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mucc1928

Hello everyone:

When i was in school, I had mnay friends.  After i graduated and started working, my firends either left Vancouver or lost contact.  I realized that my circle of friends shrinked.  2 years later,  my only group of friends is busy with their dating or personal life, so I end up being alone a lot lately.

I think my case may be a bit extreme, but I believe many Loyaukke have encountered or gone through this situation?

If so what do you do to change things around?  Not that I haven't tried to find clubs to join, but i tend to have trouble to mix into the circle even though i spent at least 3 to 4 months there.....

mucc1928

Thank you for the reply.  

Philip - if i have friends, then i would have huge gathering to attend.  The point is, I need to make my first step...and I don't know where to start, especially when i am like standing at an isolated island.  

Purpleheart - I want to find friends who i can go out with.  i even tried craiglist but they are all internet chatters, and none of them show up when we decide to meet.

librahzy - I play in a rock band, but we don't meet or talk to each other outside of the bandroom.  

Myversa - i used to think like you, but i realized that during holidays, the loneliness is too hard to swallow.  I use dto have a lot of circles, but ironically i don't have any circle anymore.

Nameless - Yes, i wish time can bring me friends, but it didn't.  so that's why i m on layaukee to ask for advices.

Slumaibb - the point is,  i need to have friends first.  But thx for ur suggestion

mucc1928

Thank you so much for all of your valuable replies.  

I believe i post at the rigth place.  I used to post at Craiglist with similar topic.  One of my replies is a guy sending his nuke pic, saying "I can fill your hole of loneliness".  And people there did not take my topic seriously.

Oh well, I enjoy all the suggestions, especially the hiking group and leadship program.  the bridge topic is also awesome.  Indeed, I am a very open-minded person.  I certainlly know how to approach people, and i constantly do this step everyday.  To start a friendship is not hard for me as I have many backpacking and work stories to tell.  To maintain friendship "fresh" is more difficult.  i don't deny that my talking is as dry as H2O, but i never stop learning and imrpoving myself.

Currenlty I have known most of my friends'friends already, but i guess we just don't mix and i don't fit that circle.  Furthemroe, i had just broke up with my gf, so thats' why i am so desperate to meet more people to turn my focus away.  

So yeah, when you are seraching clubs or groups to join, do you have any good website that list all the clubs available in vancouver?  And yeah, if loyaukee has activity, I would probably join if it doesn't crash with my work time.

mucc1928

Thank you for the replies!  But where is the badminton place?  I don't see the location in the reply.