tofu

so married a guy that love you a lot but you don't love is 愛自己一點?
樣樣事情都以對方優先反而忘了自己呢？but 樣樣事情都以自己優先反而忘了對方 is not any better either?
from this story, i heard a girl who wants to get married, because her friends are married.  she wants a great wedding but forgets her bf has no money.  she wants to plan for their future, but his education is not part of their future. so she finally married a guy who can afford to give her a fairytale wedding right away.  and just before that, she is "one foot in two boats"

tofu

"""但真的，女人的黃金年齡有限，男人就算四，五十歲，有一個廿多歲的太太都不罕有，但轉過來女人到四五十歲想結婚，就像妄想一樣。世界就是不公平的。"""
so after he passed away, the woman will use his money to buy a young guy.  this is a cycle.

tofu

i always think 適不適合 is depend on how much you love each other and how much you want to stay together.  if you love a person, you will adjust yourself for that person, you will accept everything from that person.  and you won't think you are doing too much, because you are enjoying to do it.  but at the time you think you are doing too much, probably is the time to leave la.

recently talked to a mad couple, both of them thinks s/he is doing too much for another half and another half is not doing enough.  before we summarize how much we did, should we think about how much did s/he contribute.