hium

Same boat... except that I'm a woman not a man here...

I'm married, close to 30 and have a stable job in Vancouver. Paid is not bad (in Canadian standard, but comparing to HK income its just average) but I'm getting pretty bored at my job and looking forward to switch to another profession.  My side's family are all in HK, while my husband's are all in Van. I moved back to Vancouver with my husband (not married yet at that time) because I didn't enjoy living (same bunch of reason you listed) and working in HK couple years ago. But after we got married and having relaxing life + job for couple years, I started to realize I'm getting tired and bored and really miss my family. I guess I just change overtime due to age, just thinking differently than before. Right now I'm thinking to relocate back to HK again, but I felt guilty about doing this since my husband is doing very well in Vancouver (career and family) and he moved back to Vancouver all because of me at that time and he gave up so much before... don't know if i should put him through this once again... sigh...  

fibbi

原帖由 hium 於 2008-5-8 10:22 發表
Same boat... except that I'm a woman not a man here...

I'm married, close to 30 and have a stable job in Vancouver. Paid is not bad (in Canadian standard, but comparing to HK income its just average) ...

As you are married, do you plan to have kids? If you want kids...which environment would you like your kid to grow? HK or here? I think that's also important factor of deciding where to stay...

As for others (I mean signle people), more choices....it's not bad to try working in HK and see if u like the working environment there. If you can stay in family place(i.e. don't have to pay rent in HK), and if u have discipline to "SAVE" ... definitely can save more in HK than Van (providing same level of income) simply because less tax.

hium

One more thing to consider.. kids... I really don't know if I am ready to be a mom yet (mentally). But if I ever had one, I feel like Vancouver is a better place for kids to grown up in ba? Will be bilingual kid (speak Cantonese at home and English at school) no problem, not to mention the education is motivating and kids will be more likely to be a creative one. But again, kids are not on top of my "to do" list yet...

shutterbug

原帖由 hium 於 2008-5-8 11:08 發表
One more thing to consider.. kids... I really don't know if I am ready to be a mom yet (mentally). But if I ever had one, I feel like Vancouver is a better place for kids to grown up in ba? Will be bi ...

So when you're ready for kids, then you'll move back here?  So, HK -> Van -> HK -> Van?  To me, that's a waste of time lor.

zuesel

So that's why Acc-He is saying that considering he's young and all. If he is going to challege and experience something new, now is the time! So kids and marriage isn't coming to his mind yet.

For myself, I am getting married in less than 1 month. Having kid or not is an entire issue on its own, nvm about which country to live. But I will choose Canada for my kids to grow up in for sure!

Ultraman

Yes the fact is, if you are still young, I mean very young, you still have certain time to "waste". However in general speaking, a person may need 10-15 years to well build his/her career and get well settled in order to have a more steady life (spiritual, physical and economical). If you start early you achieve it early; but if you start late you end up late (unless you are a genius. yet a true genius doesn't need to struggle that long.). So, think about if you want to be a "successful" person at your late 30's, or at your late 50's or 60's, or even never get it in time before you leave this world! Now ask yourself, how much time you still want to explore ("waste")??

katamari

原帖由 Traum 於 2008-5-8 10:46 發表
好多人窮半生去追逐一D身邊無既野，但當追到手既時候又慨嘆失去以前近在眼前既事物。攪成咁，又為左D乜呢？

就正如 Hium 所講，身再香港既時候又覺得香港唔好，來到呢處又嫌加拿大悶。不斷咁追追逐逐，最後得到既又又幾多呢？
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this is exactly what I always think, after I have made a decision, never turn back; I don't feel regret because I have a happy family and a successful business, and I can travel anywhere I like, so I don't want to reside in Hong Kong.

Doesn't mean it would be worst if I first chose HK, it's the 意志﹠決心 I guess.

shutterbug

I agree, it takes time to build up a career and stability in a country, maybe 5-10 years.  If you return to HK and become successful, but then you suddenly want to start a family and have kids, will you leave your career and start over in Vancouver?  Or you compromise by staying in HK and let your kid to grow up in HK, getting all the influences from HK people and education?  Mind you there's a high percentage of kids in HK who have psych. problems these days...  Many of them have language barriers too because nobody talks to them at home besides the Philipino nanny...

ACC-HE

And as I've expected, I'm not the only one choosing HK vs Van.

It has been interesting to see how others have thought about the issue and picked their own path.