it's from the both sides. Sometimes different time the need is different. For me, I do not need my wife to do anything extra. I love the way my wife is now.
I don't think there is ONE thing that you can do to guarantee a relationship. But there are so many little things 2 of you do day to day to enrich it. (or distory it on the other direction)
Relationship need nourishing, input from both sides ,
bearing and understanding. Try to renew vows every now and then.
Eliminate meaningless fight as much as possible.
Try to do something together, go on short trips just to
get away from daily routine. Buy her small gifts.
I've been married for 25 years and survive
Well, I piped the scripture on the wedding cake and we ate it
P.S.She made her own wedding gown while I made the large wedding cake and
500 White Chocolate Roses for party flavors :