點勸父母離婚?

Argue 情況越黎越嚴重, 一星期嘈幾次。一聽到他們的拗撬聲就頭暈(真係頭暈)。次次都係我老豆start the arguement. 我已經好醒﹐要求100 分, 我就做夠120分, 讓他無機會發圍。他扭計玩野唔做想辣著我老母聊交鬧。OK, 你唔做我咪做快D。但我老母又唔得醒, 成日俾位他入, 我又執他手尾。我已經唔介意泄底, 犧生了婚姻, 犧生正常社交, 無朋友, 一個月做足 204 粒鍾甚至更多。幸福開心我真係唔敢奢望, 我只希望大家和和氣氣, 似返個家。但他倆真係唔爭氣, 唔生性。我真係明白痕鐵不成鋼既感覺。上個禮拜我要去睇精神科。但醫生話我無事, 唔洗食藥。綜合各種起因係份工問題。他建議我辭工。初時我覺得無可能, 我唔做就接得。而家就要認真巧慮。再係0甘樣唔係辦法, 兩個選擇, 一係叫他倆離婚, 一係我走。。我真係好累。。

KY+NY

真係慘... 唔好唔開心啦.. 其實婚姻,感情真的係兩個人0既事,第三者真的幫不了D咩 但又講,世間有邊個父母係唔錫自己仔女0既,不如伱試下企出來平心靜氣同佢0地講"伱0地0既問題真的影響到我了...",睇下佢0地咩反映先咯

goldie

係呀，話俾佢地聽，你正在睇精神科，
希望佢地會反省。

有D 人係"親生仔不如近身錢" 主義者。
我隱約覺得我老豆幾享受0個種大家無計傾, 各自各食飯, 大家西口西面既感覺。鬧交呢家野他真係樂此不疲。融洽真係唔適合他。

ATGB

Well I was in a similar situation.  I do feel your pain, but fortunately I have a significantly other there to support me.  I avoided going home and spent most of my energy at work and with my other half instead.  I lived through the storm and now things are getting better these days.  You have to remember that even though they are being ridiculous, they are still your parents.  If you move out, things might just get worse.  You need to talk to them individually and find out the source of the problem.  You might want to guide them to see marriage councilors.  It's not up to you to decide whether they should divorce.  They can very well still love each other very much even though they argue everyday.  I know how you feel, you are just trying to escape from the situation, but that's not the answer.

KY+NY

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-12-15 21:32 發表
有D 人係"親生仔不如近身錢" 主義者。
我隱約覺得我老豆幾享受0個種大家無計傾, 各自各食飯, 大家西口西面既感覺。鬧交呢家野他真係樂此不疲。融洽真係唔適合他。 ...

哇 咁都得 真係第一次0係現實聽聞(以前真係以為0係"溏心風暴"先有)
既然係咁 咁樣0既老豆咁樣0既家庭伱仲想唔想維持先
俾我我會再睇下我媽咪係咩意見 如果佢同老豆係一樣0既錢錢錢主義者 咁我就...

好多謝 ATGB 的意見
我想了很久, 我諗都係因為一個錢字為導火線, 我和父母在時代坊market 經營小生意, 3 餐算係溫飽。由於我媽睇錢比較緊D, 所以出糧都係像徵式, 所以我老豆條氣就唔算, 所以成日起衝突。呢個問題係我控制唔到。
KY+NY
其實我父母都係好人...但兩個真係績怨太深。我細細個他們已經成日鬧交﹐仲有幾次親眼睇到我老豆用拳頭打到我老母喊。而家仲瀝瀝在目。

I know how you feel. I have passed the similar situation before.

I cried a lot. even tho they divorced, I still cried a lot. friends of mine were asking me to consult a doctor... I am okay now. You can go throught it.

bearbear

我父母離咗婚, 係因為大家價值觀唔同, 同埋對錢銀太自私. 有無諗過其實分開可能係件好事?

小叻

I am surprised that I am not the only one... My parents always argue... my dad said i am not his daughter.. after 2x yrs.. my mom suicided in Sept.. coz my dad wants to go back to hk and worry free.. they give birth babies in Canada in their 40's... my young bro and sis are abt 16 yrs younger than me.. until i grow older.. i know why my parents dun like me (my dad thinks i was not his daughter and my mom didnt approve anything).. i was beaten to grow up.. while i am in high school and at U.. my mom always yelled at me.. no matter how good i did.. i do all housework.. starting from washing dishes to raising up my young bro and sis.. i even change diapers.. while at school.. i work 40+ hrs + full time studies + housework.. but my parents still dun like me.. my dad throw things at me when he is pissed at me.. my mom will just keep yelling at me. all day. i need to go home before 6pm if no work.. i hate them yelling at me.. so i go to school early..and work till midnight.. when come home.. all day dishes left for me to wash... laundry.. garbages..etc... i didnt complain.. they yell at my marks.. saying i only play not study..but i was working..not playing.. i gave all my money to my parents when i was at school..lend student loans.. and i am still repaying stu loans now.. they are still not satisfied... i went to UBC hospital when i was at U.. I was classified at urgent patient,,, high tendency of suicide.. but they dun care..after i grad.. things get a bit better.. but now my parent argue all day.. in front of my young bro and sis (one is 9 and one is 7).. argue with knives too.. they acts like drama.. my dad spent money like crazy... no money..borrow money to buy stocks..no money,.. buy a new car.. no money.. go to vacations..
he thinks that he has worked enough.. so he now work around 32 - 40 hrs per week.. not enough money to support a big family (with 4 children) ..that's y he wants to go away.. and left the **** behind.. my mom.. can't live w/o my dad.... my dad wants to leave..trying to find excuse to divorce.. did a blood test of my youngest bro.. luckily the blood test show my young bro is his son.. and i dunno what next.. i hate my family.. but what can I do.. to support or to leave... all i want is a happy family..no argue when i come back home..but this is not easy.. when i see other have good dad and good mom.. i always talk to myself..why my family so ****.. why my life is this harsh.. i always think of suicide..but what keep me living is my bf now.. but i dunno how long can I stand..