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well.. for destination wedding, I don't think couple will pay for guests' expanses. But it's really an honor to be invited!
I felt so bad missing my friend's destination wedding in NZ. I got a short notice less than 6 months (I knew about her wedding but I didn't know if I will be invited or not... cos it's at a resort there...). I went to Europe that same year and was so broke. And air tix to NZ was expansive... etc.
Well thinking back, I really wished I had gone to her wedding. It's a nice intimate wedding. And both the groom and bride lives in Vancouver. So I do get to see them very often.... just that I missed their wedding.

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原帖由 Ultraman 於 2008-5-18 10:46 PM 發表

Are you kidding?! If I were the couple, what am I going to lose to invite all the people who know me to attend my OVERSEAS WEDDING? Since they all pay for their own expense such as needed air tickets ...

it's at a REALLY nice resort. So they had very limited number of people that they can invite to it. (less than 40 including families) They did help arrange accommodation but NOT paying for it.

I think this is the norm. Just like people flying from HK to Vancouver to attend weddings. Do you expect to pay for all their accommodation and air tix? Or wedding in HK? I guess many of you went to HK for weddings... do you expect your friend to pay for air tix to HK?

But for katamari, it's OK if you tell your friend that you cannot go. Just want to share my thoughts.

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原帖由 Guy 於 2008-5-19 04:33 PM 發表


AGREE

i agree with them too.

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I think you felt pressured to go.... partly because your friend didn't handle it properly. He should have "check with people that he wants to invite first" before he even send you an invitation. Or mention that 20 people are "going" including you. (kind of putting all 20 ppl on the spot)

Wedding Guest List Etiquette
Destination Wedding Invitation Etiquette
Are you planning a destination wedding? Whether you're having your wedding in an exotic location or you've chosen a local venue, inviting out-of-town guests means it's a destination wedding for them. Therefore, it would be wise for you to become knowledgeable about destination wedding invitation etiquette.

When making the guest list, check with family and friends who live far away from the wedding location, and find out if they plan to attend. If they wish to attend, you should make arrangements for out-of-town guests before you send your destination weddings invitations.

If you have only a few out-of-town wedding guests, this will simplify the task. But if you're having several out-of-town guests, you will need to include lodging information, maps and even activities and events around the area. All of this information should be sent with the destination weddings invitations. In lieu of that, many couples create a web site with this information and put the URL on the destination weddings invitations.

The goal is to have all of this information researched, compiled and sent to guests so you don't have to do it when they get to town. Additionally, the guests will know that you appreciate that they have traveled so far for your special day.

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原帖由 RayRay 於 2008-5-20 09:53 PM 發表
真的去不了, 20 個friend 在BC Stanley Park 拍 條 片 連 禮 物, 禮 金 送 去. 要 求 新 娘

在 party 時 上 演, 即 場 翻 成 日 文.

有意思 , 有用途 (中國加拿大LYK助力團) 顯示對你們的friend背役勢力:lo ...

That's a great idea. Actually I planned to do this for a friend's wedding in Nov. So many of us cannot go.