華美子

alcoholic: 係阿麻都真係幾厲害。

我奶奶其實幾唔衛生，抹完爐灶既布用黎洗碗，Ｄ保鮮紙包完生豬肉用黎包飯，Ｄ生肉同熟送放係雪櫃同一格。佢煮野永遠都煮到爛透先食，雞亦係可以一入口Ｄ肉自己同骨分開，炆牛腩由朝早九點炆到下晝兩三點，你可想言知Ｄ野食幾一pat pat。

最慘係因為佢長期睡眠窒息，記憶力衰退但又死口唔認。有好多野明明原先有佢死口話無件咁既事，講到好似我呃佢咁。最初佢死都唔肯認有睡眠窒息，猛話自己不知幾健康，後來我地同佢去做測試，結果佢係嚴重個隻，個日佢好接受唔到，成兩日無睬過我地，依家呢，咪又怕死，結果死死地氣買左架睡眠機返香港！

華美子

老公話千萬唔可以，因為奶奶份人好要面，你咁同佢講佢會將呢三個月積埋既怨氣一下子爆晒出黎，佢一爆我老公就會忍唔住把火同佢駁，到時會好難收拾局面，佢仲會嬲我多Ｄ。

yungfourfour

Poor you...
You reminded me my grandpa fight for TV channel with us when we were young.... sometimes when people turn old they are more aware of their existence/ just want someone to approve their importance sometimes. Their temper became more like a kid and get so easily offended and sometimes just... can't help. Have you tried ask her to rest and play with babies and you cook instead? maybe she cook those "1 pat pat" stuff because she can't chew? or she can't afford fat food anymore?

Her intention is good but I guess she done it terribly bad.

Glad that she'd be leaving in a day.

shutterbug

Hm...not saying who's right or wrong...just want to say that one day you could be a 奶奶 and you'll be a senior too...

CWong

睇嚟佢多年耒同自己家人关係所嘛嘛，咁多年屈咗喺心，相伩内心都有好多唔开心、又好孤单、又好戚莫，又覺得冇人了解佢、體諒佢，所以只要少少唔开心就会爆出耒，老人家脾氣係咁喎！在我感覺到，妳奶奶知识水平同成長環境同今日年青一代好唔同，唔係个个老人家年青時都过得好，可能以前要捱好多苦，好一餐、唔好一餐，又何來咩易潔鑊？当年人人都用生鉄鑊，个个用完都大力大力"省"鑊，咩易潔鑊对佢都喺一只鑊！加陣儿子常年都在外国，佢内心可覺得失咗个仔都唔定，老輩中国人有幾多个係会主动open自己内心呢？做儿女真係要懂点样去掘出佢哋个内心，况且佢哋年幾老，冇太多时間俾我哋，初初係好难㗎，但喺基督徒应该有包容同愛心啰，要多多珍惜身边親人，莫太遲！

SAZABI

又係一個婆媳不和既 case...
你梗係數佢, 話佢點點點唔啱啦. 我相信佢都會有不滿你既地方囉.
齋睇你寫既野, 我已經有兩樣野想講.
1. 成家人, 佢煮埋你地食仲要包洗碗? 霸住煮飯我就聽過... 霸住洗碗就真係未.
2. 幾唔衛生都好, 你老公都係佢奏大架. 冇佢, 唔會有你老公.

number_12

唉算啦

Nox

I always believe in one thing, you cannot change the older generation.  The only thing you can change is how you look at the situation and how you handle it.  Right or wrong, the older generation is set in stone.  Just have to accept she will not change and things will always be this way whether you like it or not.  Adjust yourself and try to find happiness from another direction.  You and your husband must find your own ways to be happy when she's around or it's just going to harm your marriage.  Definitely not worth it.

utopia

I feel so sorry for you.

I had this similar discussion with my boy last night. It seems that every couple had a hard time to communicate with older generation. We just feel so fed up to deal with the senior.

It seems to be a common problem that senior won't admit their mistakes and if you tell them they will have tons of excuses or just become insane. I have the same problem with my dad and my caveman's mom.

Extreme situation is my dad will start to cry and hit the floor.................

Our conclusion is ......the child has slowly transform into a responsible adult but the senior or parents have slowly transform into irresponsible kids. That's kinda explain why kids and parents can never get along. Generally, we are at different level at different time.

utopia

But the thing is..... I try to use this reason to comfort myself toward their behavior most of the time.

However, here comes the question from my boy, which make me speechless.

When we were a kid, we try so hard to adapt to the world. We had no choice but follow the instruction or lecture from parent in order to learn new things. So here we are, we grow up into a responsible adult. However, now that the world is changing, we are trying to show (not even education) the parents how things should be done or let them know the world change. So far, I think my mom done a great job. She even has her own laptop and use it more often than I do at home and compare to most senior or parents, she is pretty open minded and up to changes.....

If we were a kid, we need to adapt to the world and learn new things. We all did try so hard to learn even we fail. Why can't the senior or parents try hard to learn even they fail or at least admit their mistakes?