habitrailspace

可惜是我不是在名利或business上發現朋友的改變,在過去日子中,一點一滴的交往,慢慢的友誼累積起來,知心難求,所以很珍惜,欠當然不計較多少的付出,不是金錢,是出心出力!

到今天,就算如此,我仍可無愧於心,但很痛心,朋 ...
KittyLeung74 發表於 2009-7-30 09:14

life is too short dont waste time on that "very very good friend"
對佢癡心一片,佢當你癡能線

Littleprince

可惜是我不是在名利或business上發現朋友的改變,在過去日子中,一點一滴的交往,慢慢的友誼累積起來,知心難求,所以很珍惜,欠當然不計較多少的付出,不是金錢,是出心出力!

到今天,就算如此,我仍可無愧於心,但很痛心,朋 ...
KittyLeung74 發表於 2009-7-30 09:14

有時利益衝突也不是單指名利或business﹐圖窮匕乃現。
我覺得如果你能學會寬恕也不需放棄這段友情的﹐畢竟﹐兩個人能達至你說的境界﹐雙方付出的肯定不少。。。只是將來真的再遇上同樣情況﹐可以坦白地告訴她﹐這樣做使你很不高興﹐看看是否能改變你的朋友﹖若她不肯改變﹐就不要再做中間人好了。。。媽媽說得好﹕不做中﹐不做保﹐唔做媒人三代好﹐這是不易的真理呀。。。

habitrailspace

i repeat "寬恕" 別人so many, many, many... times
they keep taking advantages of you ja
無x用ga,擋你狗癡線,轉做壞人la
maybe i'm the "World Champion of Bad Luck"

Littleprince

i repeat "寬恕" 別人so many, many, many... times
they keep taking advantages of you ja
無x用ga,擋你狗癡線,轉做壞人la
maybe i'm the "World Champion of Bad Luck"
habitrailspace 發表於 2009-7-30 11:30

甘都要看你對咩人喇﹐
若果你的朋友係咪都只顧找你著數﹐
呢D人搭飛機喇。。。
但若遇到真正的朋友﹐
只係一兩件事你無法容忍的﹐
為何不開心見誠傾傾﹖
或者他個性也有盲點﹐
看不見自己是這麼衰﹐
全靠你點醒他呢﹖
有D人﹐基於成長背景﹐
不是他想的﹐但卻繼承了父母某些缺點﹐
例如專找人著數喇﹐貪小便宜喇﹐買菜係都要人搭條蔥喇﹐這些。。。
都不一定是他喜歡這樣做的﹐
也許只是自小見慣父母就是這樣﹐
不知原來同一件事﹐係有另一種處理方法的呢﹖

zuesel

sigh~ Cheer up Kitty!
May you meet a friend that is true and loyal some day soon.

I have recently  said to myself: "enough is enough" I've had to classify my friends into different levels. I treat each level and give and take depending on which level they are in. It's said that I've had to move a friend down to the bottom of my list when that friend used to be on the top. It was a degression, just the longer I know this person, the more I find out that we are not compatible. No matter how nice I was, how forgiving (include accepting insults, lies, poor treatment). I wasn't able to be happy. So I had to ask myself why I need to suffer? I have a choice! A choice to be happy and choose friends that I am happy to be with! I will not treat that friend's hurting words or meanness stab me anymore. I will treat them as powerless, harmful feathers! After thinking clearly, I am happy again. It makes me appreciate those that ARE my good friends even more! This person will still remain as a friend but a very casual one that I won't care for anymore like I used to. I don't regret having been nice and sharing all I had with that friend. Just that I will shift that energy and kindness to someone else who deserves my kindness more!

Mun sam mo kwai is good enough.

Don't live for the bad, enjoy the good! Focus on how she gave you the opportunity to learn to be stronger, smarting instead of how she made you sad and hurt.

Cheer up girl. "If the bad won't go, the good won't come!"

habitrailspace

thank you littleprince
IMO the way you think MAYBE fooling yourself

KittyLeung74

Thank you for you all.  Thanks for your comfort.  In fact, I have been hurt by friends before, so I am very cautious in making friend.  So, this "best best friend" is a very exceptional case to me.  You know, the pain I am suffering is much, much hurt to me.  最大的傷痛不是對我的不理睬,而是sense of "getting lost", including ignoring people's bad influence, abuse of church usage, "naive" message of releasing my friend's co name in the web.  

"為什麼你只看見你兄弟眼中的木屑，而對自己眼中的大樑竟不理會呢﹖"

Hope my friend understand soon
"先從你眼中取出大樑，然後你才看得清楚，取出你兄弟眼中的木屑。 "

Yui

對朋友唔會有期望，無期望就唔會失望。

付出左自己覺得開心就可以了，唔會期望對方會有“回報”，有就固然大家開心，有來有往。

到左呢個階段，新結交既朋友都只屬君子之交，我自己已經不能做到豪無保留。

Littleprince

我不得不承認我是傻的﹐不管碰了N次釘﹐對朋友還是一樣毫無保留 -- 當然指的只是我自己信任的朋友。。。但身邊大多數朋友都只係泛泛之交﹐因為我份人比較慢熱。。。但係若我當你是朋友﹐就一定傾盡心意﹐不會說門面話或者漂亮的話﹐這是天生性格吧﹐也或許只是討厭偽裝。
可是若我不喜歡你﹐也休想我會虛偽地和你嘻哈﹐因為我會討厭與看不起這樣的自己。
人生苦短呀﹐做真我最好 -- 只要不傷害到別人。。。能做朋友的就講多句﹐不能的就做點頭之交好了。
無叫你地學我呀﹐我呢種性格響呢個社會其實好吃虧﹐可是﹐我無法背叛我自己呢。。。

KittyLeung74

Same philosophy as Littleprince.  

對朋友要信任,要付出,要真誠,從不求回報,但見朋友沈淪迷失,心如刀割,更如今連累其他人,更傷心,眼淚在心裡流比大哭一場更辛苦!