Yui

華美子,你既感受我明白,你已經做得很好.你算很體貼你的奶奶,其他人不明白,亦不用介懷.

不過網上太多判官,以為自己個套道理一定對一定work,你訴下苦都要聽訓,更不堪是那些泠嘲熱諷.完全欠缺體恤心,很惡頂.

那些老掉牙的敬老大道理邊個吾識講,但當事情發生在自己身上的時候,又有幾多人可以甘理智? 除非無感覺無情緒啦.

繼續忍啦,盡量念你奶奶好的一面,盡好本分做個好媽媽都算考順她老人家啦.

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-5 11:39 發表
家家有本難唸的經，我講左幾次我無出過半句聲駁佢，只係想係度訴下苦，而且岩岩過左坐月期同埋叫做攪得掂產後抑鬱，好多人好似睇唔到咁係咁插我。

訢苦都比人鬧，我都無咩野好講。

我奶奶唔係七老八十，佢岩岩今年先退休。煮野 ...

Ultraman

原帖由 Yui 於 2008-1-5 13:28 發表
Ultraman,你讀過甚麼溝通技巧課程阿? 如果有,我懷疑你被騙了.

如果你跟本沒有讀過,我覺得你很需要.

It's Lik who has problem communicating with elderly, not me. That's why I suggested him to take some courses if needed.
And now, maybe you need to take some courses for understanding what others said too. Haha...

celeron_266

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-5 12:35 發表
my lai-lai is very very 恨抱孫   both me & my hubby agree that if we have a child, WE will not let my lai-lai help to take care of it because we understand her way of living.

to both alcoholic and 華美子

just wondering...if you dont want to/are not going to let your lai-lais to take care of the kids....will you let your mothers (i mean the wives' mothers) to take care of him/her?

[ 本帖最後由 celeron_266 於 2008-1-5 17:15 編輯 ]

快樂牛郎

tell her to xxxx  o f f

( edited.... no swear words allowed )

[ 本帖最後由 nikonian 於 2008-1-6 14:03 編輯 ]

princessmocha

華美子,
if you already tried your best to communicate w/ your 99 but she still does not listen , then it's ok cuz you can't change her mind.As long as, 你做好自己本份就得.
I think it is better for husband to do all the talking when something she did that makes you and husband feel uncomfortable. I think that no matter what 99 will think her daughter in law is an "outsider". Sometime the 99 will be mad about what her daughter in law says to her but she won't be mad if the same thing is from her own children mouths.

btw you bb so cute :>

[ 本帖最後由 princessmocha 於 2008-1-5 17:42 編輯 ]

Ultraman

華美子, I understand your situation and feel mercy for you, and actually I feel mercy for your husband, your mother-in-law and your father-in-law too, cuz it seems like nobody is really happy when the 4 of you staying altogether. Once again, I didn't judge you are right or wrong. If you just want to vent out, it's totally fine la. But if you want to seek for possible solutions, that's why many of us have different suggestions. Some of us only want to comfort you, some of us seem not understand you...  but my personal pov, just to comfort you won't get the case any better! I am a person who doesn't like any problem "unsettled". What I mean "settled" is, either the problem get solved, or the problem still exists but I found an alternative way to get myself compromised and so every time I face the same old problem I won't get myself angry or unhappy lor. While I was thinking to give you some constructive suggestions, I might upset you at the same time. Just wanna let you know, I didn't mean it, OK?! Anyways, all the best to your family relationship la!

yayaya

無限量支持華美子

不過話時話，呢d野又未算到咩傢庭悲劇，妳生左bb而且傢庭又齊齊整整還有lailai專門過來看妳，隻繫d相處間既小問題姐，咪當鍛煉耐力既時候咯。

Alcoholic

celeron:
i won't let my mom take care of the baby... not because i don't trust her or don't like my mom's habbits. it's because i don't want my own mom to 辛苦either. in my family, i'm the eldest, i have a bro 3 years younger, & a sister 8 years younger than me. right now, my sister isn't even done high school yet. 如果我dun件出來，又推比我媽咪幫手take care, then she will never 甩身。

being a mom & planning to be a mom is not easy. of course, even if i have a child, i want my own life, i want to continue working. but if you really want to dedicate to your family, that's not possible. if you have a child & needs other people (such as elders) to help take care of it during the first 5 years, than i think you shouldn't be considering to have one.

alot of times getting along with other people has no real solution. the only way is to compromise. 有D人，係唔識做架喇，咪算囉。自己就下人，安撫下自己囉~ 唔辦法。。。要顧住家庭關係~ 哈哈哈哈。。。女人唔易做

celeron_266

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-5 19:18 發表
celeron:
i won't let my mom take care of the baby... not because i don't trust her or don't like my mom's habbits. it's because i don't want my own mom to 辛苦either.

so if your mom is available and you have the need...will you let her to take care of your kid?

[ 本帖最後由 celeron_266 於 2008-1-5 20:34 編輯 ]