What am I to you?

Why do you have to be there whenever I finally let go of your memories?

I waited for 8 years for you to come back; yet, you gave me false hope, 8 false hope that you will come to Vancouver to see me. You, being a main factor for my failed relationship because you were always there. I cannot stop myself but compare you with them. Deep inside, I am stupid enough to believe that one day, you will in front of my house again.

Like you said, you "witness" my transforming process. From a 'len mui jai", transform into a mature teen. From "Filipino" look, slowly transform into a so called "hot chick".

I appreciated that you were always there for me when I needed support. I appreciated you listened to my complain and let me cry over the phone for hours....... I do appreciated.

2 years ago, I cannot stand this relationship with you anymore. I forced you into a dead corner and asked you to see me one last time again. You refused. You told me you worry that reality is gonna hurt. You told me you don't want me to be disappointed. You told me you worry that if we will be together again, we end up cannot be friend.

2 years ago, you told me you have a gf now. You are saving up money with her and she is in my same career field. You told me you are about to purchase an apartment and planning to get married some day. From that day, my heart died. From that day, I will never rely on you.

C,  I finally found someone love me with all his heart. C, I finally found someone willing to give me all his best and I love him with all my heart "WITHOUT" you in the shadow.

C, we are planning to get married on 2010. That's what I told you on the phone too.

Then, you called me on Sat and told me you are planning to move to Vancouver for good? Worst, you told me you will not let me go again if you are in Vancouver again.
How long have I know you now? 10 years. Now, you are telling me you are moving to Vancouver for good?

Is it a characteristic in Aries that you have to fight for toys? Is it a characteristic in your blood that you have to take back the woman belonged to you long time ago? Is it because.... like you said few months ago "you are so sit duc, that I become so good now and you can't have me???"

You know, my sister-in-law was right. One day, you will ruin my life.

Please, I tried hard to move on. Please, it took me long time to let go every single memories from my past, to be reborn.

I am happy with my life right now. Please do not interrupted my peaceful life, I do not want to drop any single tear for you.....................

siumaibb

getting marry in 2010, sounds familiar....

for whoever you are, be strong, don't let that person ruin your life, just be honest with your current bf and tell him the entire story, I think with your current bf's support, you can drive away this 瘟神 ...

btw, I am Aries too, I never fight for toys

my current bf knows exactly what happened about this guy.

It been almost 2 years that we stop contacting each other. Well, he did call me once in awhile but I always hung up on him quick.........

At this moment, I don't mind to be a casual friend with him. Just hi and bye old friend.
and that's it.

I'm just "speechless" when he mentioned "I will chase you back when I am in Vancouver and I won't let you go this time". Then I told him I'm planning to marry my current bf, so if he dun mind, he can move over after I get married.

I hope that message is clear and loud to him but not to encourage him to come over faster.

I don't know about Aries well but I do know he "loves to win".

I dunno, I have keep myself as low profile as I can because I do really treasure my current relationship. I try my best to trigger any unnecessary "oi mui" with any guy.
So far, I did good and I hope he won't ruin it because I'm afraid I might be soft heart ............

anyways, just want to let it out from my heart since I did not expect him tell me things like that........all of the sudden.

CWong

有啲人以为自己係情圣，愛控制別人感情，玩弄於其子掌間，受害者疼苦不得，此等人跟本不值得爱！

SmellyTofu

If one side is not committed (obviously not if it's been 8 yrs... you could swim from HK to Canada in <8 yrs), then have to face the music and just leave. The longer you leave it, the deeper it hurts... but it depends on how quick you can heal yourself and remember that only you can get back on your feet and walk again. Friends and family can only support you as you get up on your feet.

But it seems like you've moved on and wanted to vent it out which is great. Add oil!

yungfourfour

Keep hanging up his phone and stop contact with him if he doesn't get it

Well, those people don't deserve to be your casual friend because he didn't care what's the best for you.

puZZle

if you truly truly do not love him anymore
why is this so troublesome for you?

or..?

Yui

"So far, I did good and I hope he won't ruin it because I'm afraid I might be soft heart ............"

Base on what you said, he is still a dangerous person to you. If you truely want to protect yourself and your currect relationship, AVOID him and STOP him from contacting you.

Just imagine, if he appears at your door tomorrow, what would be your true feelings? Would you be calm? angry? or thrilled? Good luck!

山羊座

C,  I finally found someone love me with all his heart. C, I finally found someone willing to give me all his best and I love him with all my heart "WITHOUT" you in the shadow.

If this really is the case that his shadow is not there, why are you bothering about if he is moving back to Canada or not?
You know the truth yourself.  It's been 8 years already, if he cares about you in any ways he should feel happy for you and wish you all the best in the future with your future husband instead of decided to suddenly appear in your life again.
In my opinion, he doesn't even deserve to be your casual friend.  Even if he really is going to move back to Canada, just continue on with your own life.  Live your own life and don't let him to get in there again.
Stop thinking about the past, treasure what you have right now.  You have a man right beside you who loves you more than anything else, that's all you need you don't need any stupid memories anymore.  Just let it go...

I totally understand your feeling as I am in the same situation.  I am trying so hard to get him out of my life too, so hard...  So, you are not alone at all.  Be strong, I know it's tough it's really tough but yes don't let him ruin your life again.  It's not worth it.