kaimui22

but what about for girls that DON'T want to have kids or get married?

some women I know are happy the way they are...in their 30s and 40s and single. They can support themselves financially and are emotionally stable..they have no intentions on looking for someone to procreate...and they don't need someone to be a "partner". Some of these women live alone, with their parents or with other friends that are single.

But of course..if you MUST have kids in your life, you have to look at your biological clock...but nowadays, women have kids until they are past their 40s..so...if you have the money, you can have a kid when you're much older. But whether that is fair to the kids or not is another discussion...

Catpiano

If you are still under 30 .. then ok la..

If over 30 .. um ..  good luck la...

But depends how you look like, and how you keep !  

Since you are in Van ..  I assume you are not bad la..

Guy

just one simple question...Do you have a boyfriend now?

if no.. than you have a long way to walk thru before getting marry

pepsis2

aii.. always controversial to discuss personal choice...

I agree that if girls (women) are mature enough & happy the way they are (& prepare psychologically & financially for being single in their 40's, 50's, 60's & 70's & go-on.), they should stay the way they are & leave alone all "unwanted" comments... coz no matter u have a partner or not, all of us grow older & older.

try to be frank here, most single girls (& most of them are from HK) in their 30's whom I personally know are not that type. It's just the matter that they're waiting for someone (with good qualities of husband-to-be or Mr. Perfect) to come up. True my fd pool doesn't represent the general.
Ask Ask yourself if u really prepare for being single for the rest of your life (not just your 30's). Despite the fact of having BB, the harsh truth is as u get older, the chances of bumping into MR. Right is lesser.

Just keep in mind.

原帖由 pepsis2 於 2008-6-9 20:01 發表
Quoted" Quoted" i've heard story where the girl dump the guy after a few years because he hasn't proposed yet. & what do you know? the next thing that happens is she dates another person & gets married asap within 2 yrs. "

hahha.. I thought u are talking about me le! I was in this situation too!!!

aii.. but the problems were much bigger than "not proposed yet"... anyway, when I look back to that ex-relationship, I have no regret. Even if my ex treated me 'not good' (i try my best to be nice), i do appreciate the time we spent together for 5 years & many things he taught me. I mean, if I never bump into this  >_< man, I will never know how to appreciate the Mr. Right coming after & know how to get along & grow with-in a relationship... The best thing is I become a more understanding & better person in the process of realization!

so if u fail in 1 relationship, dun worry! look at the bright side & there's always HOPE!

sorry to bump into this discussion and be a lil offtopic...

seems that it is very common that a non-marriage relationship tends to end in 5-6 years, with the girl requests to end the relationship, even though both sides are committed to a further relationship, but cant advance for now because they are both too young, seeking further education, career advancements and financial stability etc etc

i just cant figure a reason behind this...

sheep

You know, marriage is a life time commitment. Once you committed, you should strive to fulfill it. Today, youngsters are too selfish not to commit anything. Those finacial, future study and so and so are just excuses.

Wee

just so easy to say "be independent and internally strong and don't rely on guys(or partner)" when one is young n' ruthless.  

it's all personal choice, whether stay single or enter a marriage with a guy u don't profoundly "love". depends on what sorta purpose "marriage" serves to you. a lover? a lifelong partner? a family component? a fultillment of life? or an old age security? be honest to yourself upon the definition of marriage. by all means if u can bare the risk n' be prepared for the tradeoff, eg. ur one true-love may not be a good life partner, old age security has more than 1 dependent...

love...doesn't always conquer all esp when the time span is long
of cuz being financially independent n' strong on your own is needed, but does NOT mean u must reject to marry a guy u do not profoundly love -- IF -- marriage to you is combination or love + part of life + daily needs.

原帖由 sheep 於 2008-6-10 09:30 發表
You know, marriage is a life time commitment. Once you committed, you should strive to fulfill it. Today, youngsters are too selfish not to commit anything. Those finacial, future study and so and so  ...

i guess you misunderstand my message a little bit

the situation that i mentioned is something like, the relationship cant advance because of the aforementioned factors, but was still going on.  then the girl requested to end the relationship later

Wee

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-6-10 09:54 發表

i guess you misunderstand my message a little bit

the situation that i mentioned is something like, the relationship cant advance because of the aforementioned factors, but was still going on.  then ...

probably a lack of confidence in either side?

Alcoholic

原帖由 sheep 於 2008-6-10 08:30 AM 發表
You know, marriage is a life time commitment. Once you committed, you should strive to fulfill it. Today, youngsters are too selfish not to commit anything. Those finacial, future study and so and so  ...

nah~
being selfish is to commit to something that you don't try hard to satisfy the commitment.