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AmericanBeauty,

I'm the same as you,  "a girl and don't want to get married even though I'm getting to the "approrpiate age" for getting married".  I totally agree with you that people do not need to get married in order to be happy.  I do have a bf and we've been together for a few years, and I'm very happy with him (although he does piss me off every once in a while).  We are not planning to get married yet, at least for the short time being, as we do not want any children and we want to buy a place and live together first.  I used to dream to get married at an earlier age when I was still "young".  But it seems to me that the older I grow, the more "tai taam" ("see diluted") I have become about marriage.  My cousin got  divorced within 3 years after her marriage; and I heard a few aunties/uncles (not blood-related), including my bf's parents, got divorced after married for over 20 years. My friend told me that I should get the "paper signed" to protect myself from the marriage.  However, I told him that a) I do not want to "force" my husband to be with me if he has "changed heart" because "we are legally married"...it would just make the relationship worse and worse..and b) i don't need any compensation from my husband from the divorce because I make enough money myself...and i expect a pre-nup if we're really going to get married anywayz .

It seems to me that it's not always the case that it's the MAN who doesn't wanna get married, I know a few woman have similiar thoughts like me too