Would you have paid for lunch?

biggie

Background

-I asked a girl out for lunch
-She was from my high school (long time ago obviously) and I don't really know her
-We have talked a few times in the last couple years on facebook and msn

Question

After we finished eating, and the bill came, she took out her wallet to pay for the meal. I said we can split it and that was that. At that time I didn't want her to think that was a date so I didn't offer to pay.

Let me reiterate the fact that I don't mind paying at all, it's just that at that  moment, I didn't want to "pay to impress her".

Now that I looked back at what happened, should I have paid because I was the one who asked her out? I should at least offer to pay right? My friends said that she took out her wallet as a "test"?  Do you think is proper etiquette that I offer to pay? Again, I went dutch not because I wanted to "save" money, I just didn't think it was appropriate at the time.

akshea

I don't think it should be a concern. If she judges you base on THAT, she won't be the girl that you should go after anyways.

yokult

Maybe say "let me treat you la" in a joking, friendly way next time.
Feel more gentleman.

habitrailspace

in ur situation, i would pay

sheep

Background

-I asked a girl out for lunch
-She was from my high school (long time ago obviously) and ...
biggie 發表於 2010-3-16 11:52

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chocobun

dont need to pay lor, if you two are just friends

布小熊

i think it's normal to split the bill. That's what I do all the time. I still find it strange if a guy pay for my bill and he is just a friend. And I found no problem for AA even at dates.

siumaibb

you should pay

B仔

我覺得。。。
男仔同女仔出街（AS FRIEND），男仔唔係一定要請
男仔如果想溝個女仔，都唔係OBLIGATED TO 請。。。

個女仔OFFER 比錢，都應該，因為佢真係有份食架喎～
有D女仔OFFER 係當係TEST。。。不過IMHO我覺得好無聊，因為你真係食過野，但係搏個男仔GENTLEMAN請埋你食免費午餐～ 喂，溝你大哂咩！？

我諗係心態問題。。。。
如果你覺得你應該GENTLEMAN嘅，咪請囉。
如果你覺得o係HONGER／ASIAN女仔眼中，約得嘅就應該比錢，咪比囉。
不過如果你個心態係唔想IMPRESS／寵壞嘅，你話SPLIT，我唔覺得有問題AT ALL。。。WHY FEEL BAD AFTERWARDS～?

o係我眼中，如果約我出街，我唔會／唔想個男一開始就請我食飯。。。因為萬一佢真係想溝我，我識落覺得個男仔唔啱我，我唔受溝，我唔想感覺好似我"欠咗佢"咁。
你知啦，有D男人GENTLEMAN完會覺得自己好好，不過一但食檸檬，佢地會同別人COMPLAIN點解佢咁好咁有風度都比人拒絕。

Purpleheart

佢請你一次你咪下次請返佢囉~~~  
其實我知有D人覺得  AA 好核突好cheap 架, 所以我同呢D人食飯我會俾佢出一次, 到下次我請返佢~~
再唔係你話你唔鐘意爭人錢, 會令你食唔安坐唔落, 然後俾返你自己o個份囉, 又或者你講笑同佢講, 如果想請我食飯既下次去間高級D既先請啦