Ultraman

I feel sorry for her. But wait..... if the current marriage makes her unhappy and so she decided or agreed to divorce, that means she may have a bigger chance to be happy after the divorce, so I should congratulate her instead if that is the case.

Honestly, if I am a single male, I won't consider much for my potential gf / future wife is divorced or not; I rather concern if she has any children from the past and is/are carrying forward (to me)! Doesn't mean I don't like kids or kids from other men though.

Ultraman

原帖由 BiscottiGelato 於 2007-12-13 11:59 發表
Marriage is a commitment, and also a test of tolerance. If a woman (or men for the gals) had went through divorce, doesn't that introduce risk that this person might not be all that committed, tolerab ...

I agree marriage is a commitment. But to say "a test of tolerance", hmm.... then implies the test could have good or bad result. For good result of course the marriage can be maintained, so how about bad result? That's why there would be a divorce. Or you think the couple should still stay together even for bad result? Then why the "test" is needed?
Besides, the divorced person you meet with might not necessary to be the one at fault in the previous marriage (although I believe both parties have responsibility). It's not fair to comment whether she/he was not committed or tolerate enough in the previous marriage, cuz she/he might be the innocent one. Moreover, even she/he didn't commit and/or tolerate enough in the previous marriage (or with the previous partner), doesn't mean she/he can't commit and/or tolerate the relationship with you. There must be a reason behind each relationship and divorce, but every couple doesn't work the same.

Ultraman

Honestly, just the term "divorced woman" won't scare me away; simply as I won't go for every single hot gal, I gotta understand each background/story. And of course I won't intend to aim at divorced woman only or single gal only, it's the feeling and chemistry that works out, not the title.

Ultraman

原帖由 Guy 於 2007-12-25 02:56 發表

agree

If so, same theory applies to all divorced men too la. That means all divorced men and women are not trustworthy??