wife and me.  By the time we went home, both of us took shower and we almost were in time for bed.

Therefore, we tried to at least get Sunday afternoon so we can spend some quality time together.

Work is important but your family is too.  You will regret that when you are young, you miss  alot of good times.  You should try to take some time off and be with your gf (at least like me, get Sunday off).

myversa

I agree with LOK.  "More money get your a better gf" thinking is just wrong.  It just implies that girls are looking for money.  I am not rich but I am happily married.   My wife is one of the nicest women in the planet.  You might be able to buy women's body with money but not their hearts.

You are still young and you can focus on your career.  If you have a gf in the future, you should take a step back and relax and spend more time with that gf than your ex.  Otherwise, the relationship is not heathy.

myversa

Men and women are from different planet. To men, they love a woman, he spend all his time to be romantic to get that woman. Once he felt he secured from the battlefield, he will switch back to his normal routine. He thinks money and stable future is everything and he thinks his woman will understand because he is doing all the hard work for their future.

This is totally untrue.  At least for me.  Of course I think money and stable future is important but it's not the most important for my wife and me.  I insist we spend Sunday afternoon together and try to do some romantic things together once and awile.  We even had agruement with our cook who is always our partner in the restaurant.  He blamed us for not going full force and blamed us to take Sunday afternoon off for the newly open business.  Our restaurant opened almost half year now.  I had to tell him that we do not want to sacrifice our marriage over this.  For my wife she works there from 9am to 9pm 7 days a week, and she deserves to take break at least half day.

Maybe I am not rich but at least I am happy.

To doraemon1002

It's best for both your gf(future or ex) to find a job so she would not think too much.  If both of you have jobs, you would earn as much or maybe more than what you are earning now and you can concentrate on one job and spend more time with her.  In addition she can use her own money to buy stuff and yours can be saved up for both of your future.  (actually in my case, I use my money to buy stuff and hers is saved up... )