離婚問題

小叻

如父母離婚﹐有2個小孩﹐做父親的不想負責任﹐唔想俾膽養費。母親一人難以負擔供樓﹐還債﹐沒有工作經驗而且要照顧2個小孩。是否可以向法庭控訴丈夫? 如政府判決父親要俾膽養費﹐但佢賤格到唔上班羅Welfare﹐或潛水番香港並取消加國國籍? 應該點樣處理呢?

小叻

OMG!! Your bf’s dad is just similar to my a$$hole dad… now my parents are talking about divorce.. coz that jerk wants to go back to HK to have his 花花世界!! (He is in his late 40’s) But he is unwillingly to pay any.. and he wants FACE.. so that’s y they are not divorced yet! I went to the family law website and understand that he is REQUIRED to pay the child support.. and I told him that he needs to pay.. but he retorted back and asked what if he has no money to pay.. what if he got no job and getting welfare..and what if he went back to HK and cancel the Canadian Citizenship.. You can’t imagine a man can be a cheap jerk like this!!!!  He made the KIDS!!! And he dun want the burdens!!  Both kids are now ( 8 and 10) I am sure that he can’t get away with it!!

And those excuses.. he already keep saying now.. he said his back hurt and can’t work.. reduced workload etc…  and he is in his late 40’s ONLY.. wow.. I wonder how bad his health is lor!

Even if he left.. not a problem.. but the damn prob is he doesn’t want to pay back the family debts!!  (he lend $$ for buying stocks.. buy new cars…go for vacations.. fixing cars…etc..and our family debts are at least 40K) The house is still in mortgage..
And what he wants now is: move to HK.. live by himself.. free from debts.. earning to live and have fun.. and then want to maintain the family but not divorce..just living separately..so that after few yrs..when he gets another bunch of debts..he can come back and ask for help!
So we dun want him to get away from it..but what if he really skip back to HK and remove Canadian Citizenship..we got no way to sue for $$

小叻

原帖由 siumaibb 於 12-2-2009 11:18 發表
唉，兩夫婦結婚時山盟海誓，點解而家會搞成咁？

年少搞大個肚已結婚時lor !!

小叻

The problem is..my mom..she is soft hearted!! and she keeps thinking dad will stay with her later.. so she decided to suicide and keep the father!! but it's won't work.. i told her many many many timessssssssssss!!!

I kinda get what that jerks want.. he just wants to live and stay free...which i told my mom this is impossible as she cannot survive with the huge debts!! also he will just come back for more money when he creates another debts!!

That jerks has no sense of responsibilities and cannot foreseen any consequences. my mom told me that the reason why we move to Canada is not for our education. it is my FXXKing dad owes the bank 100k (HKD$)and need to sell the house and repay it.. and he made up a reason to sell the house is "move to CANADA" for our education.. wtf

so they clear up the debts.. and regain all the debts in CANADA again!! He doesn't know how to manage his money!! and he told me not seek lawyer or govt support becoz.. it's not going to help the kids.. as they will know my mom suicide and take will be taken away by 兒童廳﹗

小叻

原帖由 B仔 於 12-2-2009 11:43 發表
近排我都聽問一單個老豆又係咁仆街。。。。個男人搭上洗頭妹，棄妻棄子，仲同個老婆講屋企有空房，叫個洗頭妹搬去一齊住。。。

叫條友去死啦﹗ 係佢老婆一隻腳踢佢出去﹗唔羅鏹水淋佢算偷笑﹗

小叻

原帖由 siumaibb 於 12-2-2009 11:34 發表
Family debt? debt is under his name or with your mom?

debts..most of them my mom credit cards i think.. or maybe join account.. not too sure.. those are the debts from line of credit

小叻

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:52 發表


He did study hard and pay for his tuition.
He and I just got so mad one day when we heard about his dad from his uncle.
And he was closed to finish the education. So I suggested him to call his da ...

It's glad that ur bf is a good person.. and support his mom.. while hard work studying

小叻

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:56 發表


Not neccessary a young woman gei...

I know a friend's mom ... hook up with a married man.
She moved to Toronoto to live with "his wife" and "his familiy"....
and "the wife" just keep silent.... .
...

most of my frd's dads are very good.. very responsible..and kind.. that's always make me feel so bad and think why i dun have a dad like that.....

小叻

原帖由 Nam 於 12-2-2009 11:57 發表
That's why woman should remain financial independent and also has her own career.  Not just a normal career but a succesful one.

Imagine one day, your husband leave you and debt.  If you make enough ...

Agree.. but it's kinda hard to maintain career while having children... or we should say 女人要戴眼識人

小叻

原帖由 B仔 於 12-2-2009 12:08 發表
小叻，
我祝你好。。。我燉你慘。好彩你係女，識為亞媽諗。除左唔好比你老豆逍遙法外，最重要係睇主你媽媽。你唔撐佢，冇人可以。你好大壓力都好，都要挨落去呀。我支持你！ ...

我地實撐住媽咪﹐但係依家壓力來源是要同老豆見招拆招。條友好無賴﹐好賤﹐但又係D朋友面前扮可憐﹗D朋友覺得佢係中年危機﹐叫佢睇心理醫生﹗ 佢邊鬼度有病? 邊鬼度有精神病? 有病既short得甘精? 乜都plan好晒?