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don't be pressured. it's better to have nobody than to have somebody that makes yourself feel incomplete.

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reminder girls, there's no such combo as: marriage = + baby.... at least not what i think. if you think traditionally like pepsis & wee, then yeah, you mind as well just get a mate & reproduce asap since it's the purpose of a female organism's life.

the new generation now values independent needs more. i've seen girls that i acknowledge are utterly desperate to get married & have this race to get knocked up because they think that their "golden time" is about to end. they panic & search for a guy that they feel can have the ability to support them financially & is "ready to start a family" (aka kids).... i've heard story where the girl dump the guy after a few years because he hasn't proposed yet. & what do you know? the next thing that happens is she dates another person & gets married asap within 2 yrs. now talk about love. how much do you really "love" that person when you're all freaked out cus nobody wants you to have a kid with them before 30+/-. it just shows that you're not internally strong as a woman & you depend too much on men. now i don't think that's a "career goal". it's more like you'll take any job that'll give you some sort of lasting future, but you don't really know what YOU WANT AS A CAREER.

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原帖由 sheep 於 2008-6-10 08:30 AM 發表
You know, marriage is a life time commitment. Once you committed, you should strive to fulfill it. Today, youngsters are too selfish not to commit anything. Those finacial, future study and so and so  ...

nah~
being selfish is to commit to something that you don't try hard to satisfy the commitment.

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原帖由 Wee 於 2008-6-10 08:32 AM 發表
just so easy to say "be independent and internally strong and don't rely on guys(or partner)" when one is young n' ruthless.  

it's all personal choice, whether stay single or enter a marriage with a ...

to me, if you don't marry a guy that you super super love in regardless of all the materialistic factors/offerings that he has to offer you.... that to me loses the meaning of "marriage". i'm not against the fact that alot of honger girls are like that, it's just that i'm saying i don't agree to it as a woman myself. so girls...don't take it personally please i got married because of him, i wanted to. now, i want to have a baby, cus of him, cus i want a family. before, after all those x-bastards, i don't wanna get married. even if i was with someone, i don't want the licence (my hubby convinced me to get it legalized).

i don't think the "independent & strong, not rely on men" has anything to do with age at all. if you only think that way when you're young, that only means you're just not honest to yourself. but no matter at what point in time you feel that way... it can change when you meet the right person. & VS.

don't get your hopes up
yet
don't get bummed out
just take it easy & let it come at you.