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When one has a set of habits, values, opinions, routines and others, it can be settled that way for a long time.  Because he/she believes in it, and it's how he/she lives and copes with his/her life.  Thus conflicts started when expectations cannot be met.

But it can be controlled. 華美子, it's not about hoping it all will end.  Your mother-in-law will come to realization, she will change or whatsoever.  It's you who need to find a way to accept her, to accept your differences.  Because it is something you do have control over.  OK, her cooking is bad, because she has to cook everything to almost like pureed form.  Well, how about thinking it's easier for chewing?  She ruined your kitchen appliances, how about thinking she is really not familiar with the tools?  What matters is she really care and want to help you guys.  Just don't know how to please you guys.  As a mom, who wants to be taken as a crazy maniac instead of an affectionate person?  Start accepting her, and it can be easier for all of you.

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原帖由 yayaya 於 2008-1-4 21:38 發表
hahahaaa,,it's funny...
but I think every woman wants her family members to eat what she cook

That's funny! Somehow I think you are right though.  Moms has the basic instincts to stuffed people up.  My mom stayed over after my first son's birth.  She cooked and cooked, but our food tastes were just too picky to like her cooking.  Well, of course we would still eat as much as we can.  Sometimes I would offer to cook, saying "I don't want you to work so hard".  

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Ultraman, well said!  Differences doesn't necessary mean who and who is right/wrong. It's the attitude.

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想發洩一下, 訴下苦, 沒問題. 重點是有心去改善情況. 既然你都說現在沒有甚麼憂鬱症, 那不如平心靜氣地想, 日後你會如何處理得更好. "好"的意思是, 下一次有這樣又那樣的情況, 你都學會一笑置之, 讓氣氛放得輕鬆點.

"你怎樣對人, 人怎樣對你." 這句話雖然不必然, 但如果自己不夠愛人如己的話, 說甚麼都是自己的問題. 雖則人只是人, 但要解開結, 就要自己打開了. 沒藉口的.

不記算人家的惡. 凡事包容,凡事相信,凡事盼望. 愛是永不止息.