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Purpleheart

有時你地覺唔覺得人際關係既野好複雜?,  我覺得得到一段感情比得到一份友情更容易

好多時候我都係被排擠的一個~ 我自問對人好~ 被孤立的感覺好難受......

有o的人好有交際手腕~ 好快就可以同人熟~ 其實我都好想改善自己呢樣野~ 究竟點樣先可以成為一個容易相處的人?

chunsh

有時你地覺唔覺得人際關係既野好複雜?,  我覺得得到一段感情比得到一份友情更容易

人關係從來就沒有間單過﹐同常一段感情裡面﹐你同你愛人之外﹐所有人都是配角(有
第三者situation除外)﹐所以在一段感情中你只需要知道對方同自己的需要﹐但一班
朋友就不同了﹐你沒有聽過一個group裡面有三個or 以上就會有politics?

好多時候我都係被排擠的一個~ 我自問對人好~ 被孤立的感覺好難受......

曾有相似經驗﹐但回想過來﹐我也發覺自己原來有很多不是的地方。不過同常要等一
段時間﹐自己冷靜想清楚才發現

有o的人好有交際手腕~ 好快就可以同人熟~ 其實我都好想改善自己呢樣野~ 究竟點樣先可以成為一個容易相處的人?

人夾人緣﹐這是不可能理解的﹐有些人樣子不是很英俊 / 可人﹐但他們卻能attract
很多朋友/異性﹐有些人樣子沒什麼不妥﹐卻又因為樣子好像很aggressive / 串﹐
所以就算沒有意思串人卻永遠不能太易討好別人(對﹐ 我是說我自己)

不過我也沒有不開心﹐就是因為我不太容易討好人去做我的朋友﹐所以現在stick
with 我的朋友都係真正能/願意和我做friend的

關於別人的排擠﹐不用太擔心/傷心了
記著﹐"曹操都有知心友﹐關公亦有對頭人"

zoids

Read more newspaper, get more knowledge, this will definitely help you to be able to talk to other people or get into their topics with some valid points.

NEVER GOSSIP behind ppl coz usually that's why ppl got alienated.  Keeping secret is very important too if you want ppl to share true opinions/ideas with you.

Purpleheart

男人要吸引女人唔一定外貌既~ ~~ 好多野都可以吸引到架~~~ i am talking about personalities~

可能自己一路都以愛情為重~ 忽略了友情同人際關係~ 我一路都用左好多時間去了解男性的想法~ 卻忽略了同性的想法~~~

其實我外表一o的都唔吸引~~~ 但係身邊 90% 都係男性朋友~~~ 我覺得同男仔做 friend 係容易o的~~~ 可能去了解男性太久~ 連自己也變成一個男仔~
但女生嘛~~ 我真係唔知點樣可以同女仔相處~ 我識的女仔都係小器~ 愛搞小圈子~  愛講人是非~ 妒忌心重......唔通要自己變到佢地一樣先做到朋友?

Littleprince

呢個係一個藝術﹐如果你真係想改進﹐係有課程讀﹐教你點同唔同的人相處。。。人分為好多種﹐你要先了解對方屬於邊種人﹐而你又係邊種﹐然後針對唔同情況作唔同回應﹐並且避免衝突。

最簡單易學的方法就是﹐多點微笑﹐主動同人打招呼﹐對人好一點﹐唔好多嘴講人壞話﹐這是最基本的。

whitecho

正所謂「物以類聚」。同聲同氣自然會做到朋友。
有 D 人表面上真係好容易同人熟，好多朋友咁
但時間耐左
你會發覺佢地交心既朋友其實同普通人差唔多

Alcoholic

如果你係一個正常人（有基本禮儀，態度隨和）我覺得黎樣野冇得學。
好多時，就算你對人好，冇機心，人緣好，有D人都會睇你唔順眼，因為佢地妒忌人緣好, out-going popular既人。
相反，如果你選擇做一個nobody, 又會有D人覺得你怪，爛神祕，太靜，唔入群。
所以人緣好唔好，睇下你同個個人夾唔夾架姐~
每個人個性不同，滿足唔到所有人既。所謂人緣好與唔好is very subjective.

我覺得（& 我自己對人既態度）: 有禮貌，凡事保持友善態度，對得起自己，真誠待人已經夠~ 我最憎恨虛偽，不坦誠，以貌取人(including people who don't know you well enough to make comments about you)，或冇料但係擺出一副不可一世既attitude既人。對黎幾種人我自問真係唔夾。

同男性friend D,冇咩問題丫~ 大概可能男仔通常冇咁婆媽，有個句講個句，有義氣，夠爽，冇D女人咁陰濕心病掛~ 好事黎既！

and i think that keeping my social circle small is good. less complicated. more real & with heart.
also, i'm very picky about "classifying my friends". i'm friendly, out going enough, but i'm definitely not the type that i call everyone that i know "my friends". basically, all the people that i know, i have this kind of catagory to catagorize my social relationship with that person:
- acquaintences (people that i know their name and only know less than 5 personal facts about them, Vice Versa)
- knowledge-able friends (people that are friendly, but no in-depth conversations & facts sharing)
- friends (people that i chill with, like, trust, have good conversations & good times)
- good friends (people that i trust alot, knows each other's personal thoughts & info)
- best friends till death do us part (completely understanding & accepting each other's personalities, time & distance will not do us part)

[ 本帖最後由 Alcoholic 於 2008-4-16 01:11 編輯 ]

pigheadbone

I find friendships, in general, have a really high maintainence cost for me, yet I cannot do without them....

It takes a lot of effort to build up, but can be destroyed easily - seems kind of like a risky investment.  I hope I don't end up having to manage friends like asset management...

SAZABI

如果你唔係超衰格, 做返自己就得. 自然會搵到你既朋友.

utopia

相反，如果你選擇做一個nobody, 又會有D人覺得你怪，爛神祕，太靜，唔入群。

twin,

you talking about me??

Anyways, I think I have the same problem with purple heart.
Not sure how you think about me , twin.
But I never have a lot of friends but I am always there to help people and friends. Always polite ga wor...
oh well.... may  be I just look much like b*tch or cocky?