chunsh

原帖由 Littleprince 於 2008-1-7 18:30 發表
之前﹕相見如賓
而家﹔相見如冰



始終係老公個亞媽﹐有咩唔妥都會忍一忍算數﹐所以無咩衝突。。。我奶奶其實算容易相處﹐最鐘意就係她唔多管我們﹐最唔鐘意就係她 TOO TALKATIVE﹐同埋太鐘意講是非﹐唔多頂得順。 ...

when u said u dont like your Lai lai "最鐘意就係她唔多管我們﹐最唔鐘意就係她 TOO TALKATIVE﹐同埋太鐘意講是非﹐唔多頂得順", have u ever think about one day you will become the one what you 唔多頂得順 now??

nothing personal, just state the fact. When people getting old, they (we) will be become talkative, and in many cases, too talkative.

I still remember I blamed my uncles/aunties old schools like 10 yrs ago, but now, I am being thought to be old school, and I still not reaching 30

chunsh

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 08:31 發表 [so, the consensus is: my lai-lai is mo-liu! it's not the first time she made up crap! (other stories, but i wont bother saying it here, 費事比人話我地 D housewifes are "too talkative") even when i talk to my mom afterward, my mom thinks it's bs because she knows i act proper infront of my in-laws! at least infront of my mom & dad's friends, relatives etc, i have never yet disappointed my parents! so my mom told me to just ignore it because she knows me best.

I am not standing right besides you and do telepathing to u and your family members to judge who is right and who is wrong, but.....

first of all, people (including u and me and others) tend to think we did everything right and if someone unhappy about us, its their fault.

second, most parents always think their children did things right and their parents-in-law and/or spouses treat their children bad

if you think all conflicts/arguments are other people's problems, u already have problems. In fact, in most arguments/conflicts                              , both side also have problems

cheers

chunsh

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 15:19 發表
nonono
my point is:
- when people (such as lai-lai's in these cases) don't have logical  evidence that you did something wrong,  they shouldn't judge anyone in the first place.

- first, most people  ...

haha, as I said, I didnt standing besides you and your family so I can't judge who is right and who is wrong. I was just trying state that problems are USUALLY on both sides but I am not saying u have done something wrong. But you will be the one who become unhappy and angry if you keep thinking that ALL troubles/conflicts are caused by others.

cheers

chunsh

原帖由 utopia 於 2008-1-9 11:15 發表
ai.......................... twin,

We preparing the worst to buy an older house with basement and give up renting out the basement...........and let his mom to live in there lor.............. we don ...

how old is your bf?
is he living with his mom?
if so, it is his RESPONSBILITY to give $$ to his mom, becos he is using the resouces (land, house, car, food, etc)
and even once u guys get married, if his mom and dad are getting old and lost the ability to make $$, it is also his RESPONSIBILITY to feed his mom.
Why? SIMPLE!!! in the previous twenty something years, besides feeding him, bring him to see doctors when he got sick, who gave your bf a "home" (not just house)

you said yr bf wants his mom to "face the fact in the future". Accroding to your wording, is the fact equals to "Mom, since you don't support me economically for my university degree just like other rich hongers, so I won't take care of you and dad after u guys getting old. Dont even think of it"??

sorry if I misunderstood your bf, but he sounds to me that he not only doesnt want to take care of his parents in the future, but also try to blame them not to give support for his degree. And at the beginning of the quoted text form yours, you sounds like your bf and you just treat his mom as a begger or burden. Come on! be a man who take care the ones who used to take care of u

chunsh

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-10 14:50 發表
唔好意思，我唔係講邊個，只係有Ｄ唔係好明，如果呢度有Ｄ老友記叫老友記C9反省下要忍氣吞聲要盛，但係句句都同老友記師奶頂，自己都忍唔到又點解叫人忍？我指既係我之前開個 thread 入面既 case。 ...

好多人都講過大話啦﹐你夠膽話俾我聽你未講過大話
o甘唔通你因為自己講過大話而唔教你個小朋友唔好講大話?

其實大家都係吹水o者
o岩聽o米聽﹐唔o岩聽o米當時運高﹐no eye see lor

不過下下同人頂到o甘恆﹐受害既會係你, 老公同你奶奶---- 大家都係輸家

我見過有o的男人係呢方面好慘﹐o係呀媽心中﹐個男人會係一個老婆奴既不肖子﹐o係
係老婆心中﹐個男人就會係成日幫住呀媽黎"蝦"自己既裙腳仔﹐點解? 因為個男人
會o係呀媽面前幫老婆講好說話﹐而係老婆面前就幫呀媽講講好說話﹐希望大家唔好
o甘敵對o羅。

早前香港有單新聞﹐個男人既老婆同呀媽日吵夜吵﹐最後個男人頂唔順跳樓死左......
大家引以為"監"啦

chunsh

原帖由 ordinary_girl 於 2008-1-10 23:07 發表
for god's sake why don't the guys try to live with their mother-in-laws for a change and see can you handle it

if the lai lai insist to live with her son and his wife, then it would be the lai lai's fault
but if u pay attention to the original story, its the son and the wife need the lai lai to come to take care the new born baby and the wife


唉﹐真係﹐搞清楚先搬個"神"出黎啦

chunsh

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-10 23:32 發表
話明吐苦水，奶奶好既一面我都唔會係度講架啦，邊個人咁得閒開個thread 頌讚佢奶奶？開thread 讚自己阿媽都無啦。

我講十樣野，比人抽我五樣野黎插，但係好奇怪，個五樣野其實已經係我之前既thread解釋左，但插我既人都好似睇唔到 ...

其實如果係o甘﹐你奶奶真係小氣同難相處既
但你有無想過其實當中有原因係﹐你奶奶說到底都唔係你呀媽﹐佢點都唔會好像你
自己呀爸呀媽o甘知道你心意(e,g, favourite food, etc) take care得o甘岩你意
思呢??不過﹐正如之前我講過﹐你將來都可能變成o甘﹐到時你未來女"勢"/新抱﹐甘樣think
你﹐你就知味道

also﹐無功都有勞呀﹐聽你口氣你好像岩岩座完月無耐﹐除非你老公唔使搵食o者﹐
如果唔係o的老人家(生孩子經驗者)take care your family﹐我估你同你老公都會好"呢hie" (or o黎計)


無論你奶奶係唔係只不過想見下個grand-child一面而順道來take care 你﹐佢點都
係某些地方幫過你兩母子/女呀﹐點解之前用個甘難聽既topic呢﹐你知嗎? before
I read the content of your post, 我真係以為你奶奶顛左﹐要去mental hospital﹐
仲要幫你報警個種呀


sorry to misunderstood your story, but u can't just blame us. People usually pay more attention to "headings"....

chunsh

原帖由 ordinary_girl 於 2008-1-11 12:11 發表

and as for ur info, i'm not a religious believer and i don't believe in god~ "for god's sake" is only a saying that everyone uses on a normal basis and i absoultely can't see any problem in using that phase. But if it will make u feel better, then I'm sorry for bothering your god

haha, I know what do u mean
I just made a bad gag jie

chunsh

原帖由 siumaibb 於 2008-1-11 18:00 發表
華美子，你都識講生仔同湊仔辛苦啦，咁當初係邊個生你老公同湊你老公，你奶奶飛過黎都係想幫下手，你咪俾下面佢囉

You open a thread and got so many negative responses, that mean there must be something wrong in you ...

well, maybe its just her wording, especially the heading...
she did kind of well from the story inside (based on her story solely )