Length of years does not mean you can be with that person forever.
Sometimes when I think back, I feel weird that I have to let him go after 4 years relationship. It's like that person right beside you everyday, so close to each other like family.... it's unbelievable that you have to let him/her go...... It is hard to imagine that person is going to be disappear in your life forever. and you two are going to be stranger from now on; or worst enemy. Yet, does that mean we have to drag person forever? I doubt it.
It is so hard to say good bye to that person. No matter how you end it, it is going to hurt. No matter how you end it, you are the person to be blame at from everybody. Then, I ask myself, do I want someone to drag me when he does not love me anymore? I ask myself, do I want someone to do the routine things just because of responsibility? I guess not. Do I want to tell him I want to divorce after all my kids grow up? I guess not. So it's about time to let go.....
Really. I think we have to be grateful that person did not want to drag you at all.
Really. I think we should be grateful that person at least gave you some good memories; even thought it becomes a painful memories at the end because t hose were very sweet moment.
This is what I told myself in the past when I gone through the painful cycle. I, believe deeply every single word "he" said to me. I, believe deeply every promises he made to me. Just somewhere in the journey, he/I have changed, that's why he can't keep the promises.
BUT. As long as that moment, when he told me he loves me, he means every single word with all his heart. As long as that moment, when he hugged me as hard as he could, and I mean the whole world to him.
Even though he does not feel the same toward me. It's ok because those "real feeling" are enough for me.
Having someone feel that way toward me in my life. Having someone love me dearly in my life. I have no regret even I cannot hold on to him forever.
The best is yet to come, isn't it?
Perhaps, he is the one who god send him to me to realize what it taste like to be loved and to love; so that when the one finally arrive in my life, I know how to cherish him.
If you think I'm BSing... go ahead but........this is the theory I believe deeply and help me survive all these years.
Blaming the one who dump you after all these years would not help at all. Asking yourself how to get him back does not hep either. Ask yourself what did you learn from this relationship is the best solution.
the hardest to accept is the moment that finally happens..if most of the gf think the same way as u do utopia it will make a lot lives a lot easier, won't it b great if someone can invent a way to break up without any hard feelings
It takes me so many years to develop this theory to comfort myself.
You can imagine how much pain I have suffered from the past relationship.
Yet, understanding these theories is one thing. It still hurts a lot when it comes to the end.
I still cannot imagine one day I will lose caveman; however, I only know thing is........ as long as the one I love has a better life after he is gone, I'm happy. I know I sound crazy but that's how I felt in the past. It hurt soooo bad.........when someone I love asked me did he sound stupid when he decided to move to the town for my best friend and she had a bf that time........ and my heart ached and told him as long as he thinks she worthed it and she is the one, go ahead........
1. Enjoy the relationship while it lasts and try to mentain the relationship.
2. If it has to end, just let it go. There is always better person for me.
I know it sounds easy but in reality it is so hard to let go.
While my wife was still oversea, there was a difficult time my wife (my gf) thought of leaving me because she did not feel safe for us never met and being together. I hold on and did not let go. I felt very hurt to hear all the things she had been saying but tried to not let go. Fortunately, my wife changed her mind after few weeks. We met each other, got married and both are here happily now.
發表於 2007-12-5 16:40
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