pepsis2

Dun be stupid! u think $8 is cheap????? don't put a price tag on gals!

My honey bought me a dollar shop gift for Valentine & I'm soooo happy about it! Why u guys rate "LOVE" by "PRICE TAG"??? I beg u should ask ask your dad what's the last gift he bought for your mom.... if he says "oh i can't remember... so  long time ago..."
but it doesn't mean he doesn't love your mom bor....
He shows his love from daily life by taking care the family & so & so...

LOVE is about "giving", not "receiving".

Wake up gal!

pepsis2

ar alcoholic....

wei u never mention the story ends up "he saved it up & gave it to somebody else! " before bor...
i agree w/ u that if that's the case he's cheap ar...
Not dare to give the gift to her? hey.. u know nobody really gets the whole picture of the whole story... maybe he's shy.... chicken out.... or ur fd has already "refused" him so no face to go to the party... can be many reasons... nobody can judge his action....

but... u said that gal is your best fd, & he asked u to shop for her b-day gift.. I think he has done a bit of thinking... why bother to spend a whole day wandering in shopping mall (GUYS HATE IT) w/ u for a gift???????

really i think many guys dunno what's good to get for girl (esp for those still "in process")...  
think in another way... maybe he's thinking of what's good for her but end up every idea is BS so he came for ur help...  

all i wanna say is... don't judge ppl so easily ... u never know the whole thing

pepsis2

haha.. funny side story... from $50 to 50% off...
frankly i'm a outsider of the story, which i dunno u nor the guy nor the girl in the story. I just provide comments based on ur side of story. but i really enjoy discussing it w/ u on internet (maybe that's the really why ppl use forum).. at least know how others think in various matter...

NEway.  Each person is diff. I strongly agree that we all have freedom to express our POV.
I just wanna remind all gals.. esp for those who r in U or recent grad or 1-2 yrs work exp.... watch out for those ones who value by $ sign...

That's my real personal experience ... I  used to be a sensitive "gift face value" type of person.... used to have a long relationship bf (now xbf) w/ great salary (top 1% of salary $ in Canada); great edu & family background & social status... balahahlal... all the thing ppl think considered to be "good". I used to think he's good too.. until u get along w/ him more....

i dun wanna say bad thing about my X ... all i can say is he grades everything (family, coworker, fd, marriage....) by $ sign (or prospective $ value / benefit or how many thing he can "USE" that person)...  horrible value of life.... but i got tons of brand name things & got invited to those VIP party & dine-out in expensive restaurants or so... hey.. fun at first.. but what else? end up i couldn't stand it & broke up w/ him... aii...

That's the saddest part of the story... the day I told him I wanna break up w/ him... he asked me out for the last time.... for goodness i said ok.. then he brought some documents to prove how much $ he owns, job prospective or so.... & told me if i can stay w/ him he'll buy me a car & house &  $300K (sth like this i dun remember)... all I wanted is to throw up rite away.... of course I refused... & he told me I'll be regret!

Now I'm w/ my common law partner living happily ever after... ahaha.. I'm sooo glad I made the right choice.

pepsis2

dear saZAbi,

hahaha...well.. after u know my common-law bf gave all his $ (income & everything) to me & just bought a new condo for our new live... u won't blame him to get me a $ store gift...

Anyway, sidestory: Valentine day he did bought me flowers ($12 for a whole big bunch from Chain store); prepared & cooked prime rib; hand-made a cheesecake; (I think the total cost of the Valentine day spending is less than $50)....I have nothing to complain for his $ store gift (coz I mentioned I had a great use of that item)... it just shows him he really really listens to what i really want...

I dunno what type of gf u have.. & ppl do have diff value... & I totally respect that... all i want to say is

(REPEAT) DON'T RATE LOVE BY PRICE TAG!

pepsis2

no u misunderstand la... he gives his $ for me to admin for him... honestly i think it's about Money Management ... I don't use his $ to buy my luxuries bor... (maybe b/c I don't buy it at all.. hahha)

let me put it in this way.. it's more like a communist system. well... since my honey & I don't really spend on luxuries.. almost 90% are for fixed costs & food... He always has $40 cash in his pocket  & a credit card.. if he has used up the cash, he comes to me for another $40 & when he buys anything home (mostly food), he gave me the receipts & I record all our spending & put it in excel & every half month we both sit down & see see what we spend...

By the way I strongly recommand for those who wants to save $. It's an extrememly effective ..ends up we save a big chunk of $ in 2 years (so we can buy a new condo & oversea holiday travel 4 times) by doing it. He's happy about the system & trust my ability to manage the $ bor...

Well.. maybe some of u view it as "weird"....

I dunno what other couples do in financing their $. My parents do it as well.

pepsis2

oh u guys r rich.. i beg u both have very well paid jobs...

Since my honey & I are young couples who just earn only average income ($80K family income is average in Canada....i'm a recent grad...u can imagine how hard to get a decent work based on little work experience ).. I do cherish the fact that we are able to save large portion of $...

by the way we do most of the luxurious shopping together (like furniture, electronics), so we make the decision together. He got a company car (included insur & gas) & company phone & laptop + our condo got free internet access & computer . So we dont' have computer & owns 1 very very old car (from my parents) which stays in parking lot forever...

Well.. We're very very happy couple.

pepsis2

hey don't disgrace yourself...
well... u or ur partner may come from rich families or get $ from parents or save a big chunk of $ before coming to Van... coz i really think it's quite hard for ordinary couple (both working)  to save up & buy a house nowaday in Van without sacraficing living standard or luxurious spending....

In our story, we started with a $3XK debt in 2006 (student loans! )... that's why i said the system works effectively...

pepsis2

I was never a big spender for luxurious goods (like handbag, clothes, home entertainment sys...), but since my honey & I both like travel alot ("FREE-walker" who will NEVER joing those duckie tour! & spend at least 1 week for a single city), we spend $ on vacation ...

Beside, although those items can be used for daily life, I prefer spending $ on holidays with my loved ones & create some quality life-lasting sweet memories... I suggest lovers do it too!!! coz whenever I look at the scapebook of our travel dairy & pix... OMG i'm just sooo glad that we have such a great time!