Ultraman and Katamari, the key word is not "數", even though that's what I used. Alc has already said what I would have said, so I won't elaborate again. If you enjoy clashing with your elders, then ...
sorry maybe I wasn't able to understand at the first point, and now I still don't understand what you are talking about, but I do agree it's not necessary to elaborate again because I don't think I can find a way to understand your point. Take it easy
Ultraman and Katamari, the key word is not "數", even though that's what I used. Alc has already said what I would have said, so I won't elaborate again. If you enjoy clashing with your elders, then ...
Then I think you never talk to an elderly or you better try not to la. Cuz you have zero technique to do so!
Once again, need any suggestions for taking communication courses?
華美子, please don't assume other people don't understand. Many of us here are married, with kids, and understand the issues with living with in-laws.
You will very unlikely to find a mother in law that will apologize when she mess up your cookwares. And really, is that such a big deal? Have you think about that maybe your mother in law is unhappy and thinking that she cooks and cleans for you and all you guys did was complain about how she messes up your cookware and floor?
"比佢餵ＢＢ？梗係唔得啦"....this to me sound very disrespectful. She raised your husband for crying out loud. The older generation might not know how things should be done now a days, but don't for a second believe they do not know how to feed and raise kids.
「我聽日想食麵，因為想食Ｄ濕野，我會自己煮啦。」.....The problem here is that you said you will cook yourself. This clearly telling her that her cooking sucks. This is not good even if said in a nice tone of voice.
Looking at your complaints here, and really, those are such minor problems. I think it is fine to not like it, but to announce to the whole internet world that the in-law is crazy is just plain wrong.
I don't know why so many ppl said 華美子 is wrong... I think she already tried her best.
everyone has their own problems... I don't have very good relationship with my mom too (I think it's hard to get along with last generation's women), I treat my mom even worse. However, I still have to stay with her, since my dad left her already, and my brother went back to HK too. 佢地就醒, 一個唔該就走晒! I'm not saying my mom is not a good mom, but this is very true - 相見好同住難.
chunchun:
D 老人家煮野煮到一pat pat唔一定係因為佢地口味轉左鍾意食"林"野，好多時係因為佢地想煮熟D, 安全D. 當然，就算D老人家想當年煮野好拿手，人越老，烹飪技術會失手。。。
ultraman & katamari:
我意思唔係話邊個岩邊個錯。 as i said before, this is a problem dealing with generation gap: 思想& 文化，the way our elders were bought up.
i'm married, i don't have any kids yet. we're still deciding if we want to have kids in 2-3 years. maybe some of you will think that i'm in no position to understand, make a statement, & maybe find me disrespectful to the elders.
my lai-lai is very very 恨抱孫 both me & my hubby agree that if we have a child, WE will not let my lai-lai help to take care of it because we understand her way of living. it's not the way we want our child to be bought up, or acquire her 壞習慣。of course, we will let her play, carry it around help out on light duties. well, i don't want my baby to be fed junk food/eat out everyday, day-cared in a very dirty environment (my lai-lai's house is VERY dirty), and in a way, she is very sloppy & unsanitized. to you guys, it's disrespectful right? 家家有本難唸的經。at the same time 家家有本不同的經。even for me going to her house, i find it uncomfortable... sometimes i tell my own mom that i like my lai-lai, but i just can't stand the mess.... even when my mom heard it, she thinks it's way too dirty to tolerate. actually, although my lai-lai did raise my hubby, even my hubby can't stand some of her 壞習慣.
it's not that 華美子 or me don't apppreciate our lai-lai's... we know that she's trying to help out, doing the best of their ability to help us. 華美子's lai-lai came to take care of her while she 坐月~ however, everyone just has different lifestyle & preference.
華美子's point is not that she assumes that no one will understand. for god's sake, she is a new mom that has just recently given birth. the psychological & biological impact on a woman to do such important role in life is stressful. some can handle it, but some are not as strong and takes more time to recover & adapt. as husbands, guys will never ever understand what a woman goes through in this process. so everyone, please be a little more kind & considerate to 華美子 la~ she's just here to release her stress & frustration ok?
the problems that 華美子 raised here are all minor problems. why issit a "big deal"? because 一點一滴is what makes up your everyday life. it is those tiny things that run your world.
Then I think you never talk to an elderly or you better try not to la. Cuz you have zero technique to do so!
Once again, need any suggestions for taking communication courses?
發表於 2008-1-4 23:47
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as i said before, this is a problem dealing with generation gap: 思想& 文化，the way our elders were bought up. 
both me & my hubby agree that if we have a child, WE will not let my lai-lai help to take care of it because we understand her way of living. it's not the way we want our child to be bought up, or acquire her 壞習慣。of course, we will let her play, carry it around help out on light duties. well, i don't want my baby to be fed junk food/eat out everyday, day-cared in a very dirty environment (my lai-lai's house is VERY dirty), and in a way, she is very sloppy & unsanitized. to you guys, it's disrespectful right? 家家有本難唸的經。at the same time 家家有本不同的經。even for me going to her house, i find it uncomfortable... sometimes i tell my own mom that i like my lai-lai, but i just can't stand the mess.... even when my mom heard it, she thinks it's way too dirty to tolerate. actually, although my lai-lai did raise my hubby, even my hubby can't stand some of her 壞習慣. 
she's just here to release her stress & frustration ok?