PDA (Public Display of Affection)

benyaoguai

Most chinese people are more traditional
and usually don't display affection all that often~

so kissing ~ hugging~ the occasional bum grabbing~ probably not all that appropriate in chinese ppl's eyes

my questions are
what's your limit~ with your own other half?
what's your limit of other ppl?
how long have you been in canada and do you think that affects the way you feel about this issue?

ricrick

如果另一半好wild，我都會變得好wild

Caffie

原帖由 ricrick 於 2009-2-25 02:13 發表
如果另一半好wild，我都會變得好wild

Me too. Wild 嗰時乜都唔理~ 人地望咪有得佢望囉
不過我同我BF 行出街D人都唔覺得我地似Chinese (例如入Chinese 地方食野會俾人用英文greet, 所以我從來未有過D 咩 "inappropriate in Chinese people's eyes" 既問題
My best friend (a chick) and I grab each other's boobs in public all the time.

Answer to your questions:

what's your limit~ with your own other half?
We keep most clothing on.. other than that there's not much of a limit

what's your limit of other ppl?
Don't care.. unless it looks gross.. lol

how long have you been in canada and do you think that affects the way you feel about this issue?
I have been in Canada for all my life and never lived anywhere else.. I guess that probably affects my view on this.

[ 本帖最後由 Caffie 於 2009-2-25 09:37 編輯 ]

MoiRhapsody

引一句小說：
「我看着她的眼睛，她哭了，我禁不住吻了她。雖然周圍經過的人頻頻盯着我們看，但我已經不在意了。我們活着，只須考慮怎樣活下去就夠了。」

﹣＜挪威的森林＞村上春樹

mibu

i guess its common courtesy to not over do it in places where people have no where else to put their eyes to....such as small places like elevator, bus, waiting in line...etc

i know a couple who does not hold hands or kiss in public because they dont want people to feel awkward around them..which i appreciate.

Ultraman

原帖由 mibu 於 2009-2-25 11:24 發表
i guess its common courtesy to not over do it in places where people have no where else to put their eyes to....such as small places like elevator, bus, waiting in line...etc

i know a couple who does not hold hands or kiss in public because they dont want people to feel awkward around them..which i appreciate.

Not even holding hands?!?! That's called really awkward indeed! What's wrong for a couple in love holding hands, even in front of public, in park, on beach, in theater, in restaurant, even in elevator, on bus, or waiting in line?
I agree intensive and excess kissing, hugging and touching is not appropriate in the public. And grabbing at any point in the public is totally unacceptable.

benyaoguai

to answer my own questions

what's your limit~ with your own other half?
it didn't really even cross my mind before current bf~
current guy is very affectionate... hug me anywhere~ kiss me wherver
arms around me on the bus typa thing
holding hands at all times~
i had quite some issue with it to start with~ but eventually we adjusted to just
hold hands all the time~
little hug~ here and there when something happens.. like cute things or watever
kiss~ just peck on the cheek or mouth~
which i'm more comfortable with
but i stll notice ppl staring at us occasionally

what's your limit of other ppl?
i really dun care as long as i have a choice of somewhere else to look to~

how long have you been in canada and do you think that affects the way you feel about this issue?
i've been here 10+ yrs


i guess the reason i brought this up is that i was watching a tv show online~
and they were talking about how kissing in public is such a big deal @.@
more so then i felt necessary
like if you're underage and kiss ~ somebody can actually report to your school
and school can punish u~ i think that's just extreme...

Nam

I don't really care how people look at me though.
But of course not over do it, i.e. I won't make out with my boy in the public.
Just peck on cheek and mouth and hug lor.

hmm, when we first dated, we used to do that very often and glue together.
My friend can't us at the beginning (not used to see me to fall in love like that?)

But after few years, we don't do that anymore.

激情>愛情>感情

benyaoguai

原帖由 Nam 於 2009-2-25 10:21 PM 發表
I don't really care how people look at me though.
But of course not over do it, i.e. I won't make out with my boy in the public.
Just peck on cheek and mouth and hug lor.

hmm, when we first dated, ...

hehe~ it's been a couple of years for me already~
if i let him~ he'd probably still be the same as when we first started~
it's just we both came to an understanding that i find it bit inappropriate

cuz i told him if he were single and see couples like that~ then he would probably be grossed out too~
so :p yah..

tck

well when do all those kissing hugging maybe grabbing really depance on mood but of coz you have to make sure she/he is ok with that first if she/he is ok why you still have to worry the rest of them.... coz only you two are the most important at that momnent