kaimui22

congrats!! you just found out?? wow..that's already 3 months...so I'm guess you're over your morning sickness!

don't worry too much about the pain and the process of giving birth.....NOTHING can prepare you for it but it will work out just fine. Also, you are already 13 weeks..once you pass 12 weeks, the chances of miscarriage is very low..of course unless it's due to some accident or something. Even though having a baby might seem like it is painful, you will forget the pain once the bb is out. Also...enjoy the alone time you have right now! Being pregnant is the last time you will have alone to yourself in a long time..haha..when bb comes out, you'll be really busy.

I'm guessing the bb is not planned...but hey, sometimes it's 緣份 of the bb and you. just go with the flow and everything will turn out okay.

kaimui22

原帖由 Quest 於 2008/4/24 05:22 PM 發表
Congrats!

My son is now 14.5mnths and he is the center of our universe..

so your son is also born in Feb 2007? Cool~ what day?

kaimui22

congrats pepsis! I saw your other reply in another thread about getting married..congrats! so you are about 17 weeks now?

kaimui22

its really good to have someone with you when you are 坐月 because it will be both tiring (physically and emotionally) to take care of a baby and also yourself in the first month. maybe your mom can cook for you when you are sitting month so you don't have to worry about feeding yourself

As for breastfeeding..it will save you a lot of money (formula is expensive) but you can't always plan on being able to breastfeed. Good thing you are willing to try...i tried but my baby's tongue is too short and I didn't have any milk coming until 3 weeks later...so I ended up pumping every 2 hours to feed him.

For price breakdown....expect to spend
- $15/pack of diapers (1 or 2 packs a week at least in the first month)....I always tell people NOT to buy a box of diapers in the first month because you don't know how fast your baby will grow. Just have 2 or 3 packs of diapers ready before the baby comes and buy as you need. If you buy too many of the newborn/size 1, your baby might outgrow it before the second month!

-$30/can of formula...in the first month or so, a baby will not eat too much at each meal but will drink frequently.....so maybe 1 can will last you 2 weeks? but later on, a can will only last you 5 or 6 days...and you will have to buy 5 or 6 cans of formula a month (if fully fed on formula). Formula is expensive!!..but it also depends on what kind you get. If you get the regular, supermarket brand ones with or without Omega 3 and 6, it might only cost you $15/can. If you get the brand names (similac, nestle..etc), it will cost more.

- baby wipes...we use the Kirkland kind (at Costco) because it is the cheapest and also the best one we've tried. We tired pampers and huggies wipes before but they always left some white residue on the baby's butt. Kirkland wipes are thick and also moist and don't fall apart. i think it is about $16 for a big box (8 or 10 packs?)

As for baby accessories....I think :

crib and/or playpen
co-sleeper (if you plan to sleep with baby),
breastfeeding pillow (trust me..your hand will be tired if you keep holding baby)
sling or baby carrier
bouncer (good to keep baby safe while you can eat or do other stuff)
baby bath tub (easier on your back than to use the regular bath tub and waste less water too)
diaper genie or diaper champ

you don't really need a changing table because usually I just put a mat on top of the bed and change the baby there. or sometimes we just change the baby in the crib because it is easier than to move the baby around and as the baby gets older, a changing table becomes dangerous because the baby might roll or try to climb off the table.

Generally having a baby can be expensive...but there are many ways to safe. For example. you can always buy second hand stuff. Since a baby grows up really fast, a lot of clothes and stuff are not worth buying new. You can buy second hand clothes and pillows (you can wash the cover) and save a lot of money. If you go to Kidswap (giant garage sale for kids and baby stuff), you can usually find really good deals.).

But for carseats..you should buy brand new unless you' know the history of the used carseat and make sure it has not expired and has never been in an accident!

kaimui22

cloth diapers are great....if you get a diaper company. some companies will give you a bucket, you put all the dirty cloth diapers in, and they will wash and dry and deliver back to you....

otherwise, expect to do a lot of rinsing, washing and drying! ..remember, after every poop or pee, you have to rinse the diaper right away or else it will stain the cloth diaper. And...when you go out with your baby, what if he/she poops or pees? You will have to carry a dirty diaper until you get home to wash it!

but...if you have the time and energy to do it, I'd say good for you. it's friendly for the environment and will save your money in the long run. But remember, cloth diapers are NOT cheap at all. Nowadays, most have velcro tabs (no safety pins) and you will also need to buy a diaper cover (vinyl..like a swimming pants) just in case your baby's diaper leak.

kaimui22

babies don't really develop a pee/poop "pattern" until much older than one month...sometimes not until 1.5 years old!! My baby is now 15 months old and still no pattern for peeing yet. Even adult don't have pee pee patterns...you just go when you need to go! It's not like you can hold on to the pee to a certain time frame...haha

but poop...my baby developed a pooping pattern around 6 or 7 months...he'll poop at dinnertime every night...even if we go out to eat or stay at home, once we put the food out, he'll poop.