Letting go

SmellyTofu

Just want to know when people think it's time to let go of all the years of together-ness and what really motivates someone to really hurt someone after all those years?

Alcoholic

when you know the relationship won't move forward anymore
and
when you cannot hurt the other person more anymore

raima

when you said "motivates someone to really hurt someone", i think this person must be really fed up with the other half and probably fed up about the relationship too. and s/he can care less of what the other wants/thinks, and just want to get out. so this kind of 'letting go' is like relief for that person.

notgoddy

If the girl doesn't love you, she really doesn't give a pooh if you died.
You just become an annoying beggar off the streets to her... so cold : (
But there isn't really much that can be done about it if the love is gone.

If it is after a long time, it probably means she was hoping you would change in some way, but it is not happening.

When the love is gone, you let go.

AmericanBeauty

I think the following song sums up the answer...

Nothing Last Forever
Maroon 5
Songwriter: Adam LEVINE
( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQ2oe8SgUS8&feature=related )

It is so easy to see
Dysfunction between you and me
We must free up these tired souls
Before the sadness gets us both

I tried and tried to let you know
I love you but I'm letting go
It may not last but I don't know
Just don't know

If you don't know then you can't care
And I show up but you're not there
But I'm waiting and you want to
Still afraid that I will desert you

Everyday with every word whispered
We get more far away
The distance between us makes it so hard to stay
But nothing last forever, but be honest, babe
It hurts but it may be the only way

A web that's warm with memories
Can heal us temporarily
The misbehaving all it makes
The ditch between us so damn deep

Built a wall around my heart
Never let it fall apart
Strangely I wish secretly
It won't fall down wile I'm asleep

If you don't know then you can't care
And I show up but you're not there
But I'm waiting and you want to
Still afraid that I will desert you

Everyday with every word whispered
We get more far away
The distance between us makes it so hard to stay
But nothing last forever, but be honest, babe
It hurts but it may be the only way

But we have not hit the ground
Doesn't mean we're not still falling
I want so bad to pick you up
But you're still too reluctant to accept my help

What a shame
I hope you find somewhere
To place the blame
But until then the fact remains

Everyday with every word whispered
We get more far away
The distance between us makes it so hard to stay
But nothing last forever but be honest, babe
It hurts but it may be the only way

Everyday with every word whispered
We get more far away
The distance between us makes it so hard to stay
But nothing last forever, but be honest, babe
It hurts but it may be the only way

utopia

When u cannot see him/her in the future but you still dragging that person, that's what the damage came from. Would you rather to be with someone who doesn't love you anymore but still stay with you just because of all these years? Is divorces really the best option?

I found that letting him/her go, and let him/her find someone better is the best way. Yes, he/she will hurt deeply after all these years but that's better than they grow older and not as attractive anymore. And you ask he/she find someone else. Isn't it?

I used to think, the one who said break up doesn't hurt as much. I used to blame the one who dumped me because he cannot keep the promise. But.... I finally understand what someone told me long .........time ago. The one who let go is not as easy as what you think . It is so hard to say goodbye to someone who are so close to you for man years. It's like saying goodbye to your family member forever;yet, you still have to stab into his heart because you know dragging is gonna hurt him more. You have to bear the betrayal sin forever but as long as you know what you are doing is right, you have to move on. He might not hate you forever but at least he deserve a chance to be re-born not dragging by you, isn't it?

I'm grateful to those who let me go in the past. Yes, those memories hurt me so, and some memories created a nightmare to me for years. But....... if they didn't let me go in the past and drag me for years...... I can't find my caveman

kisstherain

When the feeling is gone, its gone. Very cruel, very cold.!
Agree with raima it's a relief for the person who decided to call it a quit!

news

agree with utopia...i'm abt to thinking abt letting go my almost 6 yrs gf...dunno wht i can say without hurting her

sko

aiyaa.. almost 6 years? :S

news

yeah...my heart moves somewhere but its really  really tough