i'd already made the first step...
我投降，我讓步。
but there's no reply, yet.

[ 本帖最後由 匿名 於 2008-8-13 18:35 編輯 ]

mcjohnjohn

投降同讓步咁慘?...
點解大家唔可以坐低同對方講下自己既感受呢?
愛, 係互相包容, 小弟覺得要多d 了解對方既想法, 溝通多d, 爭執既情況應該會少d.

cyberstudio

Hi again,

So, my first prediction was accurate. My second prediction was you would not leave him. You would try to change him, but you would fail miserably.

Actually, I understand how you feel. I could have said some soothing words so that you would feel better. But I would rather tell you the truth and let you see clearly what really is going to happen. It may sound hurtful in the short run but it will help you in the long run.

Good luck.

AmericanBeauty

My boyfriend and myself follow this rule: "Never give in, and never give up."  We don't think we should change the way we because the other person is not willing to compromise.  We don't think we should give up on working on our relationship as well.  We never had any "cold wars." The closest we've came to that was about one hour of silence.  As talk to each other and tell each other how we feel, and the other person is there to listen and not to be judgemental.  It is though communication that we get to know each other better, and the better you know your lover the better the relationship would get.  There is no need to save any faces in a relationship either.  I mean, you will get to see the best and the worse of a person when you're dating them.  Why bother with looking "good" in front of your love one?  Just be yourself.

sheep

冷戰?
係為乜冷戰先
一脚踏兩船   睡前唔刷牙
死黨行先    唔去你D家庭聚會
成日去蒲   唔肯結婚
通通都唔係?
分手喇    仔就最怕係話分手
你話分手 佢話OK 咪分囉
佢話唔好 咪開D條件要佢改囉
而家噤落去 你實俾佢食住 以後就冇運行

Littleprince

原帖由 sheep 於 2008-8-13 22:37 發表
冷戰?
係為乜冷戰先
一脚踏兩船   睡前唔刷牙
死黨行先    唔去你D家庭聚會
成日去蒲   唔肯結婚
通通都唔係?
分手喇    仔就最怕係話分手
你話分手 佢話OK 咪分囉
佢話唔好 咪開D條件要佢改囉
而家噤落去 你實俾佢 ...

分手話得多就無用﹐
如果郁D話分手﹐
他只係以為你大他﹐
我覺得講得分手就係無彎轉﹐
呢個係最後一著而已。

mcjohnjohn

郁d 話分手? 何苦呢...
除非自己係一個玩家, 視感情如無物, 否則分手呢兩個字非到無可挽救既地方都萬萬說不得.

myversa

I do not consider 讓步 == 投降.  I read many cases, real or fictional, if couples in 冷戰, they might do something stupid.  For example, if one is in critical condition and he/she phones the other but because they are in 冷戰, the other does not pick up the phone....

So I always choose not to 冷戰.  Step back and say I am sorry will do both parties good.  When she cools down and I will try to reason with her and she will be more willing to listen at that point.

cyberstudio

This is a hot thread, with many great comments and viewpoints.

Let's not focus so much on what is correct or what is incorrect. Focus on what works, and what doesn't.

I am not a fortune teller, but my predictions are very accurate. I want to help our protagonist but she is anonymous and I can't PM her. You will find my MSN in my profile (I just added it). If you add me on MSN I will be happy to listen to you.

sheep

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